Staying in a hotel when visiting friends

greenorange

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

It's the explanation that's important - otherwise some people will take it personally.

That's why I make sure they do know that it's me with the need for space and not that I don't think there home or company is good enough.

The trip I'm taking next week, I stayed at theirs last time (they rent a room in a large house with many others). We shared a double bed and they kicked me and fidgeted all night. There's hardly any space on the floor in their room to put up an air-bed.

I'm only going for 1 night next week, and we'll be out in the town for most of the night, but have still booked a hotel for the night. I'll meet up with them the next day to nurse a hangover over breakfast.

Maybe as it's a night I should have just crashed at theirs?

peachyprice

I also think it's a bit different for women. I would be a but miffed if said friend were coming for a night out but her staying in a hotel meant leaving me to go home by myself late at night.

Torry_Quine

balletshoes wrote: »

I have to say I can't imagine taking any offence if someone - family or friend - preferred, for whatever reason, to stay in a hotel rather than in my home. There could be all sorts of reasons for it, and especially in stressful situations where you might be popping in and out to hospital etc, it would be a lot easier to catch your breath/have your space/quiet time in a hotel room.

They didn't even give me the courtesy of telling me after I offered the room. Surely not having to get up for a set time for breakfast and having a room where they could be totally relaxed with their own key.

balletshoes

greenorange wrote: »

The trip I'm taking next week, I stayed at theirs last time (they rent a room in a large house with many others). We shared a double bed and they kicked me and fidgeted all night. There's hardly any space on the floor in their room to put up an air-bed.

I'm only going for 1 night next week, and we'll be out in the town for most of the night, but have still booked a hotel for the night. I'll meet up with them the next day to nurse a hangover over breakfast.

Maybe as it's a night I should have just crashed at theirs?

no, i think in those circs, its fine for you to get a hotel - you couldn't sleep last time.

balletshoes

Torry_Quine wrote: »

They didn't even give me the courtesy of telling me after I offered the room. Surely not having to get up for a set time for breakfast and having a room where they could be totally relaxed with their own key.

What did you say? Did they give any indication they'd take you up on the offer of your spare room?
When I'm at a hotel in this country, I don't care what time breakfast is, if I'm awake in time I'll go for it, if not I won't bother. And unless I'm checking out, I have my hotel room key with me?

lika_86

I'd find it a bit weird if I was going out with my mates for the night (we live around the country) and they'd travelled for the night out but yet didn't stay. Part of the night out is all getting ready together, having a catch up and a few pre-drinks, then the night out, then all getting a taxi home together, having a bit of a wind down and all waking up in the morning together for a post-night out hungover breakfast/brunch.

Then again, I'm now (that I'm not a student) not afraid to say that I'm knackered after a long week at work and so need to go to bed (even if I'm sharing a bed with one of my friends).

A few days would be different but for a night out I think I'd be a bit offended and wonder why my friends didn't feel comfortable staying with me and think it was a deficiency in me as a host.

Humphrey10

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I wouldn't be offended if a friend preferred to stay in a hotel but would welcome an explanation!

I don't like people seeing me less than fully dressed (unless they are closely related or they have already seen everything!), and I am not going to want to get dressed if I get up in the night to go to the loo, so unless people have an en-suite room available, I'm going to a hotel.
Also I know I snore, so I worry about keeping others awake.
And I love staying at hotels, so I'll take any excuse to do so!

lika_86

greenorange wrote: »

The trip I'm taking next week, I stayed at theirs last time (they rent a room in a large house with many others). We shared a double bed and they kicked me and fidgeted all night. There's hardly any space on the floor in their room to put up an air-bed.

I'm only going for 1 night next week, and we'll be out in the town for most of the night, but have still booked a hotel for the night. I'll meet up with them the next day to nurse a hangover over breakfast.

Maybe as it's a night I should have just crashed at theirs?

You're 24, can you really not go one night with less sleep than you might like?! Have a nap the next day and suck it up in order to not offend your friend.

Turtle

Am I the only one who doesn't want people to stay? We have a couple of friends who stay once a year for one night, which we offer and I'm happy to have them. But we both heave a big sigh of relief we can get back to normal when they've gone home.

Oh and just to add I don't like staying at other people's houses either. I find it awkward.

poet123

I would always prefer a hotel unless it was very close family, and even then a couple of night max.