Woulld you expect ex partner to have a school uniform?

meer53

FatVonD wrote: »

I totally agree with this. I think the reason I get on okay with my ex is because there are no residual feelings on either side. I would have thought that since the OP is in a new relationship and has another child that she might have reached that point too.

Unfortunately, some people never get to that stage. I get on with my ex, he comes for tea occasionally and he always comes on Christmas Day for lunch.

I don't particularly want him here, but my daughter likes him to come so i relent, for her sake. He has 2 small boys with his ex GF and they share them on Christmas Day so he would be on his own for half the day, my daughter feels sorry for him so he comes here once they've gone with his ex.

It makes life much easier if you can get on and not sweat the small stuff. Like school uniforms and who has what and where

**Patty**

iammumtoone wrote: »

On the other hand I was told by a solicitor that my ex could do whatever he liked with my son (as long as it was legal!) in the time he had him, I have no say in the matter if he wants to do anything with him that I would consider unsuitable for him. So it does seem that NRP, can on one hand, do whatever they please, but on the other don't actually hold any responsibility for the day to day care of the child?

Don't get me wrong I would rather be a PWC for all the money in the world, I get to set more of my son than the NRP and I wouldn't want it any other way.

Sorry, i don't think i made myself clear. At that time, my husband was the resident parent/ PWC. His son was living with us....it was the mother that had *access*.

Just thought i'd clear that up

iammumtoone

**Patty** wrote: »

Sorry, i don't think i made myself clear. At that time, my husband was the resident parent/ PWC. His son was living with us....it was the mother that had *access*.

Just thought i'd clear that up

Yes sorry I did understand that part, just its the other way around with me, hence why my post reads as it does. It does get confusing which is why its probably best to stick with the terms WPC and NRP.

springdreams

peachyprice wrote: »

You really still don't get it do you.

It doesn't matter whether or not your ex buys a uniform, they're still all going to end up at yours, they're still going to have to be transported, one way or another, even if it is on a Thursday night, from your house to his and unless you're going to send dirty uniform to your ex on a Thursday/Friday/Sunday you're still going to end up washing them regardless of who bought them.

Hell, he could buy a new uniform every week, they would STILL all end up at yours.

I may be missing something, but I disagree with this.

Son goes to Dad on Thursday for tea. Son is wearing uniform. Son goes home in same uniform.

Son goes to Dad on Friday wearing a uniform. Son changes out of uniform and leaves the worn one at Dad's and wears the clean one Dad has in the cupboard to school on Monday morning. During the week Dad washes and irons the dirty uniform that son left behind, and puts it in the cupboard to be exchanged for the dirty one again over the weekend.

So there is always a clean uniform at Dad's, and Dad does get to wash and iron a uniform.

balletshoes

springdreams wrote: »

I may be missing something, but I disagree with this.

Son goes to Dad on Thursday for tea. Son is wearing uniform. Son goes home in same uniform.

Son goes to Dad on Friday wearing a uniform. Son changes out of uniform and leaves the worn one at Dad's and wears the clean one Dad has in the cupboard to school on Monday morning. During the week Dad washes and irons the dirty uniform that son left behind, and puts it in the cupboard to be exchanged for the dirty one again over the weekend.

So there is always a clean uniform at Dad's, and Dad does get to wash and iron a uniform.

yeah - but son doesn't go to Dad's on a Friday in his uniform, he wants to go home and get changed first. And he doesn't want to cart a uniform with him to his Dads, along with all the other stuff he takes with him for the weekend.

Spendless

springdreams wrote: »

I may be missing something, but I disagree with this.

Son goes to Dad on Thursday for tea. Son is wearing uniform. Son goes home in same uniform.

Son goes to Dad on Friday wearing a uniform. Son changes out of uniform and leaves the worn one at Dad's and wears the clean one Dad has in the cupboard to school on Monday morning. During the week Dad washes and irons the dirty uniform that son left behind, and puts it in the cupboard to be exchanged for the dirty one again over the weekend.

So there is always a clean uniform at Dad's, and Dad does get to wash and iron a uniform.

You ARE missing something. Son DOESN'T go to Dad's on Fridays wearing a uniform. He finishes school on Fridays and goes back to his Mums first, where he changes into everyday clothes. He then puts a clean uniform in a bag and travels to Dads house, first going to his Grandparents. Mum has said she is not providing the clean uniform (cos she bought it) for him to take for the weekend so he has one ready for Mon morning, but UNLESS he travels to his Dads in a uniform or takes one with him then there is no uniform for him to put on on a Mon morning without returning home first. I detailed the logistics in an earlier post, victory quoted it a few posts above this.

This has been pointed out to the OP time and time again, other than the first time Ex buys uniform they all end up back at her house because son doesn't travel in one to his Dads and he returns to Mums house on Mondays after wearing it.

springdreams

balletshoes wrote: »

yeah - but son doesn't go to Dad's on a Friday in his uniform, he wants to go home and get changed first. And he doesn't want to cart a uniform with him to his Dads, along with all the other stuff he takes with him for the weekend.

Ah I see ...

Well if Dad has now taken to fetching the son from his mum on Friday, the issue of loads to cart around is resolved for the son

Spendless

springdreams wrote: »

Ah I see ...

Well if Dad has now taken to fetching the son from his mum on Friday, the issue of loads to cart around is resolved for the son

No cos the OP is now not happy that ex has asked for one of 'her' uniforms to take for son to wear on Monday mornings.

peachyprice

springdreams wrote: »

I may be missing something, but I disagree with this.

Son goes to Dad on Thursday for tea. Son is wearing uniform. Son goes home in same uniform.

Son goes to Dad on Friday wearing a uniform. Son changes out of uniform and leaves the worn one at Dad's and wears the clean one Dad has in the cupboard to school on Monday morning. During the week Dad washes and irons the dirty uniform that son left behind, and puts it in the cupboard to be exchanged for the dirty one again over the weekend.

So there is always a clean uniform at Dad's, and Dad does get to wash and iron a uniform.

Except son is changing out of his school uniform before he goes to dads

balletshoes

springdreams wrote: »

Ah I see ...

Well if Dad has now taken to fetching the son from his mum on Friday, the issue of loads to cart around is resolved for the son

you'd think .