Smoking guest - WWYD?

Fosterdog

He wouldn't have been a guest in my house any longer if that's his attitude.

ciderwithrosie_2

My OH doesn't even smoke in our house. He just goes outside and stands on the decking, if it's raining he stands under the porch!

These days, smokers are well aware of the
anti-social/health views of others and usually respect that. If said guest went in a pub and lit up he'd be shown the door so why act any differently in someone's home... how rude!

Was he one of the ones milling about outside until it started raining?

Annisele

If it had been my house, I'd have done my best to kick him out there and then.

I wouldn't have made any attempt to physically remove him, and I wouldn't have bothered the police for such a trivial matter. But I would have (verbally) made very clear that I expected him to leave immediately, and that I considered he was trespassing from the moment he refused to put out the cigarette.

If I'd been a guest, I think I would have just stood there and carefully examined my shoes...and remembered the guy's name, so that I never invited him to anything I was arranging.

lostinrates

I'm reasonably relaxed about smoking. As a non smoker, with rooms that can be aired I am prepared to let a smoker smoke in the house knowing I can open the window, clean the sofas and the curtains if need be. But not if I have lots of other guests and its poor weather, they might be offered another room, or they might be asked to smoke outside. Because otherwise the rest of my guests are being asked to passive smoke too, and while I am relaxed they might not be.

If someone made my guests feel uncomfortable with an outburst like that when asked to smoke outside they would be asked to leave my home for similar reasons. It would make my guests I'll at ease, not what I want when they are in my home.

fashionlover10

I wouldn't have let him stay long enough to finish his little speech. I can't believe anyone would just light up a cigarette without even asking if it was ok.

We have a few friends who smoke and they don't even bother to ask if it's ok to smoke inside, they automatically go outside. Actually I don't even think any of our smoking friends smoke inside their own homes so they certainly wouldn't in anyone else's.

j.e.j.

If I invite someone, knowing that they smoke, I put out an ashtray for them! They are my guest. I'd rather a smoker than a heavy drinker, or a shouty person, or many other types of people I can think of!

jools27_2

I am a smoker, but would never contemplate smoking in the home of a non smoker, even if they told me it was ok and handed me an ashtray. When I was young I detested the smell of my parents smoke in the house, and wouldn't inflict that on my non smoking friends and relatives!

sulkisu

I was surprised that they didn't ask him to leave as well, but as I said, I think that they were just caught off guard. I thought I had misheard at first. It will be interesting to hear the what the husband has to say about it at work tomorrow.

74jax

sulkisu wrote: »

He wasn't rude.

I think he was rude, very rude.

I would have asked him to leave.

No-one smokes in my house. My house, my rules.

I wouldn't say anything beforehand as I can't see the need, anyone I invite over knows I don't smoke and wouldn't have anyone smoke in the house.

I've had a couple of friends of friends ask if it's ok if they smoke in my house and I;ve just said sorry no. And they've gone outside.

The thought of coming downstairs in the morning to that rancid smell............:eek:

sulkisu

74jax wrote: »

I think he was rude, very rude.

I would have asked him to leave.

No-one smokes in my house. My house, my rules.

I wouldn't say anything beforehand as I can't see the need, anyone I invite over knows I don't smoke and wouldn't have anyone smoke in the house.

I've had a couple of friends of friends ask if it's ok if they smoke in my house and I;ve just said sorry no. And they've gone outside.

The thought of coming downstairs in the morning to that rancid smell............:eek:

Sorry, when I said that he wasn't rude, I meant that he didn't say it in a 'rude' or shouty way. He just stated it in a very matter of fact, calm way.