Smoking guest - WWYD?

globetraveller

you said he wasn't rude but what he did was incredibly bad mannered. He was being allowed to smoke in the porch, which is still indoors. He will have looked like an ar.....e in front of the rest of the guests and the couple, if they have any sense, will not invite him back. Perhaps he was drunk and he may apologise yet.

marisco_2

It never ceases to amaze me how some people expect the world to revolve around them. What an arrogant fool that man made himself look. I have never met a smoker who didn't ask their host first, if it was okay to light up in their home before doing so. For this guest to just assume it was okay was presumptuous. To then point blank refuse to put the cigarette out and go against the wishes of the homeowners was impertinent and rude. If he had done that in my home he would have been told politely but firmly to leave immediately. I cannot bare people who are old enough to know better yet possess no manners.

bossymoo

I don't think I know anyone who would dream of lighting up indoors these days! But, agree with all the others - he would have been told to leave. After I'd removed the cigarette from his fingers and doused it under the tap.

What was he planning to do with the ash? Presumably there were no ashtrays around? And when he'd finished? Grind it out under his shoe on your new carpet?

Sounds like someone wanted a row that day...

BitterAndTwisted

To argue back and embarrass their hosts in front of the other guests like that is beyond the ruddy Pale!

I can understand quite well how he wasn't asked to leave with other guests there but the idiot most certainly wouldn't be invited back under any circumstances whatsoever.

claire16c

Just unbelievable.

My BIL is a smoker but he wouldn't dare light up in my house. He knows he's not allowed in my garden either so he walks into the close & does it.

The bedroom he stays in still has to be aired out after he leaves, god knows how bad it would be if I let him smoke in or near the house!

trolleyrun

What a rude and arrogant man! I'm a smoker and I only smoke by the back door, unless I have guests who smoke (very rarely), in which case I will allow smoking in the lounge. I would never even contemplate smoking in someone's house - unless the host sparks up first. If I visit somebody and smoke outdoors, I always ask if the host would like me to put the end anywhere in particular as I wouldn't want to leave any residue.

In this day and age it is completely unacceptable to light up indoors without asking permission. Simple as that.

SailorSam

Your colleague can save a little on Christmas cards now, that's one off the list. He'd never get an invite again.

sulkisu

He didn't look drunk and from what I could see, he used a paper cup as an ashtray.

scooby088

Would anyone object to an electronic cigarette then?

olgadapolga

Clearly he has no manners.

If he'd been in my house he'd have been out before he'd taken his second drag on his cigarette. There is no way he would have spoken to me like that and continued smoking his cigarette.

People who visit my house know that I do not smoke and that I do not allow smoking in my home. They go outside. It's a disgusting, smelly, unhealthy and unsociable habit.