Is OH being 'greedy'?

lostinrates

zaksmum wrote: »

Meritaten did say her O/P knows that half the meal she cooks is for her the next day, so really it is selfish of him to just scoff the vast majority of it himself and she can just do without.

Not a very nice attitude to have towards the woman you are supposed to love and care for.

I cook for two men and me, I eat funnily anyway but I won't confuse it here with that irrelevancy , but I don't start My 'calculation' of my needs of a portion on a third of what I cook being mine, but rather under a third. Regardless of gender equality the sad fact is the food doesn't care and I simply require less fuel and nutrients on a day to day basis if doing the same sort of ' work' as the men. When I cooked for DH and I and I was eating more 'normally' broadly speaking I found I might take the smallest chicken breast rather than a portion of one, but not half a 'two person pie'. Today we ate soup, and I had a smaller bowl then they did. I would have liked their big bowls.

ska_lover

meritaten wrote: »

is oh greedy or am I being unreasonable?
OH knows that I don't eat heavy meals after 6.00pm. he loves a 'substantial' supper at about 8.00pm, so normally I cook for him then leave mine til the next day and warm it up for my lunch.
I have noticed that lately he will get himself 'seconds' leaving either a very small portion or nothing!
I got really peed off with him tonight - he came in and not only got a cooked chicken out the fridge to munch on, while his supper was cooking - I had to remind him that half was for our lunch tomorrow- he chucked the leg and wing bones in the recycling bin (I keep them for stock - as he very well knows), twenty mins later I dished up his and GDs supper (chicken curry made with half the roast chick for tomorrows lunch). which was about half the saucepan of curry. he had a really generous helping.
This is what really peed me off - he went and got seconds and left about a ladle full for me! hardly worth keeping as it came about half inch up a cereal bowl.
last night he had half a beef and ale pie - and he ate the rest for a snack today! I was going to have some of it for my lunch!
he just takes stuff - he doesn't ask if I need it or want it - he is getting really selfish lately and I don't like it.

Does your OH not pay for (at least) his fair share of the shopping? This post comes across that he does not - and he has to ask your 'permission' before eating.

If not, get him to start paying up. If he does, stop acting like his mother, he doesn't need to ask your permission if he goes to work and pays his fare share, you are his wife, not his mother....The ideal solution would be to just start buying more, you clearly need to, as you do not have enough food, it is really not a big deal

Your husband wants you to be his wife, not his mother. The worst thing a woman can do to her man is act like his mother over petty things like this, it's a massive turn off.

paulineb_2

Start buying yellow stickered bread and get him to eat toast till its coming out of his ears.

Dare I ask what age your OP is? I assume hes possibly in his 50s

Im not so sure after all these years of being waited on hand and foot that he'll change now but you could try

There must be some positives that keep you together, chicken scoffing aside what are they?

Because I bet its easy to get bogged down in the he doesn't do this well and he doesn't do that well and he cheeses me off

Down tools for a day and get him to cook his own dinner, he'll soon learn the value of leftovers.

Or toast.

Top_Girl

Not got time for 8 pages so not sure if anyone's suggested this or not, but, in your shoes, I'd very noisily buy an airtight container that I was going to use for my dinner at work and decant what I wanted into it once the main meal was dished up, put the lid on and leave it on the side to cool.

Then there is no way he could eat too much of it by 'accident' and you'd know if there was any kind of conscious thought about it or if he genuinely doesn't realise he's doing it. Also, you'd have what you needed. I'm sure you have fruit, bread for toasting etc in for snacking if he is genuinely hungry after his tea.

poet123

Oh for goodness sake, I think you just want to argue. Serve up his meal and take your portion out of the pan and there will be no issue. Really, if this is the worst thing you have to deal with you are doing OK. Grow up.

Pixiechic

If my OH wants seconds, then he has seconds. He doesn't need to ask and he can eat what he wants when he wants. We have no weight issues so its not a problem.

If you're trying to lose weight, pie and chips isn't the best choice, whatever time of day you choose to eat it.

Life is too short to fall out over a slice of pie, try not to be the food police, it comes across to me as quite controlling.

Just have something else to eat, maybe something a bit healthier if your aim is weight loss.

maman

poet123 wrote: »

Oh for goodness sake, I think you just want to argue. Serve up his meal and take your portion out of the pan and there will be no issue. Really, if this is the worst thing you have to deal with you are doing OK. Grow up.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I remember years ago, when our girls were typically unaware teenagers, DH wrote names on the bananas in the fruit bowl with a felt pen 'cos he was fed up with there being none left for him. It raised a laugh and he only needed to do it once.;)

Tropez

Bloody hungry now.

lostinrates

Tropez wrote: »

Bloody hungry now.

DH read this over my shoulder and said ' yes, I am' went and made himself some bread and cheese . Then asked why I don't make pie more often.....I read allowed the bits about weight and pie and weight. He's not overweight, but does eat a lot.

Treevo

Isn't the OP the one who attacked her husband because he wouldn't let her watch something on TV? I'm sure I remember reading that.

It seems to me as if the OP just wants an excuse for an argument. It can hardly be said that she's anonymously ranting when half her family seem to post here!