Enjoying the Sunshine whilst Saving for the Rainy Day

Skint_but_Optimistic

well, lesson learnt eh? I like a bit panic as well mind. It keeps you young.

debtfreewannabe321

This morning I feel sick. Sick to my stomach with worry & anxiety. I actually could feel the room closing in on me this morning and nearly had a panic attack. Really don't want those to return . All because I had another run in with the neighbour. This time she was caught (by me) shouting at my DD about feeding her dog. My daughter had a bookbag in one hand and a closed lunchbag in the other . We had a huge row, I totally lost it and started screaming and shouting and calling her crazy. Swore in front of the kids as she frustrated me so much and just generally probably made an idiot of myself but she is such a liar and making up totally random things all the time. Telling one of my kids off and shouting at them though is bang out of order and I will not tolerate this. She also threatened to feed my dog something (from the tone and grimace on her I am thinking it's not going to be cheese or meat as the dog would like ) I'm beyond fed up. DH has gone to our welfare this morning as no doubt she has about me threatening her this morning (I threatened to go and shut her door if she wasn't going to do it herself as she would not shut up!) DH is looking into a transfer again. This will mean disrupting DS1 in his GCSE's which is what I have been trying to avoid but for weeks now I have felt anxiety attacks coming on at the slightest thing and I'm not sure how much more I can take now. I feel bullied and like everything has been twisted around to make me out to be something i'm not.

Sorry for the rant. Needed it

debtfreewannabe321

Skint_but_Optimistic wrote: »

well, lesson learnt eh? I like a bit panic as well mind. It keeps you young.

:rotfl: and there was me thinking it had aged me :rotfl:.

I've checked banks this morning the DP$ do like to take their time don't they :cool:. Never mind if it comes in Feb it will probably be a good thing as I will have more than £11 in the bank and mean that I won't feel the need to spend it

Skint_but_Optimistic

Bless you. who does she think she is shouting at your daughter??

Blummin nut jobs. Have a sit and a cuppa.

JustAboutThere

No - I think was well and truly justified. Hope letting it out makes you feel just a touch better and, fingers crossed, welfare can sort something out. You shouldn't have to living with such stress. Home is meant to be your sanctuary - I bet you get a knot in your stomach whenever you approach wondering if 'madam' is home.

(((Hugs)))

please-let-me-be-lucky

I don't blame you one bit for retaliating now she has involved your children. I'd go nuts if an adult attacked mine whether verbally or physically.

I hope you get things sorted. I know you wanted to avoid disrupting DS1 but a good student will get a good education anywhere. They need a sane Mum though and a happy home Xx

mummytogirls

OMG DFW what an absolute loon she is. Shouting at a flipping 5 (I think shes 5!) but any child what so ever. Who the hell does she think she is. I totally would have gone off on one aswell so dont blame you at all.
What did welfare say? xx

debtfreewannabe321

Thank you for all your replies, I really appreciate the support as I am actually questioning my sanity whenever I have a run in with her because her claims are just so absurd and aggressive. I've sat here today trying to pin point exactly what I do to make her so angry towards me. We've done nothing but show them kindness since they moved in, inviting them to bbq's, the kids parties, looking after her son when she was heavily pregnant, showing her where all the local facilities are, and lending an ear when she was down. I've come to the conclusion that I haven't done anything wrong, she was looking for an outlet and has chosen me by the looks of it (probably as we see each other every day ). My welfare office is totally shocked at her shouting at my DD (yes she is 5) and said she would have done the same thing. As DH was leaving they were arriving to complain about me. I'm glad we got our side in first tbh.

We've got to draw up some sort of contract now to say we won't speak to one another and I assume to say we won't feed their dog imaginary food :wall: . Pathetic, but this is what it all comes down to!

Oh and as a side note DH asked if our welfare had heard anything back from the r$pca as they were following up the complaints, and guess what!!!!! The lady who was rude to me over email who seemingly knew the couple next door has been sacked for misconduct. What does this tell you?! I was obviously right all along and there were no home checks, nothing told to them about shelter, fences being put up and when I complained they had indeed forwarded all my emails to them next door! This latest outburst now has me wondering did the lady who was sacked get in contact with the neighbours as it seems every time they hear something they kick off. :think: Childish retaliation I think is all this boils down to sadly! Perhaps if they had looked after their dog in a proper manner I would never have had to do any of this!!!

grannyx2

Hugs honey, what an awful day. I would have lost it too if she involved the children, who the h3ll does she think she is. I feel for you, living with this situation and don't really know what to suggest to make it better. Hopefully you were right about her angling for a transfer and it comes through quickly as I wonder how much more you can take

Granny x

*Robin*

Sounds like you had a helluva day, DFw :grouphug:

Biggest positive I can see is that your DH was at home - must be very reassuring he's seen exactly how irrationally the woman next door is behaving - so can now support you much better.

Whether or not her outbursts are prompted by her bent ex-r$pca crony, she really does sound unbalanced.

Unless the 'no contact' agreement also includes some kind of psych assessment and help for this woman, am not sure I'd be happy relying on it to restrain her future behaviour.

You have a good case for asking to be moved - for your own health and peace of mind - as well as the safety of your children and pets.

Think you may also have the right to be kept informed about the r$pca investigation, given that your private mails were illegally shared.

..Hope tomorrow is a better day for you. :cool2: