Angry,upset and hurt regarding partners words tonight

heartbreak_star

Each to their own - I don't find incredibly slim men attractive - ex was very big built and current OH is lithe and muscly.

HBS x

New_and_Improved_Me

chubby is not nice....sorry ...harsh but true.....

Was chubby myself...ok ok..obese at one point and it isn’t nice....

carolan78

It might not be nice for you but I know both men and women that prefer a larger partner. Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder and people need to stop judging people and things in general using their own preferences as a yard stick.

DKLS

New_and_Improved_Me wrote: »

If there were two twins…one a slim size 8-10 and one a fat size 18-20…..which would you date…..Be honest…..

All depends, I personally do find slim and trim ladies attractive, however my best mate would be repulsed by them as he fancies ladies who are size 16 and over.

lostinrates

New_and_Improved_Me wrote: »

If there were two twins…one a slim size 8-10 and one a fat size 18-20…..which would you date…..Be honest…..

Dunno, which one do I get on with best? Which one am I most sexually compatible with? Whose pheromones just seem to click with mine? Which one do I most share values with?


Sexual attraction and lust are important, but longterm relationships cannot survive on only sexual attraction usually and 'twins' doesn't describe much about personality of the individuals!

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

New_and_Improved_Me wrote: »

The problem is -

If you fell in love with someone many many moons ago….

Since then the love is not as strong as it was, but the lust is still there…Then if he/she gains 5 stones then lust will disappear too.

Let be honest…..very VERY few people (Men/Women alike) will find a 15 stone person attractive…Its ALL about the looks…. J

Harsh but true…….

If there were two twins…one a slim size 8-10 and one a fat size 18-20…..which would you date…..Be honest…..

Lets turn this around a bit. Two men I know.

One was absolutely gorgeous in his twenties - big blue eyes, thick hair, muscular, strong chin and a lovely smile. Now he's 38 and has some grey in his still thick hair, a few crows' feet. Kinda gone from Tom Cruise in Legend to more of a Mel Gibson in his prime.

The other was skinny, long black goth hair in his twenties, brown eyes, very quiet and shy. Now he's 36, almost completely bald, got a few crows' feet. Not great at making eye contact because he's still quite shy.

Both are pretty much the same height.


The bald, shy guy makes me cry with laughter, is sweet, smart and funny. I can be myself totally with him. And he thinks it's great that i can fix his phone or computer, or any friends' household electricals.

The better looking one is immature, selfish and thick as two short planks. I always had to confirm to his expectations in dress, what he thought women should be like. There was very little worse than a smart woman in his eyes; being able to fix things, put up flatpack furniture or work with technical equipment was 'trying to be a man' to him.

The bald guy cleaned the bath after he used it for the first time at my house without even mentioning it, hung up the towels and changed the loo roll; the other one used to leave it coated in muck and filth and then moan that I hadn't gone straight in there with cleaning products as he walked out, leaving a mountain of wet towels, no loo roll and bristles everywhere.

Mr Handsome would pick on people who had acne, dismissed anyone musical but not famous as being a show off and probably gay and generally had to make himself feel big by knocking everybody else down. The other totally transforms when he's on stage, finds energy and aggression and power - but never, ever says anything mean or nasty about anyone and blushes when somebody tells him his set was fantastic. And finds the time to help other musicians anyway he can. Even his day job involves helping people.


I wouldn't have pretty boy back if you offered me a billion pounds.

aileth

Chubby isn't attractive? What about all those blokes that pay morbidly obese women hundreds, if not thousands, of pounds to be with them because they find them a huge turn-on?

Open your mind a bit. Everyone likes different body types, there is no generic one size fits all. The world would be an extremely dull place if everyone liked the same thing.

New_and_Improved_Me

ok...so i take you point ' Horses for courses'...everyone is different….and thank god for that….

However, the ‘Majority’ of normal males would always pick the slim attractive female over the fat one…..

That’s not to say were all normal…..lol

I’m waiting for the knives to be taken out of kitchens at that comment….lol

xcarlyx

I actually have tears in my eyes when he said he doesn't love the physical side of you.. and i actually want to smack him (apologies).

I feel fat at the moment and I'm afraid to get on the scales because im bordering 15 stone.

Yet my other half doesn't say nasty things to me.

Your other half should realise how it can affect confidence

New_and_Improved_Me

xcarlyx wrote: »

I actually have tears in my eyes when he said he doesn't love the physical side of you.. and i actually want to smack him (apologies).

I feel fat at the moment and I'm afraid to get on the scales because im bordering 15 stone.

Yet my other half doesn't say nasty things to me.

Your other half should realise how it can affect confidence

your 'Other' half still loves you....i thik the problem OP has is that her other half maybe not....

Sounds like it was on the rocks before the wight issue and its come to breaking point now....