Honest advice please - relationship

CH27

busiscoming2 wrote: »

Just make sure he takes them or you deliver them to him in one go. Don't leave anything behind. You won't want him just popping back to collect things. If he has a key to your home, make sure it is returned.

Excellent advice.
Change the locks to be sure in case he copies the key.

rozmister

FBaby wrote: »

Another young colleague got really angry, told him that he was selfish etc.... which surprised us all as he is otherwise a very calm and quiet type of guy. He said later that he grew between divorced parents who argued all the time and he hated it, always wished he had at least a sibling to share it all with. He said that he promised himself that he would never have a child outside of a committed relationship and if an accident happen would expect the girl to have an abortion (we did explain to him that in that case it was up to him to make sure he didn't get a girl pregnant!).

He wants to buck up his ideas about contraception pretty fast because he may end up with a girl like me and he'd be stuffed. I use contraception myself as I don't want a child yet but I truly don't believe I could have an abortion outside of exceptional circumstances (partner who beat me's baby, severely disabled baby that couldn't survive). That's not because I am religious or I don't support abortions it's my personal choice based on my emotions and welfare and I'd laugh in the face of any bloke who felt happy to have sex with me but then thought he could force an abortion on me when I got pregnant. If he's that sure he should wrap it!

OP as I begun this thread I thought perhaps the two of you could work it out but what you say about him giving you an ultimatum makes me feel sure you shouldn't continue a relationship with this man. He is pressuring you in an already stressful situation, he's not considering you or your son's welfare, it sounds scary and it's emotional blackmail. This early on in a relationship, pregnant or not, that would be a red flag to me. I also think it's cold and possessive that he would happily have the baby terminated if he couldn't have you. That's not someone who desperately wants a child it's someone who desperately wants you even if the only way to have you is to trap you unfairly. Whether you keep the baby or not is your choice, only you know what's best for you.

I hope you manage to sort things out xx

econnin

Thank you everyone for your advice and support.

xx