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Stepson wants to live with us - can his mother stop him?

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  • CH27
    CH27 Posts: 5,531 Forumite
    red_devil wrote: »
    mothers make sacrifices when they have children, for a child to come along and say i prefer it at my dads byee is selfish to me.

    So you expect a miserable child to stay with his mother & be unhappy just to make her happy?
    Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.
  • red_devil
    red_devil Posts: 10,793 Forumite
    CH27 wrote: »
    So you expect a miserable child to stay with his mother & be unhappy just to make her happy?


    i give up, we dont know all the ins and outs anyway
    :footie:
  • Treevo
    Treevo Posts: 1,937 Forumite
    red_devil wrote: »
    mothers make sacrifices when they have children, for a child to come along and say i prefer it at my dads byee is selfish to me.

    Fathers don't?
  • Treevo
    Treevo Posts: 1,937 Forumite
    red_devil wrote: »
    i give up, we dont know all the ins and outs anyway

    We know the child is miserable and wants to live with his dad. The child is who matters.
  • red_devil
    red_devil Posts: 10,793 Forumite
    Treevo wrote: »
    Fathers don't?

    did the father leave the marriage?

    if so he is the one that split the home in the first place?
    :footie:
  • red_devil
    red_devil Posts: 10,793 Forumite
    :A
    Treevo wrote: »
    We know the child is miserable and wants to live with his dad. The child is who matters.

    yes whatever you say :T
    :footie:
  • Mojisola
    Mojisola Posts: 35,572 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10,000 Posts Name Dropper
    red_devil wrote: »
    did the father leave the marriage?

    if so he is the one that split the home in the first place?

    That doesn't matter as far as the child is concerned otherwise there's a lot of mothers out there who had affairs who wouldn't now have care of their children.
  • Treevo
    Treevo Posts: 1,937 Forumite
    red_devil wrote: »
    did the father leave the marriage?

    if so he is the one that split the home in the first place?

    We don't know that but it doesn't matter.
  • Treevo
    Treevo Posts: 1,937 Forumite
    red_devil wrote: »
    :A

    yes whatever you say :T

    Actually that's what the child says (via the OP).

    Unless you mean that the child isn't more important, and then I begin to wonder what kind of a mother you are.
  • peachyprice
    peachyprice Posts: 22,346 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10,000 Posts Name Dropper
    red_devil wrote: »
    did the father leave the marriage?

    if so he is the one that split the home in the first place?


    Or did the mother chuck him out because the was having it away with the postman?

    It's all irrelevant, parenting is a joint venture not something only a mother does best.

    Somebody sent me this the other day, sadly it's only too true.
    http://www.shrink4men.com/2011/05/17/does-your-wife-or-ex-wife-have-a-golden-uterus-complex-15-characteristics-of-the-golden-uterus/
    Accept your past without regret, handle your present with confidence and face your future without fear
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