Friend sold presents on eBay

catmiaow

aliasojo wrote: »

Imo, this comment is completely unnecessary to this thread and perhaps illustrates why your user name is so apt.

A gift is just that, a gift. It is not something that automatically comes with a certain amount of obligation or duty. If the person does not want to keep the gift for whatever reason then it is their right to do with it as they see fit.

There could be a number of reasons why your friend does not keep your gifts, none of us can give you insight on that.

Talk to her about it, in a calm and friendly way.

Note the word talk....not confront....and not using FB.

Read my comment as above I was explaining why she was taking the holiday. I don't feel it was unfair, I could have said a lot worse.

catmiaow

mrcol1000 wrote: »

Its a bit of shock but who hasn't sold unwanted presents on Ebay?

Either leave it and not buy her anything else or just give her vouchers. Or if you really can't leave it then confront her in a nice way and ask her if there is something wrong with the presents as you saw them for sale on Ebay and if she would prefer something else?

Really though like other people have said the presents are hers. Does she really collect them or does everyone think she does so she gets loads of them even though she doesn't like them? Maybe she needs the money? Maybe she is having a sort out? She obviously though doesn't want them and so you need to rethink what if anything to buy her.

Perhaps but like I said I would have appreciated her talking to me about it if that is the case but she did say she collected them, which would suggest she wants them.

PasturesNew

Just buy one, she'll know you know when she sees the name/address.... then unfriend her on Facebook and spend your time/money on somebody more worthy.

catmiaow

jacques_chirac wrote: »

Ever heard the phrase 'she's not that into you'? I'm sure your gifts are well intentioned, but you come across as a little obsessive and controlling. I would also question why you are checking her ebay sales?

(Just read further and realised you are a woman - from what you had said I thought you were a bit of a stalker who wanted to be her boyfriend!)

Er I'm not obsessive and controlling, thankfully you don't know me.
Oh and I definitely don't want anything other than friends, and I'm even questioning that.

I wasn't checking her ebay sales, I was looking on ebay for the items as I pre buy and also my brother collects them and noticed hers there.

catmiaow

poet123 wrote: »

I wondered that too.

Check out my above post

catmiaow

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I would be highly offended if a gift ended up on e-bay but as I never go on there I would only find out if someone told me.

I would never sell something given to me , presents are something special.

Exactly thank you. Like I said I only found out last week and by chance.

Ms_Chocaholic

How do you know the details of her ebay profile

Brighton_belle

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I would never sell something given to me , presents are something special.

Well not necessarily to the receiver - they can be a burden of guilt and obligation.
I can appreciate the loving intention behind a gift and sincerely thank them for that, but I no longer feel the need to keep something I find neither beautiful nor useful.
As an extreme example, I would find it unbearable to have to display cheap gaudy items I consider tasteless tat in my home or really something beautiful that just wasn't my taste.

OP It is actually very hard for people to tell others, "I don't like what you buy me."

And sometimes people have a light bulb moment with all their clutter and overnight can realise they no longer need to collect /hoard these things as part of their identity and want to let go of it all.

aliasojo

catmiaow wrote: »

Read my comment as above I was explaining why she was taking the holiday. I don't feel it was unfair, I could have said a lot worse.

B0llocks. You were just being catty. :rotfl:

You could just as easily have said she took a holiday to visit someone particular. No need for 'the death row' stuff or the 'never met him' stuff.

poet123

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Well not necessarily to the receiver - they can be a burden of guilt and obligation.
I can appreciate the loving intention behind a gift and sincerely thank them for that, but I no longer feel the need to keep something I find neither beautiful nor useful.
As an extreme example, I would find it unbearable to have to display cheap gaudy items I consider tasteless tat in my home or really something beautiful that just wasn't my taste.

OP It is actually very hard for people to tell others, "I don't like what you buy me."

And sometimes people have a light bulb moment with all their clutter and overnight can realise they no longer need to collect /hoard these things as part of their identity and want to let go of it all.

I was given a Lladro ornament by a friend as a birthday gift, I know how expensive they are but it is simply not to my taste. I do have it on display though:o but, really, I would rather not!!