is his behaviour inappropriate

misssounsure

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pinkshoes

Return the sarcasm with sexist jokes against men. He'll soon get the point!

This_Year

If it's annoying you now and he's not able to acknowledge that he's annoying you...

Funky_Bold_Ribena

It's not funny though so how is it a joke?

I have never been out with a sexist bloke; I spent 14 years in civil engineering and have heard it all and I have to say - it wears you down. Honestly, if a man is like this when you are dating, think what a struggle it is going to be trying to get him to lift a finger/respect your views if you live together or get married.

I'd ditch to be honest. Part of being in a relationship is respect and he obviously doesn't respect women in any way. Yawn.

comeandgo

I must agree I work in a mans world and I get so angry when sexist jokes are made, its not by work collegues as our bosses take any sort of sexist remarks very seriously but usually by husbands mates or acquantances. I usually try to think of a cutting remark back but sometimes fail. As it seems to be something that his father does and gets away with you have an upward struggle to get them to stop.

cod3

I've spoken to my boyfriend about all this and explained it makes me feel uncomfortable and that I dont like (the odd sexist joke isnt a problem for me it is just when it is constant!) My boyfriends view is that it is all just a joke and I should lighten up.

I'd chuck him.

Errata

the odd sexist joke isnt a problem for me

I have no idea how you could successfully complain to him about the number of jokes but be clearly ok with the content.

Mojisola

misssounsure wrote: »

He was then 'jokingly' patronising to my mum when she drove us home one day but stalled.. he said "there, there.... you can do it dear"

I've spoken to my boyfriend about all this and explained it makes me feel uncomfortable and that I dont like (the odd sexist joke isnt a problem for me it is just when it is constant!) My boyfriends view is that it is all just a joke and I should lighten up.

What does your Mum think of him?

If he knows it upsets you and still doesn't see any need to change his behaviour, he doesn't value your feelings very much.

If this is going to be a longterm relationship, you're going to have to listen to years of his "jokes". Can you cope with that?

Funky_Bold_Ribena

comeandgo wrote: »

I must agree I work in a mans world and I get so angry when sexist jokes are made, its not by work collegues as our bosses take any sort of sexist remarks very seriously but usually by husbands mates or acquantances. I usually try to think of a cutting remark back but sometimes fail. As it seems to be something that his father does and gets away with you have an upward struggle to get them to stop.

If they are really annoying you, every time they do it, take your notebook out, and write down each one and if they ask what you are doing, say that you have 'been advised to record every incident of sexism in the workplace'.

kitrat

I know it's not quite so comparable but it would be a bit like someone constantly making racist jokes, claiming it was just a joke and meant nothing. Or jokes about you being fat or something. But if it's constant, is it nothing? It's incredibly insulting and annoying anyway.

And I'd be furious if he made a 'joke' like that to my Mum. Honestly, have some respect!

misssounsure

Mojisola wrote: »

What does your Mum think of him?

If he knows it upsets you and still doesn't see any need to change his behaviour, he doesn't value your feelings very much.

If this is going to be a longterm relationship, you're going to have to listen to years of his "jokes". Can you cope with that?

My mum thought he was patronising with that comment. In general though she thinks hes a lovely guy but sees that he can be patronising!