What's going on in this man's head: round 2

victory

eschaton wrote: »

I bet the neighbours think of you as the village/town bike.

Another personal, pointless, hurtful, ignorant post, absolutely unnecesary.

paulineb_2

My neighbours wouldnt care if I were shagging a different person every night. I know some of them to say hi to on the stairs if we meet, I probably see a neighbour who happens to come out of their house at the same time as me once every few weeks.

Unless you are superglued at the hip to your neighbours, swapping jam recipes, chatting over the picket fence, sitting in neighbourhood watch meetings together I dont think people would give a monkeys what other people get up to behind closed doors.

Who knows, some of them could be swingers and go dogging every morning before breakfast and might think the OP is dull for seeing only one man???

I certainly dont give a hoot what my neighbours think of me.

tinkerbell73

I met a guy on POF dated for 9 weeks he wasn't long out of a long relationship -went on holiday together got on amazingly but he kept saying he wasn't ready for a relationship. I stupidly told him its ok we get on so well the rest would follow cause i really liked him . However after the most romantic holiday he said no he only wanted friends because he didn't want to use me. We talk now occasionally but i have since gone on to meet someone who is not straight out of a relationship who wants to be with me not because he has a gap in his life but because he wants me.

OP walk away I know its hard but this guy cant be on his own so you are the gap filler in his life on his terms - find someone who wants to be with you on equal terms - I know its hard have been there but there is better out there for you.

Birdie85

Any man who sent me texts about how he was crying over me would send me running for the hills I'm afraid. Anything like that is said to manipulate you and make you feel bad. Don't fall for it.

If you're happy just having a FWB agreement without the emotional attachment, carry on as is, but stop expecting it to turn into a relationship. There's not even a hope of you meeting a decent man whilst you continue down this path as you'll be emotionally closed off from any propective *real* boyfriends.

I suspect you're unable to detach your feelings from the situation so you ought to call it quits. With your holiday coming up, this is a perfect time. Spend the holiday concentrating on yourself and deciding what you're worth and what you deserve from a good man.

When/if you do break it off with him, do NOT be taken in by his crocodile tears. Just look at him as you would look at a toddler who's had his toy confiscated, because that about sums it up.

Wishing you well, you deserve happiness in a genuine relationship.

scooby088

Go on holiday play the field if you want to, it's nothing to do with this bloke what you do when on holiday, after all you aren't in a relationship with him.

FatVonD

You started getting 'touchy feely' while he was still in a relationship so you know what kind of bloke he is and he knows what kind of girl you are.

Are you really surprised he doesn't see you as girlfriend material??

Not wanting to be in a relationship is an excuse, he just doesn't want to be in a relationship with you!

Gather up your self respect and show him the door. If he was going to fall in love with you it would have happened by now.

eschaton

dilemma10 wrote: »

Thanks for that - especially rational and balanced comment.

And if they did, would I be bothered?

I'm not a !!!!!. We don't just sit next to each other horizontally all day long.

This started as a friendship which developed into more over the course of 4 months but during that time he's stated he does not want a relationship.

That does not make me a village idiot.

Goodnight.

You came on here for advice but didn't listen to anyone - is it just attention you want?

He doesn't want you as a g/f - how hard is that to accept?