Neighbours from Hell

princessdon

You know what I find sad about this whole thread.

Lack of opportunity!

I have vast experience of disabled children - particularly autism and the noises they make, sadly others don't - OP included.

The noises are frightening, it's not pleasant living in earshot, having your sleep disturbed etc

But ...

To those with children in similar circs, you are more immune to the noise as accustomed to it, so my advice is to take the chance to educate OP and others as to what you do to lessen the noise, because you do lessen it, why it doesn't always work, routines importance, school holidays and routine breakdown, how stressful moving house is for them and the effects it has etc.

In short suggest positive long term solutions and see if you can't help OP have a compromise, because they are right to feel annoyed, it's human nature, their wording is awful, they have pressed buttons with poor wording choices for parents, but it doesn't mean your wisdom and knowledge on how to handle can't be shared.

Just my thoughts anyway.

aliasojo

Saint_Chris wrote: »

Right I posted this before, and I received a nasty pm (I've reported it) saying that i'm disgusting to refer a disabled child to a animal.

If it came across as that in my post, then I really did not mean it.

I mean't that strange and unusual noises be it night or day can be a bit daunting at 1st, but you get used to it.

Unfortunately some people can be a bit kneejerk in their reactions. They're not able to actually understand the point of what's being said as they're too quick to jump to an emotional impression. Don't worry about it, i'm sure most people got the point.

houseimprover

Saint_Chris wrote: »

Right I posted this before, and I received a nasty pm (I've reported it) saying that i'm disgusting to refer a disabled child to a animal.

If it came across as that in my post, then I really did not mean it.

I mean't that strange and unusual noises be it night or day can be a bit daunting at 1st, but you get used to it.

Name and Shame the coward who PM'd you.

aliasojo

houseimprover wrote: »

Name and Shame the coward who PM'd you.

You are just inciting further trouble.

It's unnecessary.

houseimprover

aliasojo wrote: »

You are just inciting further trouble.

It's unnecessary.

True but would be interesting to know if its a lurker or someone thats been posting vociferously

Saint_Chris

houseimprover wrote: »

Name and Shame the coward who PM'd you.

I've reported it thanks.

zaksmum

My sister once had a complaint about her son when he was about 18.

The neighbours knew full well how severely disabled he is but they stormed round to hers shouting abuse about the noises he made and threatening to make a formal complaint to the council - the houses are owner occupied - about excessive noise.

My sister was devastated. She'd had no sleep for weeks as her son is awake most of the night smearing his faeces all over the walls and she'd just had a very poor prognosis from his consultant.

It really was the straw that broke the camel's back and she sobbed for days.

Please OP, spare a thought for these poor exhausted parents and put your own feelings second for once.

jinty271

princessdon wrote: »

You know what I find sad about this whole thread.

Lack of opportunity!

I have vast experience of disabled children - particularly autism and the noises they make, sadly others don't - OP included.

The noises are frightening, it's not pleasant living in earshot, having your sleep disturbed etc

But ...

To those with children in similar circs, you are more immune to the noise as accustomed to it, so my advice is to take the chance to educate OP and others as to what you do to lessen the noise, because you do lessen it, why it doesn't always work, routines importance, school holidays and routine breakdown, how stressful moving house is for them and the effects it has etc.

In short suggest positive long term solutions and see if you can't help OP have a compromise, because they are right to feel annoyed, it's human nature, their wording is awful, they have pressed buttons with poor wording choices for parents, but it doesn't mean your wisdom and knowledge on how to handle can't be shared.

Just my thoughts anyway.

Some very good points here.

I do agree that we should do all we can to educate and promote tolerance and understanding in others. However I have spent the last 12 years trying to do so, and frankly, I am tired. I am not sure I would have the energy now, to try, especially towards someone sitting on their pretty balcony, looking down their nose at me, just because I am spoiling their view or disturbing their peace.

Again I apologise if I am being harsh. I am very very tired, and no doubt tonight will be another broken one. My little lady has a gastrostomy and she is not tolerating her feeds. so I will be stripping beds at 1:30am when she vomits up all her feed, which I will need to re-administer. And she has a bit of a chesty cough so no doubt the Sats monitor will ping all night and I will need to moderate her oxygen.


I do hope the alarms do not disturb any of my neighbours....

princessdon

zaksmum wrote: »

My sister once had a complaint about her son when he was about 18.

The neighbours knew full well how severely disabled he is but they stormed round to hers shouting abuse about the noises he made and threatening to make a formal complaint to the council - the houses are owner occupied - about excessive noise.

My sister was devastated. She'd had no sleep for weeks as her son is awake most of the night smearing his faeces all over the walls and she'd just had a very poor prognosis from his consultant.

It really was the straw that broke the camel's back and she sobbed for days.

Please OP, spare a thought for these poor exhausted parents and put your own feelings second for once.

So suggest HOW they handle it, how to approach the parents, what to say, these people have to live as neighbours - help broach a way a forward. See how OP is soon to be equally as tired and irritable as her sleep is now disturbed. How can they move forward?

You guys are the experts, it's not judgment OP needs just education and practical suggestions (other than get over it) which won't help anyone.

fashionlover10

CC-Warrior wrote: »

The tenants could be breaking terms of their tenancy contract by their behaviour and noise levels generated (after 10/11pm for example). The lettings agency/Landlord should be more helpful.

Really?! Would you say a couple with a newborn baby who cries in the middle of the night and won't settle is 'breaking the terms of their tenancy agreement'?
Some noise can't be helped and people should learn to be a bit more tolerant.

Maybe the OP would like to swap flats with me? I live near a railway line which is regularly used by freight trains and there are two takeaways underneath the flats where both sets of employees seem unable to talk at a normal level whilst outside. The man opposite me has a thing about banging his front door every time he uses it and the pub just behind us regularly holds live music events.
TBH I don't notice it too much anymore, it ends up being background noise after a little while.