Neighbours from Hell

balletshoes

DKLS wrote: »

I feel for you OP, the Mumsnet !!!!! have descended again casting judgement.

I had to move due to a similar scenario, and faced comments like have been seen on here, its fine to complain about noisy chavs and dogs but god help you if the noise comes from a child, or even worse a disabled child.

Sadly I think your on a hiding to nothing, hence my suggestion would be to try and get out of your lease and move as medicating kids isnt very popular over here like it is in the states.

The OP doesn't have a lease - she owns her flat.

balletshoes

cupcake4 wrote: »

Can you not see that they have been deposited there and have as little choice about where they live as you have?

As I said they CHOSE to rent here PRIVATELY through an agent

How do you know that Cupcake? LAs and other agencies use private landlords to home people.

lippy1923

cupcake4 wrote: »

Can you not see that they have been deposited there and have as little choice about where they live as you have?

As I said they CHOSE to rent here PRIVATELY through an agent

And it sounds like you CHOSE to buy a flat, knowing full well in your years of living there anyone could move in below. It's the risk you take with flats.

Other than all the suggestions made, sound-proofing, ear plugs, music, going out to your friends etc there is not much more people can say to help.

Calien27

I still don't know what the OP and some posters expect the parents to do.

Drug the child? gag them?

The noises the child makes are involuntary, they can't help and they can't stop it.

aileth

How dare they choose to rent there, the gall of some people!

Where would you like them to go?

Norma_Desmond

I feel real sympathy for the OP.

Of course the poor child can't control the sounds it makes, but that shouldn't be the OP's problem - awful noise is awful noise.

How many on here can honestly say it wouldn't bother them in the slightest?

DKLS

thorsoak wrote: »

May I say how much I object to your first statement - I have never even visited Mumsnet - and as a 70 year old, my views are very much my own.

Let me repeat again - don't you think that the parents of the child in question would do anything to be in the shoes of the complainant? But they are not - they have a disabled child and will be the parents of a disabled child for the whole of that child's life - no chance for them to move away.

Of course you may say whatever you like.

The OP is suffering from noise pollution, regardless of where that sound emanates from.
Which is awful for the OP, yet because this is from a disabled child, there is little or no sympathy and post after post of emotional twaddle, a bit like yours.

OP I can recommend Bose noise cancelling earphones, but thats only a temporary solution.

aliasojo

cupcake4 wrote: »

Can you not see that they have been deposited there and have as little choice about where they live as you have?

As I said they CHOSE to rent here PRIVATELY through an agent

Had to reply to this.

We chose to rent the house we are in now, through an agent.

Only because there was nothing else available at the time that we could afford and that wasn't an absolute disgusting hell hole.

If we had a true choice, we would have rented elsewhere.

I'm assuming you haven't got a clue what your neighbour's circumstances were?

DKLS

balletshoes wrote: »

The OP doesn't have a lease - she owns her flat.

My error and poor OP, In that case put up for sale and time viewings for when the disabled kid is at hospital/special school etc.

aliasojo

Norma_Desmond wrote: »

How many on here can honestly say it wouldn't bother them in the slightest?

It would bother the Hell out of me. I have/had lots of sympathy for the OP.

In fact, when my eldest was young, I used to drive to a lay-by by the water about 5 miles up the road and just sit there staring out over the water to get peace for a wee while, it was so quiet and calming. (Obviously he was left with someone.) And he was my own so I can imagine how annoying someone else's would be. :rotfl:

The thing is though, there are only so many things that can be done in reality. So digging one's heels in and continuing to fight against the situation rather than trying to better it, isn't going to help.