Eating Habits

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lostinrates wrote: »

Not exactly, I said its hoped that if there are children they are taught ....that's not saying if there are children they will suffer! People are entitled to make choices, but they can only make those choices if they know they exist! In fact, I have said, what's the problem if it suits your sil and they children know what to do!

Maybe we have drifted off on a tangent since about post #49, where in fact we agree with each others views and not trying to change anybody, those that are repulsed by another's eating habits to me is shalllow, as like you say a family member of yours has a medical condition which shows that symptom, who knows my bro could have a condition, but thats the way he is and we all love him just as you do your family member. I also agree that it would be enough to put you off the prospective partner rather than 'trap' them and then try and change them, those that are tring to do the changing should not be judging their partners and I bet if asked the partners would equally have criticism but accepts the person they love for who they are not a possible trophy or worry about what others may think.
Oh last night we had a lovely meal out, I sat opposite my bro, but I didn't notice any chomping, but then I was not looking out for it either.

lostinrates

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Just a thought...if somebody's eating habits are criticised, it could make them anxious about eating and backfire in that they eat even quicker.

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Its also really bad manners to criticise. We all get things wrong.

However, with a partner, Someone you wanted to stay with and everything else was really good, it probably would be worth not criticising but working through any relatively minor things getting in the way of progressing.

One of the other things I find hard is sitting at a table for long periods of time, I now find I want to slouch and wriggle. I find long suppers at formal tables a bit of a night mare tbh. At home with friends I certainly might, for example, rest an elbow on the table, or get up and have a wriggle or a wander or a limp, I also have a soft armchair at the table at home, not a hard dining chair, and do something even worse, put my feet on dh's lap occasionally when it hurts not to raise them.

These are all choices I make knowing they are transgressions. I'm comfortable knowing they are 'rude' and down in our own home and are comfortable for us and a select very small group of friends and by no means all the family!

Georgiegirl256

What is wrong with eating with your fork in your right hand? A lot of left handed people eat that way, I didn't realise it was considered to be rude? I'm a leftie, but dont eat that way though, probably because both my parents are right handed, so I learnt to do it that way.

I do however lick my knife, a habit I've picked up off my Dad....my Mam is always commenting on it, my husband mentions it too, I have to stop myself when in public lol!

Mr_Toad

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

What is wrong with eating with your fork in your right hand? A lot of left handed people eat that way, I didn't realise it was considered to be rude? I'm a leftie, but dont eat that way though, probably because both my parents are right handed, so I learnt to do it that way.

I do however lick my knife, a habit I've picked up off my Dad....my Mam is always commenting on it, my husband mentions it too, I have to stop myself when in public lol!

I think it's more how you use the fork, not which hand.

Many Americans pick up a knife and fork with the fork in the left hand then cut up all the food on their plate. They then put the knife down and swap the fork to their right hand.

Some eat nicely, some shovel!

~Chameleon~

No wonder obesity has become pandemic on reading this thread :rotfl:

~Chameleon~

walkerbev wrote: »

I see he's not alone then :eek: :rotfl: I might try the eating extra slowly approach and then he may realise he's finished way before me worth a try

That is probably the best way. Embarrass him into slowing down once he realises what a pig he's being! A mouthful should be chewed 20 times to aid digestion and a meal should take 15-20mins to consume

~Chameleon~

scooby088 wrote: »

Why? I don't feel the need to slow down as my OH eats really slowly and would still be eating a starter at midnight from a 8 pm start.

All I say if you don't like watching him eat then eat in another room.

And if they're sat opposite each other in a restaurant?

scooby088

~Chameleon~ wrote: »

And if they're sat opposite each other in a restaurant?

Does it really matter? I wouldn't change how I eat in public or at home why should I?

paulineb_2

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

What is wrong with eating with your fork in your right hand? A lot of left handed people eat that way, I didn't realise it was considered to be rude? I'm a leftie, but dont eat that way though, probably because both my parents are right handed, so I learnt to do it that way.

I do however lick my knife, a habit I've picked up off my Dad....my Mam is always commenting on it, my husband mentions it too, I have to stop myself when in public lol!

Its a big no no going by some threads on here in the past, however its what is comfortable for me, Im right handed but I always have my fork in my right hand.

paulineb_2

~Chameleon~ wrote: »

That is probably the best way. Embarrass him into slowing down once he realises what a pig he's being! A mouthful should be chewed 20 times to aid digestion and a meal should take 15-20mins to consume

No way does a meal take me 15-20 mins to consume, I dont think I shovel food in my gob but some people are slow eaters and other people eat more quickly.

I was out for a meal with friends the other night and with chat, a couple of drinks and two courses it took over two hours.

If Id been with family and had the same meal it would probably have taken us an hour.

I dont eat huge portions anyway, but each to their own

Id never embarass anyone into doing anything re the way they eat.
Some people have issues with food linked to growing up, some people have a real fear of being hungry, for instance if they were denied food as a child, Ive seen people talk about it on various forums.

Id leave people to it, but if I had to say something for their sake for example if they were out and I felt that the way they ate might make other people comment, Id say something gently and try not to hurt their feelings.