To text or not to text? That is the question

paulineb_2

Funky_Bold_Ribena wrote: »

No it doesn't! FYI some people do have lives outside of trying to get laid

I wouldnt text saying Id need to rearrange anyway. Id just leave it at that, if someone changes their mind, they arent worth the few seconds it would take to send a text.

paulineb_2

toffeentom wrote: »

I didn't text back - just deleted the number . We're all different though in the way we deal with things. Some may just shrug it it off and others get really beaten up about it. Think I'm a bit in the middle - but feeling a bit vulnerable at the moment. Thinking out loud but won;t do it - all I'm feeling at the moment is texting the guy who dumped me and telling him how much I'm missing him. Totally wrong thing to do and I won't do it but that's how I'm feeling.

Dont do that either, seriously you need to work through your feelings to the point where whatever is missing in your life just now doesnt need to be filled by a relationship

And you had it spot on earlier on, you might need to take a few months off dating, get your head together and when you feel a bit better, then start looking for someone else.

marisco_2

toffeentom wrote: »

Thinking out loud but won;t do it - all I'm feeling at the moment is texting the guy who dumped me and telling him how much I'm missing him. Totally wrong thing to do and I won't do it but that's how I'm feeling.

You are very wise not to go down that route, it would be a big step backwards. You cant improve a situation if you stay surrounded by negativity that will just bring you down. Value yourself, take care of yourself and make your happiness a priority for now, without worrying about being with anyone else. When you feel less vulnerable and more confidant you will feel ready to give dating another go.

justme111

DUTR wrote: »

Ok, I can't speak for everyone, if somebody messaged me that, then thats the sort of lines I would be thinking.

It would been a pathetic and childish attempt of a bruised ego to pretend it is not. As is that guy bashing and calling him names in this thread .

DUTR

justme111 wrote: »

It would been a pathetic and childish attempt of a bruised ego to pretend it is not. As is that guy bashing and calling him names in this thread .

I don't get you
As from what I can see , (a) the guy could have said much earlier without prompt that the date is off (b) the OP could have not sent the text and made other arrangements but possibly wondering still if the date was on or not.

Personally I wouldn't drop somebody like that but that's just me, some would some wouldn't, I have a 'friend' and if you ask her to do something pics meal etc, she will always say yes at the time of asking and even inbetween ask if such and such is still happening, then at the very last hour she will pull out, she does it with her female friends too, some people just cannot say no at the time, and even when I point it out to her, she sort of knows but still does it.

justme111

Sure , if you re read op the date was not arranged. I take it there was a fleeting mentioning of a probable meeting on Sunday. If they would arranged time and place she would not been wondering.

the_pink_panther_2

I think leaving it; as it's stands you've come out with your head held high.

If he put so little care into his response then he wasn't worth it and better you found out early. It's tough feeling rejected particularly when you are already feeling low and I'm sorry you're having to go through that.

toffee'n'tom

justme111 wrote: »

Sure , if you re read op the date was not arranged. I take it there was a fleeting mentioning of a probable meeting on Sunday. If they would arranged time and place she would not been wondering.

It was a definite date. Time and place arranged by him - not me.

DUTR

justme111 wrote: »

Sure , if you re read op the date was not arranged. I take it there was a fleeting mentioning of a probable meeting on Sunday. If they would arranged time and place she would not been wondering.

Fair do, that's not how I read it, as the OP mentioned about turning up or not ad the question was, is Sunday still on or just casually send a text and see if Sunday is mentioned in the reply.
But the other bit of your post I didn't understand is where you said I was name calling .
PS this is not an attack I'm always interested in the other viewpoint.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

DUTR wrote: »

Ok, I can't speak for everyone, if somebody messaged me that, then thats the sort of lines I would be thinking.

That's your issue to work through...not mine.