To text or not to text? That is the question

MrsE_2

toffeentom wrote: »

I was rejected - had a text back within minutes just saying 'don't think so (and my name)

Ah well his loss;)
At least you didnt was any of your time meeting up with the t055er;)

[Deleted User]

If he just text and said "I don't think so", then its his loss. If he was a decent guy then he would have put it a better way,
Don't worry about him and carry on... Ive had lots of rejections, even got stood up!!!
Onwards and upwards...

justme111

toffeentom wrote: »

I was rejected - had a text back within minutes just saying 'don't think so (and my name)

Toffeesmum , don't let it put you down , I know easier said than done when one feels vulnerable already but please do not , it goes with the territory of being an adult and relating to others , you just started your dating journey so you will have many funny and sad things happening on it , you can enjoy your time reading a book called "date " on a subject , it will cheer you up x
Don't forget to text him back thanking for letting you know and wishing good luck

toffee'n'tom

I'm feeling a bit hurt about it - it's not so much him - because I don't even know the guy - it's because I've been 'dumped' recently and the hurt of that is coming back. Maybe I should have left it till I was well and truly over my relationship and not try to make myself feel better this way.

[Deleted User]

MrsE wrote: »

Just a thought, did you get a cheap mobile with a PAYG sim for this?
You're not giving them your real regular mobile number are you?

Why?
I give out my number after ive chatted for a week or so... But don't give out any info about myself.
Cant be dealing with 2 sims, 2phones. That's a bit suspicious. If I don't meet them, don't like them I simply delete there number and don't reply to any further messages.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

toffeentom wrote: »

I'm feeling a bit hurt about it - it's not so much him - because I don't even know the guy - it's because I've been 'dumped' recently and the hurt of that is coming back. Maybe I should have left it till I was well and truly over my relationship and not try to make myself feel better this way.

Yes, you should wait until you are well over your other relationship and 'i don't think so' makes you think 'oh well, at least I can get on with doing x and y instead - his loss'.

MrsE_2

ImDoingItForMe wrote: »

Why?
I give out my number after ive chatted for a week or so... But don't give out any info about myself.
Cant be dealing with 2 sims, 2phones. That's a bit suspicious. If I don't meet them, don't like them I simply delete there number and don't reply to any further messages.

They might start hassling or stalking you on your regular mobile number - I wouldnt want random people having my number.
It would be a right pain having to keep changing your regular mobile number.
I have 2 mobiles anyway, work & personal.

SuzieSue

toffeentom wrote: »

I'm feeling a bit hurt about it - it's not so much him - because I don't even know the guy - it's because I've been 'dumped' recently and the hurt of that is coming back. Maybe I should have left it till I was well and truly over my relationship and not try to make myself feel better this way.

I really think this was a scam set up by the website to entice you to pay for a full membership so please don't feel rejected. If you haven't seen that Panaroma program then you should watch it.

[Deleted User]

toffeentom wrote: »

I'm feeling a bit hurt about it - it's not so much him - because I don't even know the guy - it's because I've been 'dumped' recently and the hurt of that is coming back. Maybe I should have left it till I was well and truly over my relationship and not try to make myself feel better this way.

Just remember every man isn't the same. There are great guys out there and don't see any meet up as a potential long term thing. I go to meet a guy just for a coffee and a chat, no intentions, no grand ideas, because you don't know the person.
Its all a learning curve, have fun and be light hearted about it all.

DUTR

toffeentom wrote: »

I'm feeling a bit hurt about it - it's not so much him - because I don't even know the guy - it's because I've been 'dumped' recently and the hurt of that is coming back. Maybe I should have left it till I was well and truly over my relationship and not try to make myself feel better this way.

There is never a right time, obviously too soon, maybe a rebound thing, but too long has it's own drawbacks too.
Dating is a funny old game, sometimes you finally get to date, but then you maybe keen on them but them not on you or vice versa.