Does my Mum love me? (not respecting fear of stuff)

jellie

I don't have anything to add which hasn't already been said, other than - OP you said you drive to work. How do you manage to fill a car with petrol/diesel, now that stuff really does smell revolting.

An ex of mine used to use the same phrase "if you loved me you would" followed by whatever it is they wanted at that particular moment. They just wanted to get their own way, very childish.

If you don't like what your mum does in her own home, leave and live your life the way you want to.

shegirl

early20s wrote: »

you are a utter moron and a robot with no heart. If she loves me she would help me

It not that I don't like things she does, I cannot cope with them.

Manic-jac disappears,then as if by magic.......

System

Originally Posted by early20s
it doesn't matter, I am ignoring my Mum, i honestly think this is the end of our relationship

Good idea. At least she wont have to moan about the fake tan she applies in her own house.

Ames

Just on the off chance that this isn't a troll.

OP, have you thought about taking medication to help with the panic attacks until your therapy starts to work? I have mental illness and although my medication doesn't always stop the panic attacks completely it does help a lot.

jtr2803

jellie wrote: »

I don't have anything to add which hasn't already been said, other than - OP you said you drive to work. How do you manage to fill a car with petrol/diesel, now that stuff really does smell revolting.

Absolutely THIS. If you had such an irrational fear of man made chemicals then this of all things would be top of your list surely. Or is it manageable because it suits you?

I assume you don't drink things like coke or use hair products either? All man made and full of chemicals?

Yawn. Schools most definitely out.

LouLou

I must say it's something I assumed, when I read the first post: such an all-encompassing obsession would surely keep you confined to the house. I assumed you were agoraphobic initially.

Finding out that you cope well enough to work and drive surprised me.

Heffi1

I have read through all of this thread and the one thing that stands out to me is this.

I want to live my life in the way I want to live it and I will force my mother to do as I say or I shall ignore her until she complies.

Two things wrong with this.

1. You are not in control of your mother and what she decides to do in her own home.
2. You are supposed to be a grown man.

My only piece of advice as the mother of a 27 and 24 year old, I would tell you very calmly that as you are privileged to live in my home then you had better follow the rules.

If at any point you do not like how I live my life then you are free to leave and in fact if you spoke to me in that way I imagine you have spoken to your mother then I would gladly help you fill some bags and give you a swift kick up the backside to help you on your way.

You are either an adult and therefore able to live independently.
Or you are a child and still need looking after.

There are no other options, pick one and stick with it.

If it is the child version then you will have to put up and shut up, if the adult version, be a man and take responsibility for your own actions, that means it is time to leave home and set up on your own.

Or are you too frightened to be alone, but cannot stop bad mouthing the woman who gave you life.

You make me sick.


Grow up!

olibrofiz

Oh my, just read through the whole thread and experienced :eek: :mad: :rotfl: :T

You've had some great advice & experiences shared for you to think about. Go and think about them.

What you're complaining about with your mum now? just makes me wonder how much she has actually sacrificed before this point due to your 'issues'

Maybe this 'issue' is the straw that's broken the camel's back - so to speak

mountainofdebt

Can anyone tell me why my post stating that this thread was turning nasty and was going to ask for the thread to be deleted/locked has itself been deleted but the thread remains open?

LouLou

olibrofiz wrote: »

Oh my, just read through the whole thread and experienced :eek: :mad: :rotfl: :T

I go through those in one day, sometimes!! :A:cool: