Jealous friend has sabotaged hen weekend plans

yvonne13_2

claire16c wrote: »

I don't understand why she can't leave her children with her husband?? And why would she be able in that case be able to go to Blackpool just cos she can put them to bed - surely the husband can. It makes no sense. Either he's capable of looking after his own kids or if he's not (which is very bizarre) then why is she even leaving the house. Sounds like a lie.

Claire I couldn't have said it better, so she can drive down to Blackpool stay a couple of hours then drive back home to tuck her kids in makes no sense as she originally paid the deposit. (Actually she never as friend A paid it for her and she was supposed it give it her back).

liney

I wouldn't push it with the bride if she refuses to believe friend B did this out of spite, however as she is no longer comming you can all go back to your origional plans. Unless other friends have now said it's too expensive etc?

burnoutbabe

In the meantime friend B is saying "it will never happen", "the guy will cheat", "why should she celebrate abroad when she can say congratulations at home".

tell friend A all of this, and that you are no longer speaking to B due to her nastyness. Up to Friend A if she stays friends with her or not, but maybe say you do not wish to go on any holiday with Friend B, due to above comments and all the changes. She really is no friend of A's if making these comments.

yvonne13_2

liney wrote: »

I wouldn't push it with the bride if she refuses to believe friend B did this out of spite, however as she is no longer comming you can all go back to your origional plans. Unless other friends have now said it's too expensive etc?

Well I'm pulling out that's for sure. Friend A has just refunded my deposit into my paypal account, so to me that speaks volumes.

ska_lover

'Friend B' sounds very jealous!

Funky_Bold_Ribena

ska_lover wrote: »

'Friend B' sounds very jealous!

Yes.
Hence the title of the thread.

Fosterdog

Something doesn't add up here because first post you said

yvonne13 wrote: »

Yesterday evening I get a text from friend A saying "change of plan we have to go to Blackpool instead because friend B can't leave her children with her husband":eek:
When I asked her about the deposit we already paid she said we lost it because friend B sent an email to the couple cancelling the villa :mad: (I wouldn't mind but she never booked it in the first place).

And then you said

yvonne13 wrote: »

2.She thinks the booking was cancelled in error as friend B was supposedly emailing about the rooms.

So either she knew friend B cancelled because she couldn't leave her kids or she thinks it was an error. It can't be both.

There are other things not adding up with this, either you are lying about something/leaving massive important bits of the story out or Friend A doesn't really want you there and Friend B is taking the blame to stop you blaming Friend A and they are both in on this behind your back (and possibly the other nine friends)

Make-it-3

Even if Friend A doesn't know the full details of Friend B's actions/or talking behind her back, she is for whatever reason allowing Friend B to have undue sway over her hen arrangements. Are Friends C, D, E etc all happy to go along with it? I certainly wouldn't but maybe they don't know Friend B like you do.

It could end up being a hen party with only the bride present if Friend B p's off everyone else and then drops out last minute too for some spurious reason.

Whatever, with all this silliness you really are best off out of it now.

Hermia

Make-it-3 wrote: »

Even if Friend A doesn't know the full details of Friend B's actions/or talking behind her back, she is for whatever reason allowing Friend B to have undue sway over her hen arrangements. Are Friends C, D, E etc all happy to go along with it? I certainly wouldn't but maybe they don't know Friend B like you do
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I think if I were in this situation I would be distancing myself a little from both friend A and B. In future friend A being so easily swayed by one person could result in a situation with more serious repercussions. I suppose everyone should be grateful that friend B hasn't said she wants the date or location of the wedding changed to suit her!

clairec79

claire16c wrote: »

I don't understand why she can't leave her children with her husband?? And why would she be able in that case be able to go to Blackpool just cos she can put them to bed - surely the husband can. It makes no sense. Either he's capable of looking after his own kids or if he's not (which is very bizarre) then why is she even leaving the house. Sounds like a lie.

Just because he can look after the children (and is prepared to) doesn't mean that she WANTS to leave them