Jealous friend has sabotaged hen weekend plans

DUTR

clairec79 wrote: »

Just because he can look after the children (and is prepared to) doesn't mean that she WANTS to leave them

I disagree with the concept, however , if your theory is indeed correct then B should just pull out and not rain on A's parade or have the whole party revolve around B.

**professor~yaffle**

I'm puzzled as to how friend B managed to cancel the booking. Did friend A give her the booking reference number when B told her she was emailing them about rooms? Very odd.

Hen nights can bring out the worst in some women. (Are stag do's this b1tchy, I doubt it)

scaredy_cat

not real all the replies, but if 'friend' B is not going to B'pool now, can you rebook the villa and just leave her out of it?

LannieDuck

I think there's some pieces of the puzzle that you don't know/haven't mentioned, OH.

If I were friend A and the booking somehow got cancelled 'in error', I'd be getting in contact with the villa and asking for it to be reinstated.

It sounds to me as if friend A is well aware that B didn't want to go, and cancelled it herself.

barbarawright

yvonne13 wrote: »

Like I said friend A does know what friend B has done and has chosen to believe it wasn't done out of malice.
None of us can force her to think any different.

Did B tell you she cancelled the booking deliberately? If so, why did she tell A something different?

VitaK

I find it odd that anyone accidentally cancelled there booking, and even more odd that they cant un-cancel the cancellation.

DUTR

**professor~yaffle** wrote: »

I'm puzzled as to how friend B managed to cancel the booking. Did friend A give her the booking reference number when B told her she was emailing them about rooms? Very odd.

Hen nights can bring out the worst in some women. (Are stag do's this b1tchy, I doubt it)

Nope, the date and venue are set, if you can't make it, tough luck, see you at the reception :cool:

maman

yvonne13 wrote: »

Well I'm pulling out that's for sure. Friend A has just refunded my deposit into my paypal account, so to me that speaks volumes.

I have just read through and forgive me if I've got it wrong but it's very difficult to follow.

I don't quite understand the 'speaks volumes': someone has decided to pay you the deposit back (Friend A the softie maybe?) presumably out of their own pocket as it was non refundable. And now you've decided not to go at all, to Blackpool, to Europe, to anywhere!

Could it be that everyone else was relieved when the European trip got cancelled? Maybe the fact it happened yesterday is relevant as people didn't want to be paying out more today for flights. Maybe it was more than B who didn't want to go?

I'm still amazed that any tour operator let someone cancel who hadn't booked.

The obvious answer would have been to 'rebook' and carry on without B but it seems that it's all off now and you're not going anyway so nothing else to discuss.

It'll save you wasting money on a wedding outfit anyway.;)

paulineb_2

Its very difficult to follow and to be honest why is there a question mark about someones husband looking after kids, what a ridiculous excuse.

You have kids, there are two parents and someone cant look after them for a weekend to let people go on a hen weekend

Im actually glad Im of the age where most of my close mates got married 20 plus years ago and a hen night for us was doing a tour of the local pubs

If I ever got married it would be a meal out and a drink locally and Im not knocking people who want a hen weekend abroad but Im sorry, this whole thread reads like a problem page out of jackie magazine.

And Im not saying this to upset anyone, but what age are these women?
You are mature enough to get and be married but you arent mature enough to organise a hen weekend without it going tits up

And if someone was talking about a mate of mine negatively and putting the boot in, Id tell them, the very last thing I would do is let someone walk down their aisle, having their hen weekend ruined by someone jealous who is also making nasty remarks behind their back.

Pollycat

I too agree that it all sounds a little 'off'.

Some posters have asked some very valid questions which the OP has not answered, even though she's posted since most of them were asked.

For example:

paulineb wrote: »

why do you need to rearrange your plans if the friend isnt even going to the second weekend?

Pollycat wrote: »

What do the other 10 friends think about what has happened?

DUTR wrote: »

I'm just wondering why friend B has so much influence on the whole event, unless there is some crucial info you have omitted?
Are friend A+B gentetically related?

barbarawright wrote: »

Did B tell you she cancelled the booking deliberately? If so, why did she tell A something different?

Lots of posters have asked how 'friend' B could have cancelled the villa booking.
The OP did say that 'friend' B gave friend A the contact details, so possibly not booked through a tour operator but even so

Pollycat wrote: »

She might have had the contact details but I doubt she would have had the booking reference - unless friend A gave it to her.

So still, queries over how the cancellation happened/who really was behind it.

yvonne13 wrote: »

Well I'm pulling out that's for sure. Friend A has just refunded my deposit into my paypal account, so to me that speaks volumes.

maman wrote: »

I don't quite understand the 'speaks volumes'

I don't either.

Do you mean friend A has fallen out with you?

I wonder if this poster has hit the nail on the head:

Fosterdog wrote: »

There are other things not adding up with this, either you are lying about something/leaving massive important bits of the story out or Friend A doesn't really want you there and Friend B is taking the blame to stop you blaming Friend A and they are both in on this behind your back (and possibly the other nine friends)