Jealous friend has sabotaged hen weekend plans

andygb

paulineb wrote: »

The bride has possibly refunded people herself

I still think some talking needs to be done. Id actually be wary of accepting a refund from the bride if she paid it. Why should she have to?

Its the person who caused all this mess who should be stumping up

I agree totally with the last point, but as a bloke I cannot see why this happened in the first place.
I didn't have a stag do abroad, but if anyone (even a best mate) had tried to put a spanner in the works when it was all arranged, then they would have been told in no uncertain terms where to go.
I suggest that the other 10 hens go around to "friend" B's place and liberate her of some high value goods and sell them on Ebay - not that I am actually suggesting criminal action of course;)

floss2

Perhaps Friend B's husband does not like her staying away from home without him - my ex-husband was like that, in 15 years of marriage I think I only went out without him about half a dozen times, mainly because he would get jealous and /or mistrustful so wanted to come with me.

Also, I know you have decided not to go on the hen weekend but please, as someone who lives there, persuade your friends not come to Blackpool to be drunk all weekend dragging a bride-to-be and her L-plates, wings, t-shirt, balloons, and blow-up bloke around the bars. And especially don't come here between September and November when the Illuminations are on. Some people actually live there you know. Would hens & stags behave the way they do in their own home town? Probably not. Just remember that Blackpool is someone elses home town.

paulineb_2

Well if friend Bs husband was like that she should never have been involved in the hen night to start with

Also, I need to disagree about the hen night comments

1 You don't know how people are going to behave, Ive been to numerous hen nights where people have behaved well
2 People have hen nights all over the world, including my home town which is 15 miles from Glasgow, people have the right to go out and celebrate a friend getting married, Dublin, Prague, Glasgow, Edinburgh, Newcastle, all have people going to hen and stag nights, why on earth should Blackpool be any different, Blackpool is already a tourist town, what difference does it make people out celebrating a wedding?

Saint_Chris

Friend B should never ever have put her name down in the 1st place, if she knew that her husband wasn't happy with her doing these type of things.

I personally wouldn't go to blackpool, and it's not because I don't like it, I only live an hour away, and we sometimes go and spend the 2 nights at the Lyndene hotel, but i don't enjoy the town, only because it's full of kids, which happens everywhere.

we've done a few hen weekends our best, was a adults only weekend at butlins Skegness, so funny, we stayed 4 to a room, we the baths during the day, etc
at night we watched stan boardman, and keith harris and orville...............yes you read that right keith harris..................and for adults only it was the funniest thing we have ever seen in our life.

We had a fab weekend. they do other weekends like motown ones ect.

Pollycat

yvonne13 wrote: »

We don't know what goes on behind closed doors and I don't want to speculate, but I do think her going home to put the children to bed is true. Her husband has very strict beliefs.

This just does not make sense (same as a lot of things the OP has written in this thread).
How then did she plan to put her kids to bed when she was in a villa a plane journey away?

floss2 wrote: »

Perhaps Friend B's husband does not like her staying away from home without him - my ex-husband was like that, in 15 years of marriage I think I only went out without him about half a dozen times, mainly because he would get jealous and /or mistrustful so wanted to come with me.

But surely 'friend' B would have known that at the time the abroad suggestion was made (she even gave friend A the details of the villa, for heaven's sake!!!) and would have (should have) declined at that point because of her husband's 'strict beliefs' instead of letting people pay a deposit.

And it doesn't explain why she cancelled the villa booking because 'she felt like it'.

It makes me wonder just how well these 10 people actually know each other.

You may not like the language used by warehouse - but I'd seriously question any 'friendship' with A and B and possibly with the other friends who seem quite happy to be manipulated like sheep by one person.

Georgiegirl256

Pollycat wrote: »

This just does not make sense (same as a lot of things the OP has written in this thread).
How then did she plan to put her kids to bed when she was in a villa a plane journey away?


But surely 'friend' B would have known that at the time the abroad suggestion was made (she even gave friend A the details of the villa, for heaven's sake!!!) and would have (should have) declined at that point because of her husband's 'strict beliefs' instead of letting people pay a deposit.

And it doesn't explain why she cancelled the villa booking because 'she felt like it'.

It makes me wonder just how well these 10 people actually know each other.

You may not like the language used by warehouse - but I'd seriously question any 'friendship' with A and B and possibly with the other friends who seem quite happy to be manipulated like sheep by one person.

All that you've written above, is exactly what I'm thinking too.

If Friend B knew they couldn't go far because their husband couldn't put the kids to bed (bit weird?), then they shouldn't have put their name down in the first place....unless they were out to sabotage it from the start? If that's the case then surely Friend A can see this, and like I said before, NO-ONE is that much of a walkover....childhood friend or no childhood friend. There's something really weird going on here?

floss2

Pollycat wrote: »

...But surely 'friend' B would have known that at the time the abroad suggestion was made (she even gave friend A the details of the villa, for heaven's sake!!!) and would have (should have) declined at that point because of her husband's 'strict beliefs' instead of letting people pay a deposit...

TBH it is embarrassing and difficult to admit to yourself, never mind anyone else, that your home life is not as you would wish. And from personal experience I would often accept an invitation and later make an excuse.

Pollycat

floss2 wrote: »

TBH it is embarrassing and difficult to admit to yourself, never mind anyone else, that your home life is not as you would wish. And from personal experience I would often accept an invitation and later make an excuse.

I find that quite shocking in the context we are discussing here.

To accept an invitation - when you know full well you are going to decline later - that involves another 11 friends, one of which is the bride-to-be, to go to the trouble of providing details of a villa and leaving it right until the day that flights are going to be booked to pull out is, imho, rude beyond belief.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

Pollycat wrote: »

I find that quite shocking in the context we are discussing here.

To accept an invitation - when you know full well you are going to decline later - that involves another 11 friends, one of which is the bride-to-be, to go to the trouble of providing details of a villa and leaving it right until the day that flights are going to be booked to pull out is, imho, rude beyond belief.

And then...cancelling it on everyone else's behalf. nice.

pipkin71

1940sGal wrote: »

Life's far too short to have people like this in it. You and the others go off and enjoy yourselves and let her stew in her own misery.

This ^^^^

I don't like drama so back off from anyone who causes negative drama in my life as it is too draining.

Sometimes you need to do this otherwise you get drawn in to their misery.