Jealous friend has sabotaged hen weekend plans

yvonne13_2

Pollycat wrote: »

What does friend A say about:
2. 'friend' B cancelling the villa?
1. 'friend' B saying she's not going to Blackpool because 'it's a dump'?

Who decided on Blackpool as an alternative?

1.She doesn't know that she called it a dump as she only sees the good in people.
2.She thinks the booking was cancelled in error as friend B was supposedly emailing about the rooms.
3.Friend B decided on Blackpool saying she would be able to drive back home to put her kids to bed.

paulineb_2

yvonne13 wrote: »

1.She doesn't know that she called it a dump as she only sees the good in people.
2.She thinks the booking was cancelled in error as friend B was supposedly emailing about the rooms.
3.Friend B decided on Blackpool saying she would be able to drive back home to put her kids to bed.

Well if the bride doesnt know exactly whats gone on, why on earth are you allowing her to think the situation has been caused by something else?

Theres no point in being upset about stuff if you arent prepared to tell the bride exactly whats been going on and whats been done.

yvonne13_2

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

Yep, I'm puzzled too (and I'm not a bloke!)

It should be a simple matter for friend A to get back only to villa people and point out that as the person who booked the villa, she is the only person who can cancel, and that not only does person B have absolutely no right whatsoever to cancel the villa, she also does not have the consent of the friend A and the remainder of the party who are all ready willing and able to complete the contract.

Also, what if some people have already booked their flights? Are they expected to just throw away the cost of that too?

I would be well p****d off - with the bride!

Edited to add that my annoyance would be with friend A for allowing this to happen.

We were going to put the deposit down on flights today, so I guess were all lucky.
The only thing that's puzzling me is how calm friend A is being about the situation. Perhaps she just wants peace.

paulineb_2

yvonne13 wrote: »

We were going to put the deposit down on flights today, so I guess were all lucky.
The only thing that's puzzling me is how calm friend A is being about the situation. Perhaps she just wants peace.

Youve just said she doesnt know exactly what friend B has done.

So how can she be upset when she doesnt know exactly whats been going on?

DUTR

yvonne13 wrote: »

Because friend A didn't want to leave anyone out, and her kindness can often be her weakness.

Now I'm even more confused
What if the other 10 friends pulled out of Blackpool because of friend B, or what if one of the others didn't fancy Blackpool?
It's not an attack, I'm just wondering why friend B has so much influence on the whole event, unless there is some crucial info you have omitted?
Are friend A+B gentetically related?

yvonne13_2

balletshoes wrote: »

I don't agree with hen parties abroad either (or ones in this country at spas, lodges etc which cost a couple of hundred quid each). However, if friend B had no intention of going to the abroad do, she shouldn't have agreed to it when everyone else did, when the villa was booked. She's apparently being snide about the marriage working out, and she's told the OP she's not going to the Blackpool do either if thats where the hen party ends up. On the face of it thats not a great friend of the bride now, is it?

I agree there appears to be something missing here, I don't understand how friend B managed to cancel the villa for everyone when she didn't book it, and how come friend A isn't spitting mad?

To be fair friend A consulted with everyone and it was agreed by all that it would be her choice where she wanted to go. No one spoke up and said no or I'll think about it all said yes and it was friend B that gave friend A the details of the villa from a certain website.

Pollycat

yvonne13 wrote: »

1.She doesn't know that she called it a dump as she only sees the good in people.
2.She thinks the booking was cancelled in error as friend B was supposedly emailing about the rooms.
3.Friend B decided on Blackpool saying she would be able to drive back home to put her kids to bed.

I think friend A needs to take off her rose-coloured spectacles.

How can friend A allow herself to be manipulated so badly?

What reason has 'friend' B given for now not going to Blackpool?

What do the other 10 friends think about what has happened?

yvonne13 wrote: »

To be fair friend A consulted with everyone and it was agreed by all that it would be her choice where she wanted to go. No one spoke up and said no or I'll think about it all said yes and it was friend B that gave friend A the details of the villa from a certain website.

She might have had the contact details but I doubt she would have had the booking reference - unless friend A gave it to her.

paulineb_2

If friend A doesnt know whats been going on or does know more than shes letting on and friend B is being blamed, its really hard to give advice, as I said above, how on earth is this going to be resolved without some open communication?

FBaby

There are 12 people involved and only you are raising annoyance? How strange, I would have expected the entire party to be highly p*** off and advising friend A to contact the place abroad to see if rooms are still available and telling friend B to go and find new friends.

I'm confused if things have happened as you say that everyone seem to be accepting it but you.

yvonne13_2

Like I said friend A does know what friend B has done and has chosen to believe it wasn't done out of malice.
None of us can force her to think any different.