Jealous friend has sabotaged hen weekend plans

yvonne13_2

For the purpose of this post I call people friend A and friend B.

When friend A announced she was engaged everyone was so happy for her until friend B started to whisper nonsense in my ear.
Friend A wanted to go to Europe for a long weekend next year October as she's getting married next November, so she gave all twelve of us ample notice so we can get money together, take care of child care ect ect.
Everyone paid a non refundable deposit for a private villa which was £10 each.

In the meantime friend B is saying "it will never happen", "the guy will cheat", "why should she celebrate abroad when she can say congratulations at home". I just fobbed her of as she can be quite negative at times if the world doesn't revolve around her.

Yesterday evening I get a text from friend A saying "change of plan we have to go to Blackpool instead because friend B can't leave her children with her husband":eek:
When I asked her about the deposit we already paid she said we lost it because friend B sent an email to the couple cancelling the villa :mad: (I wouldn't mind but she never booked it in the first place).

I rang friend B to find out what was going on and surprise surprise she cancelled because she felt like it :eek: because if friend A wants us all to go abroad she should pay for us :eek: .
This is the last straw I'm going to cut all ties with friend B as her nasty jealous side has lost us all money plus she said she's not going to Blackpool as it's a dump :mad: but it was at her blooming request to go their that has not just annoyed me but the others too.

1940sGal

I think you already know what to do, you said so in the last paragraph. Cut all ties with her. Cut her completely from your life and if the others had any sense they'd do the same.

Life's far too short to have people like this in it. You and the others go off and enjoy yourselves and let her stew in her own misery.

DUTR

£10 deposit is good, I'm puzzled why friend B can cancel a trip if they are not the lead on the group, I'm even more puzzled why the remainding positive people cannot travel and leave friend B to their own devices for the weekend. I suppose I'm puzzled cos I'm a bloke

BitterAndTwisted

B is a selfish and manipulative cow. HOWEVER it's only a tenner each!

I hope the engaged person knows this "friend" took it upon herself to cancel the arrangements for everyone else! I'd be minded to reinstate the booking and go without her.

aileth

I would sod friend B off, get friend A to email the villa saying friend B had no authority to cancel and you want it back, then everyone else jet off and leave that miserable mare behind,

paulineb_2

And why doesnt friend A have issues with friend B's behaviour? I think its her that people need to be speaking to as well, because shes caving in to demands about having the hen weekend in Blackpool and doesnt seem bothered that her hen weekend has been derailed and people have lost money

I wouldnt be going to any rearranged weekend under these circumstances.

balletshoes

how does the bride feel about friend B after all this?

Pollycat

What does friend A say about:
2. 'friend' B cancelling the villa?
1. 'friend' B saying she's not going to Blackpool because 'it's a dump'?

Who decided on Blackpool as an alternative?

whitewing

I agree with cutting ties.

zzzLazyDaisy

DUTR wrote: »

£10 deposit is good, I'm puzzled why friend B can cancel a trip if they are not the lead on the group, I'm even more puzzled why the remainding positive people cannot travel and leave friend B to their own devices for the weekend. I suppose I'm puzzled cos I'm a bloke

Yep, I'm puzzled too (and I'm not a bloke!)

It should be a simple matter for friend A to get back only to villa people and point out that as the person who booked the villa, she is the only person who can cancel, and that not only does person B have absolutely no right whatsoever to cancel the villa, she also does not have the consent of the friend A and the remainder of the party who are all ready willing and able to complete the contract.

Also, what if some people have already booked their flights? Are they expected to just throw away the cost of that too?

I would be well p****d off - with the bride!

Edited to add that my annoyance would be with friend A for allowing this to happen.

Poppy9

Are you friend A?