Those who are waiting to TTC (New Thread)

Paige_Turner

Reading all of these comments is making me desperate to come off my pill now. My libido has definitely dulled over the last couple of years, I thought it was because I was getting older and more lazy... Wondering if the pill may be a cause??

My intention is to come off the pill in October, once my current prescription runs out. OH leaves in November so probably no time to conceive before he leaves. Then I have 4 months to hope that my cycle is "normal" and regular before he comes home and we start TTC... Next April seems sooo far away

ThinkPink

Thank you for the answers so far. I am due on this Friday and should start my new packet on Tuesday, and then go on holiday for 2 weeks and dont really want to start a new packet (but also don't want to be on whilst away).

For about 6 months Ive really wanted to come off it as Ive been on it so long I feel ready for a break (plus the more I read about how long it has taken for peoples cycles to get back to normal the more I want to come of so the sooner I will be for TTC).

browneyedbazzi

ThinkPink - I've heard of a lot of people who wait longer than usual for their first period after coming off hormonal contraception but never anyone who had it turn up earlier than expected - if I understand your dates right then I'd expect you to be ok for your holiday.

ThinkPink

browneyedbazzi wrote: »

ThinkPink - I've heard of a lot of people who wait longer than usual for their first period after coming off hormonal contraception but never anyone who had it turn up earlier than expected - if I understand your dates right then I'd expect you to be ok for your holiday.

Thank you, I thought I would be ok, but then I had a little read online and sure I read someone saying they did- but having read the replies on here I should be ok (although I know everyone is different). Now I just have to decide if I want to risk having horrid side effects!! lol have you realised Im so undecisive and tend to talk myself out of things!!:rotfl:

Sethisis

I wondered if I might be able to ask you guys for some advice?

My partner and I originally were going to TTC in September, and in a fit of ecstatic irrationality I told my mother. She's gone into broody grandmother mode now and keeps asking if I'm off the pill yet, which I'm not because after a realistic review of our finances it's just not a good idea. How do I tell her? I already feel awful about having to wait, because after having a miscarriage a couple of years ago I'm baby crazy, now I have to face telling her it's probably not going to happen for at Least 6 months, probably longer. She's of the opinion that if everyone waited until they could afford to have a child nobody ever would xD

Sorry if this seems like a stupid thing to worry about, but the baby thing is a bit of a sensitive issue for me, now I feel like I'm letting her down as well. Anyone else have an overly enthusiastic mother?

wangdoodle

Hi Sethisis sorry you're so worried. I haven't even told my
Mother I want children as she'd be unbearable! Could you sit your mother down and just explain to her (without going into too much detail as to why) that you're just not ready yet, that you feel sad about it, and that you'd appreciate her not mentioning it again for a few months as talking about it isn't going to make you feel great?

I feel for you, I've also mentioned things to a few people in my excited state, which in the cold light of day maybe wasn't a great idea. Hope your mum understands.

WD x

browneyedbazzi

WD - I think we have a lot in common! My mom has no idea that I want kids and I've told her so many times that I don't that's she given up even mentioning it now (thankfully!). She'd be totally unbearable if she knew I wanted a baby so she'll be kept totally in the dark as long as possible (she lives in a different country so I could probably manage until a baby is actually here, and I would seriously consider that option lol). There are only three people who know that I want a baby - my partner and my two closest friends and it'll stay that way until a 12 week scan if possible.

Sethisis - you should just be honest with your mother and tell her that having thought about things and done the maths you're going to wait a little while. If she tries to convince you otherwise just say thank you for your input but it's a decision to be made by you and your partner.

ilovelondontown

Sethisis wrote: »

I wondered if I might be able to ask you guys for some advice?

My partner and I originally were going to TTC in September, and in a fit of ecstatic irrationality I told my mother. She's gone into broody grandmother mode now and keeps asking if I'm off the pill yet, which I'm not because after a realistic review of our finances it's just not a good idea. How do I tell her? I already feel awful about having to wait, because after having a miscarriage a couple of years ago I'm baby crazy, now I have to face telling her it's probably not going to happen for at Least 6 months, probably longer. She's of the opinion that if everyone waited until they could afford to have a child nobody ever would xD

Sorry if this seems like a stupid thing to worry about, but the baby thing is a bit of a sensitive issue for me, now I feel like I'm letting her down as well. Anyone else have an overly enthusiastic mother?

I've done EXACTLY the same thing with my sister. Back in March this year my husband and I decided we wanted ttc after a date night and I got carried away and confided in my sister and said we were ttc, however after reviewing our finances we decided to push our date back to December and I had to back track from conversations I'd have with my sister and I felt a bit embarrassed that I had her giving me sisterly advice and then I had to explain we'd decided to wait.

She too said there's no good time financially to have children, but I explained that being responsible and doing a bit of preparing will allow us to enjoy the years to come rather than struggling through what should be a lovely time in our lives. She understood and is now helping me get excited as I count down to December.

Explain this waiting is only temporary and I'm sure she'll understand and respect you decision and give you respite from her excitement!

ThinkPink

Sethisis wrote: »

I wondered if I might be able to ask you guys for some advice?

My partner and I originally were going to TTC in September, and in a fit of ecstatic irrationality I told my mother. She's gone into broody grandmother mode now and keeps asking if I'm off the pill yet, which I'm not because after a realistic review of our finances it's just not a good idea. How do I tell her? I already feel awful about having to wait, because after having a miscarriage a couple of years ago I'm baby crazy, now I have to face telling her it's probably not going to happen for at Least 6 months, probably longer. She's of the opinion that if everyone waited until they could afford to have a child nobody ever would xD

Sorry if this seems like a stupid thing to worry about, but the baby thing is a bit of a sensitive issue for me, now I feel like I'm letting her down as well. Anyone else have an overly enthusiastic mother?

I think I would do as the other suggest and have a quiet word with your Mum, and explain how gutted you are that you arent quite where you want to be financially so have to put it off a little bit longer and its hard enough as it is that youve had to make this decision but her added excitement/ pressure isnt helping.

I think Ive intentionally gone on so much about how we wont be ttc for a few good years yet that people think im not maternal or broody! Theres a couple of close people who know we would love for me to pregnant this time next year but they are people we trust with this secret and who wont put pressure on us and keep mentioning it if out ttc journey takes a while.

Sethisis

Thanks for the responses
It does make sense to just sit down with my mother and have a quiet word, I'm sure she'll understand even if she is disappointed. It's just going to be a little sad.

It's all too easy to let the excitement get the better of you isn't it? I think from now on I won't mention any inclination to have a baby to anyone, not even if I get pregnant. Then I'll wait to see how long it takes people to summon up the courage to ask if I'm expecting or just gaining weight. xD

Also, it's really nice to see people here helping each other through this stuff.