Those who are waiting to TTC (New Thread)

ilovelondontown

Hi all,

I'm still not coping great with waiting, I can go 2/3 days with getting on with life and then I just get spring back into whyyyyy are we waiting!? It's starting to grate on myself so goodness knows what it's doing to my poor DH....

I've never wanted winter to come around fast enough, which is sad because I feel like I'm wishing this year away and I don't want to do it but I can't help how I feel. Now the decision to have a child is on the agenda but we're still waiting it just feels SO HARD.

In my wacky attempt to get perspective on how little I have yet to wait, I saw that X factor and Strictly come dancing are soon to start again on TV. By the time the shows both end this season I will be ttc.

That's not too far to wait is it?

cottage_retreatist

Hey All!
Hi DomRavioli!
Congratulations on having a TTC date prepared - I am still holding off til the beginning of next year to try and bash as many debts down as possible before we get preggers.

But I'm finding it so tricky at the moment it seems like I am the driving force behind . . .well . . everything, so not only do I drive the money aspect but the diet, the stopping smoking (I bought the OH some e-cigs this week to try and get him to cut down) and the general increase in health and wellbeing (buying us both vitamin supplements etc) - I know if it came to it he would knuckle down and help out - like if I got pregnant but I'm worried that our life at the moment - our little flat in London before the dream great escape to the country, means he won't even want to start TTC once the time comes because it makes him so (can't think of the word) - deflated? depressed? So should we wait longer - could be 3 years before we can afford a place and then try? But i want to start trying sooner!! I'm going on a bit now but I just needed to get it off my chest!

Sorry ladies!!!!

kacie

Figured I would join you girls here!

My Age/Partners age:25/24
Time together: 10 months
What are you waiting for?!: Marriage (may 14) moving (around dec 14)
When will you be TTC? late 2014/early 2015
Any preTTC prep? not yet
I'm taking my mind off TTC by... planning the wedding!

Warnerwife

Hey girls, so glad I found this topic, sometimes I want to cry at the situation I'm in with debt and how it's affecting our future.
Think dh is getting sick of me saying I want a baby when we can't just yet lol

My age/ partners age: 26/28
Time together: 3.5 years/ married 2 months
What are you waiting for: debt free and need I move before baby.
When will you be TTC: end 2014 all going well.
Any ttc prep: no not yet, will stay on pill another year.
I'm taking my mind off ttc by... Concentrating on debt repayments, spending time as newlyweds

ilovelondontown

Hi Kacie and Warnerwife, welcome to the sad-mad-bad world of waiting ttc! I'm starting to learn that it is one of THE MOST frustrating things ever! What makes it worse is when you are self inflicting this wait! The mind boggles! :eek:

From my side I had a bizarre experience this weekend. I'm basically "late" but since my cycles do vary I don't read into it tooo much but DH asked if I wanted a drink yesterday and since DH and I have been a bit...careless (or carefree!) about protection this month there was a chance I could be PG and wanted to be on the safe side before having that glass of vino. (I appreciate this sounds more like we're not waiting, but you know how it gets in the heat of a moment!)

However I didn't have a test to hand but remember hearing you could use an ovulation test if you're due on as the LH hormone surges when your pregnant.

Given that I've never actually seen a positive opk before I nearly feel off my chair when used the okp and it came out so positive there was no denying it. Of course I wasn't supposed to get my hopes up as it didn't confirm anything YET. In my minds eye I thought I'm sure I've OD this month so this must mean something!

I did another opk this morning (also positive) before heading off to the shops and doing a hpt. Well it was negative. I was SO sure it was going to be positive - I was even day dreaming on the way to work about how I'd announce it to everyone.

Now I'm just stuck scratching my head? I've done more reading up and apparently you can get an LH surge just before your period, so ruiling out pregnancy I've either ovulated really late this month or I'm about to come on.


Ugh. Blugh. I HATE this Waiting!

wangdoodle

Oh ilovelondontown I'm so sorry for your disappointment. It's awful when your hopes are raised like that only to be dashed. I know it's hard cause you really don't want to be waiting at all, but maybe it's wise to be a bit more careful till your agreed TTC date. I don't want to p!55 on your bonfire, but at least you would save yourself from going through this disappointment.

Having said that I could go with being a bit more careful myself and I think this has made me realise that. Also I'm a total control freak and I'd feel as though I'd been robbed of the excitement of starting properly and tracking everything properly!

Maybe you just tested too early and it's a shy bean is that what you'd like?

WD x

ilovelondontown

wangdoodle wrote: »

Oh ilovelondontown I'm so sorry for your disappointment. It's awful when your hopes are raised like that only to be dashed. I know it's hard cause you really don't want to be waiting at all, but maybe it's wise to be a bit more careful till your agreed TTC date. I don't want to p!55 on your bonfire, but at least you would save yourself from going through this disappointment.

Having said that I could go with being a bit more careful myself and I think this has made me realise that. Also I'm a total control freak and I'd feel as though I'd been robbed of the excitement of starting properly and tracking everything properly!

Maybe you just tested too early and it's a shy bean is that what you'd like?

WD x

Thanks WD that's just what I needed to hear! You're right about needing to stick to what we've planned to avoid unnecessery disappointment, I realised that today is the first time in my life I was taking a pregnancy test where a + wouldn't have resulted in me uttering the words 'oh f@uk!'

I'm trying to see the silver lining- having used opk tests for a year on an off, I've never seen a positive before, so at least now I know what I'm looking out for!

Like you said, the other side of it is that it being planned allows you to enjoy ttc so much more, I don't want it to be an 'oops' situation if I can help it. Ohhh I only hope one day when my teenagers are driving me nuts I look back and laugh at all this worry before the journey had even begun!

Jonesy88

Londontown - my what a scare! its amazing how you can want something so badly but when reality hits how you perspective can change. It is better to wait, however not waiting isnt going to result in a complete disaster either.

I have 232 days to wait - its my DFD just thought i'd explain in case anyone thought i was loony!

Miss_Bolan

Paige_Turner wrote: »

Reading all of these comments is making me desperate to come off my pill now. My libido has definitely dulled over the last couple of years, I thought it was because I was getting older and more lazy... Wondering if the pill may be a cause??

My intention is to come off the pill in October, once my current prescription runs out. OH leaves in November so probably no time to conceive before he leaves. Then I have 4 months to hope that my cycle is "normal" and regular before he comes home and we start TTC... Next April seems sooo far away

hi Paige Turner and all others!

I have been on holiday for a week so haven't been around, but I have come back and read the board with interest.

I am probably going to sound like the most stupid woman in the world here, but are most people who are 'waiting to ttc' coming off their contraception before 'trying'? It hadn't occurred to me to stop taking my pill until we were actively ttc - am I being naive?!?

I have been on the pill/contraception since a very young age (15) as i had appalling acne as a teenager and they prescribed a type of pill to help with hormones to help with acne (it didn't mind you!). I have tried others such as the injection/implant but I have been on some contraception almost my entire post puberty life! Should I be stopping? My sex drive is not great, i didnt really think about the pill having much to do with it. I don't want sex to become something we do to just make a baby.

And also, I am aware of tracking ovulation, but I thought this was more something you needed to do if you didn't 'get pregnant', am I also niave about this?

All of you ladies seem to have been so proactive when 'waiting to ttc' and I haven't done anything except set a hypothetical date for it (which was April, but is slowly creeping to xmas!)..... am i doing it wrong?

I am having a bad day today, watching One Born after 3 glasses of wine while feeling post-holiday blues (spent with 3 baby nices/nephews) was probably not the best idea....

sulphate

Had a chat with DH on holiday and he said that he doesn't want to try for a baby just yet. Reason being, I work FT and he works PT and is at uni (third year, will finish next summer). Although he earns an OK wage for the hours he does, he says he thinks it would be irresponsible for us to try for a baby now due to financial situation. I could support us on my own but as i would ideally want to go part time after we had a baby I see his point.

I was really sad about it but i suppose it's the right thing to do and i want to be a responsible parent. I don't know why I thought we were in a position now, how stupid. I'm 26 so time is on our side, I just feel gutted about it.

Maybe by christmas next year...

Also lol at how everyone else is having babies around me... I changed jobs last year but still keep in touch with some friends from my old job, and found out/realised a couple of weeks ago that NINE ladies I used to work with have either had a baby in the last year, or are now pregnant! I'm so glad I'm no longer working there! :rotfl:

Oh and Miss Bolan, you don't HAVE to come off the pill awhile before you start ttc but some ladies choose to do it because it can take a few months for your periods to come back/cycles to regulate afterwards. I first came off the pill a few years ago and didn't get a period for 5 months