Those who are waiting to TTC (New Thread)

lulu_92

*delurking*

oh dear, ladies you're not having the best of times at the moment!

I completely understand about the not wanting to be pregnant when someone else is! Hopefully if I'm successful this month I can announce after my two friends have had their babies (and hopefully be in line for hand-me-downs!). I don't think it's selfish. You see people have babies and it's like the world stops for them but not for you, and it's okay to feel that way. I get annoyed when people post anything baby-related on Facebook and about 200 people like it! I sit there and think that'll never happen with me (not that I would have a baby for Likes :rotfl:)

My TTC journey started off rocky with OH postponing it three times, so now I get sad because I could have been pregnant now if it wasn't for that, but the time will go before you know it

Faith177

Thank you all for your kind words it really helps

It so hard to talk to my friends about all the thoughts going through my head as they either a) already have children or are pregnant or b) single and not interested in children in the slightest

I know what you mean about FB at the moment it seems like everyone I know is expecting and for some of the girls I went to school with it's their second and I'm like hang on how is that fair I haven't even been able to have one yet!

I hate feeling like it but I can't help it. Even when we found out our God Daughter was on her way I felt so jealous I couldn't speak to her mum for a couple of weeks

I think I'm going to have to postpone my ttc as trying to pay off the debt we have while on maternity will just make me too stressed (I only recently dealt with my deamons regarding anxiety) and I don't think we would be able to do it as I know what OH is like

Also I want to make sure my knee is properly heeled no point having a baby then needing another op and being off my feet for ages or trying to carry while in a full leg splint :rotfl:

Also with the difficulty up until recently we though there would only be trouble on OH side so we promised ourselves a year of trying before looking into any possible issues that was decided before I found out how much trouble my Nan, Mum and Aunt had. I knew some of the details but not the full extent and now it's looking like it might be a struggle but we'll cross that bridge when it comes

justcat

My TTC Stats:

My Age/Partners age: 28/33
Time together: 9 years (married almost 5 years)
What are you waiting for?!: Buying a new house! Also making sure that I am at work long enough to qualify for full maternity benefits
When will you be TTC? From August 2015
Any preTTC prep? Weight loss and given up smoking (almost a year now)
I'm taking my mind off TTC by... I've got plenty to think about with buying our new house! Should keep occupied until at least July!

browneyedbazzi

Thank you lulu and aileth - I'm glad I'm not the only one who felt like I do and that everyone doesn't think it's bonkers/that I'm some sort of sociopath for feeling like this. I've been quite emotional about it all recently and wondered if I was just being unreasonable/silly.

LottieLou

I really really want to start TTC now, maybe not try but not-not try either. I conceived last year (abit of an "oops") but miscarried. When we 1st found out we thought we didn't have enough money, we don't have a mortgage yet and are looking for a house but the market is madness here.

Having the miscarriage made us realise what is important in life. I am also a neonatal nurse, and know too much how things don't always go to plan! (pre or post delivery). SO i really want to start now, is that stupid?! am I being irresponsible

My TTC Stats:

My Age/Partners age: 27/26

Time together: 2 years :eek: only 2!!! (we were best friends for 5 years prior)

What are you waiting for?!: ideally buying a house, moving out of rented.

Any pre TTC prep? off the pill, will start taking vitamins etc, already eat healthy and are a stable weight, become less stressed at work.

I'm taking my mind off TTC by, baking a load of bread, wandering around the internet, trying to fight my way in the housing market.

michbright

I've only got one more cycle and then our wait to TTC is over!

I don't think anyone is selfish for wanting to have their baby without the 'distraction' of another new baby around. All babies are precious and deserve to be treated as individuals. The worst thing someone once said to me was when I was pg with DD3, "Oh it's not exciting for you anymore, I suppose. It's just another baby." I was shocked, but said that of course it's exciting, simply because it is another baby! This person was childless and had no plans to have children - still childless.

I would love to have another girl as sons are treated like gods in DH's family (there is only 1 grandson out of 5 grandchildren at the moment). I feel like the girls (niece and my DDs) are already slightly sidelined in favour of The Boy, so I wouldn't want to add to that. Is that selfish? Yes, of course it is! I'm their mother and I want the best for them .

DH would be happy either way but I know he'd love a boy as he's a big kid at heart and doesn't to do things with his nephew as they live on the other side of the world, so a son would be lovely for him.

Oh, I can't wait now! Just one more cycle until we TTC

*niptuckfan*

HI All newbie here.

My TTC Stats:

My Age/Partners age: 35/35
Time together: 4 years in June
What are you waiting for?!only just had the conversation...holiday in March feels like good time to come off after
Any preTTC prep? usual vitamins and if could get a stone off i would be over the moon
I'm taking my mind off TTC by... busy just with life, work, hols, step son.

Cuilean

My Age/Partners age: 35/36
Time together: 3 years, married 1.5, friends since we were 18.
What are you waiting for?!: Return of the cycle after coming off the pill.
When will you be TTC? Hopefully in the next fortnight, cycle permitting.
Any preTTC prep? Pregnacare TTC tablets for both, exercising like a fiend, ditching junk food.
I'm taking my mind off TTC by... Trying to move house.


Seriously didn't think I would be posting on here this year, but loads of things have changed very suddenly. My job changed, we decided to relocate, and we always jokingly said when DH's sister got pregnant, we would try too because we'd want our kids to have cousins the same age. She was a total party girl, so we figured we'd have a few years, but she went and spoiled the master plan by announcing her pregnancy at xmas We've barely told anyone of our plans yet, and like Aileth, I am terrified and excited at the same time. Thanks Aileth for making me feel a bit more normal!

*niptuckfan*

can i ask the ladies like myself over 35 are you nervous with regards to your age? i feel the media makes me feel like my eggs are passed it lol

browneyedbazzi

*niptuckfan* wrote: »

can i ask the ladies like myself over 35 are you nervous with regards to your age? i feel the media makes me feel like my eggs are passed it lol

Yes, my age is the thing that worries me the most for a few reasons - there's a lot said about fertility starting to decline rapidly after 35 coupled with an increase in the risk of various complications during pregnancy/childbirth and of various abnormalities.

I also worry that leaving it later to have a child may make some aspects of parenting more difficult - ie when I was younger I could handle sleep deprivation much better, when I'm 50 and have a young child I may struggle to keep up, I may still have children at home to provide for at a time when I'd hope to be retiring from work etc etc.

Not that I'm a total nervous wreck and prone to over-worry about things, but these are some of the things that I do think about and have some concerns about.