Those who are waiting to TTC (New Thread)

michbright

Hi Cats2012

I don't think you ever truly know when you are 100% ready. I have three beautiful DDs, and I still sometimes don't feel ready - my oldest is off to senior school in September!

I've been 'ready' to have No. 4 since DD3 was about a year old, but DH has always been adamant he didn't want another until a few months ago. I think you have to go with your instincts and yes, a few months won't matter in the grand scheme of things. But, from a very practical point of view, having a baby in the autumn/winter is much better in terms of school, etc. later on (hence the reason we've been waiting to TTC this time around).

I would say go for it (but then again, I think I must be mad to be trying for No. 4 when my DD3 will be 6 by the time the next one comes along :eek:).

Good luck :T

michbright

In just 6 weeks' time, I'll embark on my final TTC journey! I've started with the pre-conception vitamins already and have already started mentally preparing a list of what we need because we got rid of the cot, clothes, slings and nappies after DD3. Luckily I couldn't quite bring myself to get rid of the car seat and push chairs - 2 push chairs were brand new with DD3, so are still in good condition :T.

I feel so sick today as I've finally caught the horrible bug that's been doing the rounds here - caught it off a friend last week .

I'm off to bed, feeling sorry for myself, while DH is working his last night shift of the year - just had to say that .

Hope you all have a lovely New Year and see you in 2015!

cats2012

Thanks michbright really appreciate your reply! I completely agree about Autumn/Winter and I meant to say actually that that's why it's sort of now or end of year for me as (naively assuming for ease no prematurity or anything) now would be due from Oct onwards. Original plan was start properly TTC from Dec '15 onwards for same logic.

So hard, but thanks again!!

Beckyy

Cat2012, I've had both of those things happen recently too and it's made me ask the same questions. We're likely to have some work changes that we need to let pass and remortgage once our fix is up later this year so still a good wait for us but I would certainly consider now if you feel like it could be right, providing you're work/finances are as comfortable as they'll ever be.

Faith177

Having a feeling sorry for myself day today in terms of waiting ttc so please bare with me

Our gorgeous God Daughter Clara was born on the 2nd Jan and we are over the moon for her mum & dad and can't wait to start spoiling her

However it has really hit home that I am desperate to cross over from waiting to trying but we just aren't in the right place yet as we still have a fair whack of debt left over but I thought this would be our year to start clearing a huge chunk of this off as I just got promoted and OH is due a promotion in a few months time. Then it all went t i t s up

Went to the doctors today for a check up on my knee following a dislocation a few months ago and the news isn't good the damage is a hell of a lot worst than what they originally thought which means I need 1 if not 2 ops the waiting list is 3 -12 months. Each one has a recovery time of anything between 4-6 weeks for one op and 6+ for the other

I'm maxed out on sick leave at the moment so I have a feeling if it is anytime up till Oct then I will just be on SSP which is going to really put a limit on our ability to clear this debt off as I ideally need to be saving money for my time off incase we need it

Added in with the fact we are anticipating trouble ttc anyway due to family history on both sides and information OH has been given by his doctor and the fact I'm fast approaching 30 I feel like I'm never going to get the chance to cross over and we might aswell give up now and just accept that we might never have a child of our own

I know I'm being really stupid over this but I just feel totally dejected and fed up why can't we catch a break and just be able to get our lives going forward

Sorry to dampen all of your days but I just needed a moan

dinglefoot

My TTC Stats:

My Age/Partners age: 23 & 23

Time together: Just over 6 and a half years, marrying in 5 and a half months

What are you waiting for?!: We are both working full-time and bought our house two and a half years ago...waiting to have the finances to TTC. I don't know how you know when you are financially stable enough to have a child and how I'm going to afford childcare/to stay at home On top of that I do a part time degree which lasts another 5 years, but I don't want to wait until I'm 28. The career/education/motherhood dilemma is so difficult and I'm not sure I can balance it all, even though my OH is so supportive!

When will you be TTC? Hopefully September 2015. My parents were 18 & 20, so I've always wanted to be a young parent. I've been broody since I was 18, but it's been been getting consistently worse over the last year or so. My OH has always supported my broodiness, but has expressed over the last year or so that he too feels ready now.

Any preTTC prep? Nope. Currently desperately trying to continue not being pregnant because I want to be able to wear my wedding dress!

I'm taking my mind off TTC by... Working full-time, doing a part-time degree, planning for the wedding and having cuddles with my cat, the closest thing we have to the child we long for

lazysundays

Faith177 wrote: »

Having a feeling sorry for myself day today in terms of waiting ttc so please bare with me

Our gorgeous God Daughter Clara was born on the 2nd Jan and we are over the moon for her mum & dad and can't wait to start spoiling her

However it has really hit home that I am desperate to cross over from waiting to trying but we just aren't in the right place yet as we still have a fair whack of debt left over but I thought this would be our year to start clearing a huge chunk of this off as I just got promoted and OH is due a promotion in a few months time. Then it all went t i t s up

Went to the doctors today for a check up on my knee following a dislocation a few months ago and the news isn't good the damage is a hell of a lot worst than what they originally thought which means I need 1 if not 2 ops the waiting list is 3 -12 months. Each one has a recovery time of anything between 4-6 weeks for one op and 6+ for the other

I'm maxed out on sick leave at the moment so I have a feeling if it is anytime up till Oct then I will just be on SSP which is going to really put a limit on our ability to clear this debt off as I ideally need to be saving money for my time off incase we need it

Added in with the fact we are anticipating trouble ttc anyway due to family history on both sides and information OH has been given by his doctor and the fact I'm fast approaching 30 I feel like I'm never going to get the chance to cross over and we might aswell give up now and just accept that we might never have a child of our own

I know I'm being really stupid over this but I just feel totally dejected and fed up why can't we catch a break and just be able to get our lives going forward

Sorry to dampen all of your days but I just needed a moan

Sorry you're so down about it. We're also waiting for financial reasons (saving for a house). its so frustrating. I'm hesitant to offer advice because I'm really not sure what you should do for the best. However, I do think that if you're worried about being able to conceive (although ithinkeveryone feels that way) especislly as a result of medical reasons, maybe you should rethink your plans. You'll still be able to pay off debt with a baby and you'll have at least 9 months to continue to save/pay off debts before the baby arrives. Sorry I can't be more help; however,I just wanted to post and say that youre not alone

browneyedbazzi

Faith177 wrote: »

Having a feeling sorry for myself day today in terms of waiting ttc so please bare with me

Our gorgeous God Daughter Clara was born on the 2nd Jan and we are over the moon for her mum & dad and can't wait to start spoiling her

However it has really hit home that I am desperate to cross over from waiting to trying but we just aren't in the right place yet as we still have a fair whack of debt left over but I thought this would be our year to start clearing a huge chunk of this off as I just got promoted and OH is due a promotion in a few months time. Then it all went t i t s up

Went to the doctors today for a check up on my knee following a dislocation a few months ago and the news isn't good the damage is a hell of a lot worst than what they originally thought which means I need 1 if not 2 ops the waiting list is 3 -12 months. Each one has a recovery time of anything between 4-6 weeks for one op and 6+ for the other

I'm maxed out on sick leave at the moment so I have a feeling if it is anytime up till Oct then I will just be on SSP which is going to really put a limit on our ability to clear this debt off as I ideally need to be saving money for my time off incase we need it

Added in with the fact we are anticipating trouble ttc anyway due to family history on both sides and information OH has been given by his doctor and the fact I'm fast approaching 30 I feel like I'm never going to get the chance to cross over and we might aswell give up now and just accept that we might never have a child of our own

I know I'm being really stupid over this but I just feel totally dejected and fed up why can't we catch a break and just be able to get our lives going forward

Sorry to dampen all of your days but I just needed a moan

Hi Faith, don't worry about dampening anyone's day - this board is all about being able to share how your feeling/what you're thinking with others and more than anything I think we all need somewhere to express our frustrations/upsets with people who may be able to understand.

I used to be a regular on the old wtttc thread but when I changed jobs and moved to a new area then started studying for a qualification that meant a long delay I stopped posting...mostly because it seemed so far away and posting/reading the thread and seeing people come and go was a reminder of just how long my wait would be.

There was a point about a 9 months that I thought '!!!!!! this, we're in a much better position than most people who are having babies, we should just do it.' It all went wrong when OHs sister (who had been quite difficult through out her pregnancy) had her baby and really struggled with post natal depression. We were spending a fair bit of time helping out and it was all quite stressful. I think it shocked my partner how badly she was affected and how a really smart capable woman just wasn't coping. I thought it probably wasn't the right time to suggest we go for it!

Things had started to get better late summer. I was studying for my last difficult lot of exams and thought that once they were out of the way (November) it would be our turn. We'd settled into our new house, I'd been in my new job 2 years, we're in a good place financially and I was turning 35 so thought things were right (and that the clock was ticking quite loudly because I'm likely to have some issues with conceiving and carrying a baby to term).

Then the week of my birthday OH's sister dropped the bombshell that she is pregnant again. So the wait was extended again - partly out of concern for how things would go for her and I suppose also partly because I (probably quite selfishly and childishly) don't want to be pregnant/have a new baby at the same time as her because our relationship is difficult at the best of times and I (again selfishly and childishly) want my time to be mine.

Sorry for the rather long and rambling post, but what I'm really trying to say is that although our situations and the reasons for our delays are quite different, I can sympathise with your frustration and feeling down. If you need to vent or moan or anything else, this is as good a place as any to do it!

aileth

My TTC Stats:

My Age/Partners age: 27/32
Time together: 6 years, married 4.
What are you waiting for?!: I finished the depo after five-six years on it about six months ago. Basically waiting for my period to rear its head again, so could be any time from six months to a year from now.
When will you be TTC? As soon as my period starts again!
Any preTTC prep? Taking folic acid, going teetotal, losing weight and basically making my body a temple.
I'm taking my mind off TTC by... cooking and baking like mad! I might be losing weight but my husband is going to be a fully certified fatty!

I have to say though, as excited as I am to start TTC, I am absolutely petrified at the same time. I've talked to my sister and my mum, both of which dismiss it with, "You'll be fine." It will be my first and I am absolutely terrified. I know nothing about babies, or ovulation, or pregnancy, or anything like that!

aileth

browneyedbazzi wrote: »

Then the week of my birthday OH's sister dropped the bombshell that she is pregnant again. So the wait was extended again - partly out of concern for how things would go for her and I suppose also partly because I (probably quite selfishly and childishly) don't want to be pregnant/have a new baby at the same time as her because our relationship is difficult at the best of times and I (again selfishly and childishly) want my time to be mine.

I don't think this is selfish or childish at all! We would've TTC earlier (if it weren't for the depo) but then my sister-in-law is due in March and we would've waited till her baby was born and the initial new baby flush from everyone was over. It's not often you can get lavished with attention so much, I'd want to enjoy it fully without anyone else in my spotlight! :rotfl: