Those who are waiting to TTC (New Thread)

a_fresh_start

Hi i've been a lurker for the past few weeks, and have just joined the TTC board today eek.

However had to respond to saver-j:

I could have written your post. we are 30/31 and been together 13 years. I have always had a reason not to get pregnant - busy with degree, getting professional qualifications, house, life, holidays etc.....OH has always wanted and now there is no reason to delay and that terrifies me!!! Its exciting but in a scary way.

I finished my pill 6 weeks ago, and started taking folic acid. I had a usual breakthrough bleed as per usual then 4 weeks after that I had a normal period. I had forgotten how bad the experience was, as I had went on the pill at 16 due to crippling period pains. So apart from having a few spots pop up on my chin:eek:, and a day lying on the sofa in my pjs hugging 2 hot water bottles (one for my back one for my belly) last saturday, its fine:rotfl: luckily this happened on a saturday, so goodness knows if it falls on a work day...

anyways hope to see you over on the other thread soon, as it would be nice to speak to folk just starting out too:o

Beckly

I've been lurking for a while too and finally decided to post myself.

My Age/Partners age: 22/37
Time together: 2 years this Christmas
What are you waiting for?!: to live together. He's promised we can start trying once we are secure in living together (we both want kids before he's 40 so don't mind not being married so much.
When will you be TTC? Hopefully moving in early November so probably early next year as his job is manic over Christmas and I want us to settle first.
Any preTTC prep? I have a strange paranoia that I'm infertile, so no. I haven't even told my OH this (the joys of forum anonymity) but I just have this feeling I won't be able to have children. It has no basis but somehow I feel that if I don't prepare I won't be so disappointed when I fail.

saver-j

Hi all.
Lulu that's the kind of reaction I was expecting as well. Maybe I'll mention if I go for something else but prob won't bother making a special appointment.

A fresh start, that totally sounds like me! DH definitely more ready than me over the last few years, in fact if he was the one who could be pregnant we'd probably already have a baby! Oh and thanks for the lovely reassurance of what it might be like off the pill :rotfl: Who am I kidding that sounds like my cd1 even on the pill, but at least on it I ensure its a Saturday.

And hi beckly, good luck with the move. I have that paranoia sometimes too, but then my more rational side kicks in and reminds me not to worry about something that may not happen.

Night all, have a good week.

lilmissreading

*delurk*

I am 34 and was on the pill pretty much continuously since the age of 17. I used to have awful period pains, hormonal swings, highly irregular cycle and hot flushes.

I can't comment too much on how awful it was after coming off as we were extremely fortunate that I came off the pill in November and my last period started 6th January which was the official start of this pregnancy. My period was not too bad. We (I) was in the psychological state of not trying to not get pregnant so it was a lovely surprise! My DH is also definitely the more broody one.

I was convinced I would have fertility problems (my mum had some) and right up to the point of the 12 week scan I was genuinely terrified that the scan would reveal no one in there and that I was mad. Madness seemed more likely than luck!

We didn't do anything special to help pg at that time and I didn't speak to any one (GP etc) beforehand. I have to say, just so you know, that the NHS isn't terribly interested in conception/early pg. I saw a mw at 7 weeks, a 20 minute scan at 12 weeks, mw at 16 weeks, last scan at 20 weeks. It's not much contact but the point is the little life is so small at that stage that there is not much they can see or say! It's where the forums have been a lifeline.

Good luck ladies!

*relurking*

Beckyy

A 2nd one of my old friends from school has announced she's expecting. Really happy for her also, but makes me feel like I'm a bit behind. Trying to be realistic about where I go after my current course, in all honesty it depends on how the next year or two pans out but I know that I would like to start a family after it, however it would mean a total halt in my career progression unless I manage to go up the ladder before then, which is unlikely.

Beckly

saver-j wrote: »

then my more rational side kicks in and reminds me not to worry about something that may not happen.

Thanks, it's nice to know I'm not the only person who worries about this. I've thought about going to the doctors and asking for a fertility test but I don't think they'd take my seriously (they also have a history or losing by samples so I'm of to sure I'd trust them).

If I told them just how paranoid I am - I lie awake at night worrying, have days where it's all I can think about and it interferes with my day, etc - do you think there's something a doctor could do for me?

Some days it makes me more keen to try because if i did get pregnant I could stop worrying; but other days it makes me want to put it off forever cause I can always rationalise "there's no reason why I can't".

I know I overthink this a lot and I'm probably fine and obviously there are always other options, but I've wanted a baby since I was about 13 and I'd be heartbroken if I couldn't conceive.

nurse1980

Hi everyone, I've been lurking on this thread for a while but now the date is getting closer I thought I would join in

First My TTC Stats:

My Age/Partners age: 34/40
Time together: 8 years
What are you waiting for?!: wanted three year age gap between first and second child. The main reason is that we are off on holiiday in November so wanted to wait until after that.
When will you be TTC? November/December 2024
Any preTTC prep? Just folic acid like last time
I'm taking my mind off TTC by...being busy doesn't give me much time to think about it!

It happened very quickly with our first so hopefully will be the same second time around.

michbright

Hi All!

I've also joined the TTC board, but Lulu 92 kindly pointed me to this board as well

My TTC Stats:

My Age/Partners age: 37/44
Time together: 12 years (married after just 6 weeks together )
What are you waiting for?!: Timing of due date
When will you be TTC? January 2015 onwards
Any preTTC prep? Not yet, just thinking of all the things we need (again)
I'm taking my mind off TTC by... hhhmmm, not sure I am .

I already have 3 DDs (10, 8 and 5) and don't want a third summer baby, nor do I want a baby born September 2015 as DD1 and 2 have a show in London in September, so we can't miss that.

DH and I have a history of conceiving quickly, so don't want to take any chances.

Am I scared at the thought of having a 4th baby? Absolutely!!! DD2 and 3 had a very rare form on epilepsy known as Infantile Spasms, which normally has a very, very poor prognosis. However, they are part of the 0.002% of chidren who come out unscathed. To date, we have no answer as to why DD2 had it, let alone why DD3 had it. So yes, I am absolutely, completely, white knuckle terrified that it will happen again. But, you know what? We survived it twice and I'm sure we could survive it again. Besides, DD1 didn't ever have it, so there's a chance No. 4 could be fine.

Anyway, enough rambling from me .

Sethisis

Hey Alice_Kate.

If you're anything like me, you'll be secretly hoping you are pregnant :rotfl:, but I get this bleed any time I miss two or more pills. I never have periods on cerazette, but if I miss a couple I have light spotting for a day or so without fail. The cramps happen as well, but they're mild. Test anyway for peace of mind, and also because you'll need to know if you are.

Btw, I don't often miss pills, but I have been on them a while and it happens from time to time.

Beckyy

It's normal to have a withdrawal bleed if you miss pills.

I'm not sure about cerazette exactly but have a read of the leaflet int he box and it should say whether you should take the pills you missed and carry on as normal or forget about them. It makes a difference how far into the pack you are too I think.

No harm in testing to see one way or another