Those who are waiting to TTC (New Thread)

wangdoodle

Good luck with your coil removal Cookiee

JellyBox

I had a point when two of my work colleagues (both lovely, wonderful people) were pregnant and I was so insanely jealous and longed for it to be me so, so much I managed to confuse my body into doing some bizarre things. I had some sort of sympathetic pregnancy symptoms, but then obviously once I'd started to accept it wasn't me, I then had to "lose" the sympathy thing and I bled for a few days and everything ached and I just felt hollow and empty for several weeks. Along with all this, I was working in the baby department of a shop, and was an utter mess for about 3-4 weeks. Bloody weird, and I hope my body never goes through that again, there was more to it than I can explain and I really felt like I might be carrying, and then losing, something.

Anyway, not meant to be a story topper, just a hint at how mental this whole waiting thing can be, a cry is basically normal, it's almost well adjusted behaviour!

One day I'll be less mental, hopefully before I have to raise a child :P

ilovelondontown

I love my female friends and wouldn't be without them but I really do have a bit of love for the wttc group in a way nobody who isn't wttc could understand- I don't just sit here and read and reply, I sit here and nod and smile and feel a lovely sense of understanding when I reply to this thread

For the wttc literature, I've got my nose in: What to expect before your expecting (I really am not allowed to read the original yet!) TCOYF (got in the charity shop for £2!!) and I read in about 48 hours flat, Jules Oliver "Minus Nine to One. "

Recommend them all and now need a new baby book, any suggestions?

Miss_Bolan

Thanks wangdoodle and Ilovelondon for the suggestions, I will try and eBay or amazon them. I am also boot fairing it on Sunday and may have a look then.

Im a bit of a boot fair obsessive and it's one of my waiting to TTC 'goals', I keep thinking 'at next years boot fairs I'll be looking for my baby stuff'. I loved going with my sister when she was TTC and it gave her plenty of chance to stock up (she was buying baby stuff a year before she was even pregnant!)

cookiee- I just wanted to say I never replied to your original post. I cant imagine what youve been through and how it must make your 'waiting to TTC' journey so much harder. Good luck with the coil removal I hope all goes well. And money is a struggle a lot of us face, there is no way I could be debt free before TTC (I would be really baby crazy if I waited that long, bar any lottery win that is!) however I want to be less in debt than now, and im working on it as much as I can while also trying to save a bit!

cottage_retreatist

hey ladies! I was recommended 'my pregnancy bible' as a really good straightforward intro to the whole subject - supposedly there's even a section for the OHs -hopefully won't freak them all out too much - maybe leave that til we're all with our little beans!! :rotfl:

Haven't got it yet - but am tempted to get some books to start reading up -although there's something about that which really will cement -we are thinking of doing this!!

wangdoodle - the tablets are from healthspan - http://www.healthspan.co.uk/pregnancy/ - they're on discount at the moment and i've got an additional 20% off voucher code - do message me if you're interested!

and the OH was 100% behind the tablets so just a little sign that he's still on board with the TTC project once we're machines from the folic acid!! :rotfl:

getting excited!
have a good evening ladies x

Sethisis

Jellybox It really is weird what the body can do to you when you've got babies on the brain! If I'm honest, I manage to convince myself I'm pregnant every couple of months, starting to feel tired and sick and achy etc. Even though I know there's no chance, my body just seems to act like it. It's incredibly draining and disappointing.

ilovelondontown It's definitely nice to have people to talk to who are also wttc, most of my friends have no idea about the sheer frustration of this. It's a shame to see there are so many people struggling with it though.

And congratulations to all of you starting to get your bodies ready!

jojo-baby

Hey ladies, can i join in please?
I just want a baby, im broody as h*ll!!! Colleague showed me pics of his grand daughter the other day and i tried to only say "how cute" 3 times, and not say "i want some NOW"!! hahaha:rotfl:

My life is not conducive to baby right now. i work all over the world, for 8 weeks at a time. im not even sure if i would be "allowed" to do my job if i got pregnant. i dont think its that dangerous, but after 5 years doing it, its normal for me!

In fact what would happen if i got pregnant, can they stop me from doing my job? what would happen then? hmm plenty questions...

more issues, i live in the UK other half lives in Netherlands. but that will be fixed soooooon

i want to be married first, seems important to me, although not so much to OH, but he knows that i want to get married. he told me the other day i was wedding obsessed. i thought i had been holding that in oops!:rotfl:

currently have an IUD implant (no idea if that is the correct name) i was useless with the pill, could never work out what to do when i was flying to work on the other-side of the world. :rotfl:

So i guess my order is this
1. move to live with OH
2. get him to propose
3. get married
4. find new job
5. TTC

writing it like that makes it seem like it will never happen!!!
My TTC Stats:

My Age/Partners age: 27/33
Time together: 3
What are you waiting for?!: Currently we dont live in the same country! Im moving to live with him in September!! Want to get married first (otherwise i will be ex-communicated from the family by grand-mother!). Need to get a new job, this one i am "home" 4 months of the year!
When will you be TTC? dont know... too many hurdles to jump over yet
Any preTTC prep? ermm. nothing. and i dont know anything about TTC, except that i want to be!
I'm taking my mind off TTC by... .im kinda failing at this one!

kacie

Hi Jojo, can you try and find a new job as soon as you've moved to be with him? Would that be easier than waiting til after you are married?

jojo-baby

hi kacie,
Unfortunately my job is a strange one, weirdly addictive. i have an amazing job, ok its long hours and stressfull. but i get to be outside and have a lot of fun.
the idea of moving to another country is terrifying (weird as i happily travel the world for work - committment issues!) and then having to get an office job, i dont know if i could cope in an office 9-5 with women and office politics. the guys i work with a cross between fishermen and builders.... you can imagine, dodgy minds, but very straightforward and simple to work with.

my whole life is changing right now.... having to decide to stop the best life in the world to have a really wanted baby, its all rather confusing.
i know i love my job, and i know i want a baby (desperately) but they two dont mix.....

sorry that was a rather confused mumble. oops:(

being more rational, i am looking a bit for new jobs. hoping to find something in the next year or so..... (hopefully by then he might have proposed as well.....!!!)

ThinkPink

Hello everyone.

I will have a proper catch up in a mo, but wanted to say hi first as Ive been on holiday for 2 weeks and have missed catching up with you all!! Had a lovely holiday, it seemed strange though as me and my oh said a few times 'this holiday is so lovely, but hopefully this will be the last one for a couple of years'!!

So I will take my last pill tomorrow and will start taking folic acid today!!:j:T:j