Those who are waiting to TTC (New Thread)

jojo-baby

Hi ThinkPink.
That sounds so exciting, the conversation with your OH and taking your last pill......

ThinkPink

jojo-baby wrote: »

Hi ThinkPink.
That sounds so exciting, the conversation with your OH and taking your last pill......

It is exciting but I also find the whole idea SO scary!! I hope Im not the only one who feels like this!!

If I think about things too much I start talking myself out of the whole thing so I just need to not think about it (ie labour!!) too much!

jojo-baby

Dont even mention the word labour to me, im completely terrified, even more so if you know something about giving birth in the netherlands...... they dont have gas and air and think everyone should give birth at home if possible... this is what i read, i didnt read far, was tooo scared by that point!

and yeah i agree, as much as i want this, its also terrifying! i think (and hope) thats normal

Faith177

Hi all

New to this thread but have seen it crop up a few times and tonight I really need to have a moan if you all wouldn't mind.

Me and OH got married in April this year we have been together 5 years in November.We would like to have children in the future but at the moment their are a few obstacles in our path.

The main one is the fact we don't even live together ATM. OH took a promotion nearly a year ago that involved him moving 80 miles away due to the nature of his work we see each over 1 sometimes 2 evenings a week so that would make raising a child quite difficult

The second big one is that OH was told when he was about 17 that he may not be able to have children. He had to have a number of procedures when he was in his mid-late teens and they have warned him it may have caused damage. He hasn't been tested yet as he isn't ready to go down that path

The third is money we have a bit of debt left over from a few years of bad luck with health (me) & losing a job (him) and we would like to free some of this up first to be in a better position.

The last problem is we have no support network where I live at the moment. His family are in the midlands mine are all in Scotland so no-one really about to lend a helping hand when needed.

I have come to accept all of the above and know it will be a while before we start even trying so why is it I am suddenly getting so jealous of everyone around me having babies. In my office alone there are currently 7 woman due to have a baby in the next 4-5 months another 5 have had babies in the last 18 months. To add to all this my cousin has just announced her 2nd baby her 1st only turned 1 in May!

One of my good friends at work made a passing comment today about how it would be my turn next and all I wanted to do was bite her head off.

That's the other thing I'm sick of people keep asking me when we are planning on having our first or making the it will be you soon comment. Especially my MIL she is obsessed every time she speaks to me she asks it's really wearing me down.

I feel totally stuck like everyone else is able to get on with their lives but I will have to spend the next 5 years treading water till it's my turn. :mad:

I hate feeling like this but some days the feeling is so overwhelming I just can't shut it off.

Sorry to burden you all with my moans but I just needed to get all of this off my chest thanks for reading xx

pinkangeluk

My TTC Stats:

My Age/Partners age: 31/32
Time together: 2 1/2 yrs
What are you waiting for?!: To finish doing up our house, for my contract at work to become permanent, to loose a little weight, save some money, but mainly for my OH to be ready for one!
When will you be TTC? dont know... too many hurdles to jump over yet
Any preTTC prep? Not yet.
I'm taking my mind off TTC by... . Trying to make the most of time without children.

Hi! Have been watching this thread for a little while and felt the need to join in today as feeling most frustrated!

I'm in a little bit of a different situation as I already have a nearly 9 year old daughter from a previous relationship and 2 step children. Have been with other half for nearly 3 years and I would love us to have a child together but ideally he would like to wait until its nearly too late to TTC. He once said when I'm 40!

Most of the barriers to TTC will be gone in about a year and he has agreed to set a proper date for TTC then. I became a single mum when my daughter was a few months old and have always wanted another child, but its taken this long to be in the right relationship, buy a house, work my way into a good job etc. So, it feels like I've already been waiting for 8 years.

I kept all my daughters baby things in my mum's loft and shes been hassling me to empty it since we bought our house this year. So today I went over and got my first car load and have just starting sorting boxes in my kitchen. Its got all my daughters first clothes in and assorted baby things and looking at it all has just made me cry. I just know OH will say to get rid of it all because hes very anti clutter and selling things on ebay etc, but the thought of it being gone makes me feel like we'll never need it for a baby. At the same time though looking at the stuff makes me want a baby more so maybe I should just let it go.

We've both been in relationships that have gone wrong quite quickly after having children, so I know I want everything right before going down that road. Just most frustrating today.

Estateprincess

Afternoon, please can I join you all?
I have spent most of the day with some of my closest friends and their little ones (plus a very nearly cooked bump) and despite trying to convince myself that I am glad I don’t have to lug a car seat around or clean dirty bums or wipe up messy faces I am feeling a little broody!

My TTC Stats:

My Age/Partners age: 26(nearly 27)/47
Time together: 4 ½ years
What are you waiting for?!: Saving enough money to allow myself about 3 months off work for maternity leave, as I’m self employed.
Also, OH already has children that came along after a really short period in his previous relationship and he wants us to enjoy our time together as much as possible while it is just the two of us. I can see the sense and logic behind this and on the days when we enjoy a long lie in and a lazy day not really doing much I can most definitely understand his point of view! However, I am becoming more and more broody as time goes on!
We would also like to purchase the house we are currently renting but I have to sell my house that I own with the ex so we can transfer the mortgage and the market isn’t playing ball at the moment!

When will you be TTC? If all goes to plan I aim to stop taking my pill in about a year and then we’ll let nature takes its course.

Any preTTC prep? We have just recently adopted the 5:2
lifestyle (I dislike the word diet) so are trying to generally get healthier. I am also planning to redecorate most of our house over the next year as we have been here 4 years and it is looking tired plus I want to put my own stamp on the place. (I have chosen colours for the spare bedrooms that will be suitable for a nursery when the time comes so it will save money when we do have a little one on the way. Just don’t tell OH, he thinks the colour scheme is to fit in with some ornaments he has chosen that currently don’t have a home )

I'm taking my mind off TTC by.... Working, saving, enjoying being with OH and doing things to please ourselves, getting healthier and driving around in my unpractical but gorgeous and fun car!! (Which, by the way, I won’t be giving up – it has iso-fix and room for a small pram and I Love It, plus we have a ‘family’ car so we will be keeping our ‘fun’ car too – So There to everyone that keeps telling me otherwise )
Also spending time with my friends and their babies/children and then being glad when I can leave the crying/dirty nappies/toys everywhere to other people and go home to my nice quiet tidy home!

I am the last one to have a baby out of my group of close friends and now all I ever get is “when are you going to join us so we can all be Mums together!!!!!”

Sorry for the very long post!

ThinkPink

Oh its been very quiet on here!

Hello and welcome to the recent joiners of the thread. Fingers crossed you wttc journey is a short and easy one, and for those with a longer wait have fun enjoying plenty of 'us' time with your partners.

Well Ive not been up to much, Ive stopped taking my pill and find it very strange not taking it every day- and Im useless at remembering to take my folic acid as its hidden away in a drawer in the kitchen as I dont want anyone to see it!!

How is everyone?x

Sethisis

Hello ThinkPink,

It must be exciting to move off the contraceptive pill and onto folic acid! You could always try keeping it in an old pill box, then take them when you used to take your old pills? It's weird getting used to a new pill routine.

I finished my pills today, which was our cue for starting ttc... but as we're not there yet I've had to go and pick up another few months worth.

But more "us" time with my partner will be wonderful, I'm sure we'll miss it when we have kids!

Hope everyone else is doing well

ThinkPink

I may do that Sethisis. I guess I could have them on bedside cabinet, not many people are likely to see them there (and if say my Sister visits I can put them in the drawer!!)

We have so much 'us' time that I do worry that we wont have any once we have a child, but I guess we will just have to make the effort to try and squeeze some in when we can.

Oh sorry your not quite there with ttc, how much longer do you think you will be wttc?

sedment

Hi all, im looking to join this thread please!! Some of my stats are

Im 34 oh is 38
Aiming to come off the pill in January and we were going to start ttc then, but (and im not meaning to sound ungrateful) my mum and dad are treating us to a ai holiday in may and I dont want to miss out !!! We have been together for almost 10 yrs and have two lovely children already. We are feeling a bit of pressure to have more from my mum, but have not let on to anyone what we want.