Married 3 months ,husband just told me he is bisexual help!!

Errata

Has it not occurred to you that if your OH is bisexual he'd be as keen to have sex with you, in a great many varied positions and as often, as a straight man? That's what bi means.
He'd be looking at lots and lots of straight !!!!!!. That's what bi means.
He isn't bi - he's gay.

Calien27

I have to agree Errata, he's gay.

Why would you want to settle with never being intimate in a position where you truly are being intimate with one another with eye contact and kissing versus not even seeing each others faces.

As mean as it might sound, he likes that position for a reason, because he can fantasize he's with a man.

Janey3

As for sex between us if I accept the missionary position is a no no I think things could approve as expectation puts pressure to perform does not help


Believe me, you will end up feeling like a slab of meat, used, unloved and resentful as time goes on.

I also, sadly, believe your OH is gay.

I wish you all the best for the future.

eschaton

Errata wrote: »

Has it not occurred to you that if your OH is bisexual he'd be as keen to have sex with you, in a great many varied positions and as often, as a straight man? That's what bi means.
He'd be looking at lots and lots of straight !!!!!!. That's what bi means.
He isn't bi - he's gay.

Bisexual is his buzz word to cover up the real him.

All his urges are men, his !!!!!! need is men, all he wants is a man and a convenient front aka OP.

Just imagine when the kids start asking questions regarding whereabouts. Where is stepdad tonight? Oh, he's just away out humping some random guy he met in a chat room in cyberland. He will be home to give me cuddles because he loves me that much in a little while.

System

As for sex between us if I accept the missionary position is a no no I think things could approve as expectation puts pressure to perform does not help

If my man couldn't bear to look at me whilst he was having sex with me i'd know there was something very wrong.

tracytaxi

Hi , he does like to hold me and look at me prior and before ,just doesn't work in missionary , he does appear to fancy me too , but I am tired of all this just want to run away

Seanymph

The thing is he can fake holding you and looking at you - he can't fake the sex act, and for that he needs to be looking at the back of your head - the rest wouldnt' console me for very long I'm afraid.

Sweetie you deserve better, why are you making excuses about why it's ok for him to do this to you?

paulineb_2

tracytaxi wrote: »

Hi , he does like to hold me and look at me prior and before ,just doesn't work in missionary , he does appear to fancy me too , but I am tired of all this just want to run away

Im sure you are but you have options, try and resolve this which might be a hard task, or end the marriage.

tracytaxi

Hi everyone , guess the only person that knows for sure is my husband ! he has no income and no access to a loan so can't pay anything ,all bills are in my name too ! I am a hard working sensible lady ,not stunning but not a troll lol , just wanted to be loved and appreciated is it too much in this world feel like giving up

Slinky

I feel so sorry for you OP. Whatever you do, do not allow him to/push him into 'consumating' your marriage while you are trying to come to terms with what you have discovered.

All the financial assets appear to be yours, do nothing which will allow him to get his hands on them if you decide to walk away from this.