Married 3 months ,husband just told me he is bisexual help!!

Pechow

Have you asked him if he'll go to both the doctor (for the medical issues) and therapy/counselling/psychologist?

tracytaxi

Yes and he would and have spoken to gp

Calien27

Well it's good that he's willing to talk about everything!

Don't forget to take care of yourself as well! There are organizations out there that deal specifically with this type of thing, don't hesitate to call one if you need to.

Yorkie1

Tracy I really feel for you, this has been an awful shock to assimilate and then talk through.

You've been given a lot of advice on here, some of it in very strong terms.

I have a sense that you might be starting to go round in circles now with the intensity of talking / posting?

Apart from the longstop date of a year for the annulment application (is that still 8-9 months away?), there is no absolute necessity to make any decisions right now. You need time to let the dust settle for both of you and for your heads to clear a little.

I agree with the others who have suggested counselling, whether separately or together.

Keep strong and try not to panic too much as everything rushes through your head.

tracytaxi

Thank you head going around and round. Feeling ill

paulineb_2

tracytaxi wrote: »

Hi everyone , guess the only person that knows for sure is my husband ! he has no income and no access to a loan so can't pay anything ,all bills are in my name too ! I am a hard working sensible lady ,not stunning but not a troll lol , just wanted to be loved and appreciated is it too much in this world feel like giving up

You can be loved and appreciated by people that you aren't in a romantic relationship with.

Personally I think you've had such abusive relationships in the past you are looking for someone to make you happy and theres nothing wrong with that, but you need to be happy with you before you'll be happy with anyone else.

Have you ever had counselling for the abuse you suffered at the hands of your ex partners?

Im afraid this isn't going to go away, you are going to have to make some decisions soon but you might need some professional support to get there.

elsien

Do you think you should take a break from this thread for a while, or at least stop answering everyone/ justifying yourself. It seems to me as its the same ground being covered at the moment, with people posting things that have already been said several times.
If you're finding it helpful as an outlet then fine, if not then back off for a bit. At the end of the day none of us know you or OH, a lot of it is speculation. We can advise, comment, try to help but maybe you now need to just give yourself time to let it all sink in.

tracytaxi

Hi yes I was going to close the thread but some people asked me not to ,thanks for your help everyone will ask moderators to close it at three today

tracytaxi

By the way I have to try to answer everyone as it would be rude not to

Panda78

Hi Tracy,

I haven't commented yet, but have just read all the posts. Could you consider divorce and staying friends? You say he is your best friend and considering how much you both care for each other, i would say you have always been more like friends, as the sex has always been difficult one way or another.

Why would you need to cut him from your life completely? So you lose a marriage, but if he is a caring to you and your kids as you say, then keep him as a friend, but live your own lives with the partners you need in future.

The missionary position is more about hiding his feelings than just indicating he is gay. Perhaps people think this imitates gay sex more, but in reality most gay men experiment with other positions a lot more than the standard one from behind, especially those in relationships who want the intimicay of kissing and cuddling during the act. 5 inches is also not small, so that's another excuse IMO.

Don't feel you need to reply, i'm just thinking out loud in the hope it helps, i know you want to close the thread today.

Best of luck to you both, life's too short to be unhappy for long x