Married 3 months ,husband just told me he is bisexual help!!

Panda78

Just trying to keep track, so OP, you were a carer to your ex husband and now also care for your current husband? Whilst raising 3 kids in the process.

Aside from infidelities and i'm not sure if you mentioned any violence in your previous marriage, i'd say you have coped with enough to be able to survive this divorce. You have not been together for anywhere near as long as your first marriage lasted, so there's no need to feel like your life isn't worth living. It clearly is. Things change, they get better or worse all the time, but it always goes on.

lostinrates

tracytaxi wrote: »

Well that's all folks going for a coffee and will contact a moderator on my return to close thread thanks for helpful comments ,at the end of the day only I can sort this so best face it alone ,and Jellie spot on about mum ! I am ,sadly lacking in knowledge of positions though but thanks x

Good for you.

But can I suggest you explore the options of positions. If you are decide to try to stay with your partner, you are going to both need to make an effort to find things that excite BOTH of you.

Calien27

Stay strong OP, you're not a failure or a disaster at all. Life doesn't always work out the way we hoped or imagined that's all.

Good luck, I hope you can sort everything out.

tracytaxi

Yes I was a carer for my ex husband and we are now all friends ! And a carer for current husband .three kids at home one of whom is autistic ,I am tired a dealing with problems ,just so tired and thought me and hubby would see better days ,maybe we still will , there was violence in my previous previous marriage yes this is number 3! Going to have a think over my coffee and try and find way forward ,just wish he had told me first and not lied when I caught him out ,I find lies harder to deal with than anything

Errata

Tracy - this post you wrote in Aug 2010 is what has me confused about your last divorce as it doesn't appear you were divorced then, or even separated, as you had a joint claim with him.

Hi my husband is leaving me he does not work. Curently have joint claim for ctc and wtc,

ostrichnomore_2

Good luck OP, I'm not going to add any advice on your situation as none of us know you or him well enough. But think hard about your future life and happiness. It seems you may be someone who always puts others first. Sometimes you need to put yourself first.

On the bedroom side though...TMI following (can't believe I'm writing this). He may not prefer it from behind because of his bi thing, and it doesn't necessarily mean he is gay.

I used to have a boyfriend who was the same when I met himn, only really liked it from behind, and was 100% only able to 'finish' like that. After a few weeks it was upsetting me to the extent that I thought about stopping seeing him, but thankfully I just I asked him why. Same reason. Liked to be able to see the action, so to speak. We chatted about it and different positions we liked and experimented a bit. It's all a mindset in the man. He overcame this and learned to 'finish' face to face as well, after another couple of weeks. I stopped taking it personally or seeing any deep meaning into it when we still did it from behind. We'd shift around 3 or 4 positions each time. There are ways to be face to face other than flat out missionary, so there is space for him (and you, it can be fun) to have a look down and see the action. If you decide to stay together, get on the internet for position guides and experiment a bit until you are both happy.

tracytaxi

Hi yes we still had joint claim at tax credits and to the outside world and to save going into detail we were in the house living as man and wife for a short time after our divorce and I thought we had sorted it all buy he insisted the divorce I put in for in 2009 on affair one he had went through .to have a single claim with hmrc when living in the same house would of looked dubious and I was also advised by hmrc I couldn't make a single claim until he moved out .the kids didnt know we were divorced as I had hoped we would of saved the relationship as my ex always said he felt better not married and more in love with me if he chose to be with me as opposed to being married ,stupid to of listened

tracytaxi

Thank you ostrich perhaps I should of done similar re the name lol ! Thanks made me feel a little less weird now x

tracytaxi

How do I close this thread please ????

Torry_Quine

tracytaxi wrote: »

How do I close this thread please ????

Send a PM to one of the board guides asking them.