Married 3 months ,husband just told me he is bisexual help!!

paulineb_2

Your mums opinion doesn't matter, shes being ridiculous, if all she can do is have a go at you maybe you should put some distance between you. And as for saying that you wonder whether its worth you waking up in the morning, of course it is, this whole issue isn't your fault, its going to be sorted one way or another and you just need to plod through the tough times, what other option do any of us have?

tracytaxi

Yes sorry Pauline who suggested this was bogus just pressed the button or touched a nerve after the chat to my mum ,hope I wouldn't react like that with my kids ,its not so much what hubby is now that's getting to more just whatever action I take I am damned if I do and damned if I don't .It was embarrassing putting this on here ,but still better than telling all my friends or dealing alone ,and whilst I don't agree with some people's ideas everyone that has had an opinion something has been taken on board from each ,but people who suggest this is bogus or fake should live a day in my shoes ,I am tired had ambulance for daughter last night her heart bad and it is my beloved dads birthday ,ten birthdays without him and today I hurt and tired

shop-to-drop

Don't take what mum said to heart. Is she quite elderly? They tend to just say these hurtful things sometimes to their loved ones and she is probably missing dad today too. My mum's in her 80's and one day i had burnt my leg quite badly and wanted a bit of sympathy from my mum so showed her the scar. She said nothing except what fat legs I'd got! LOL ! I put it down to her age. She'll probably think it through later and then be more sympathetic.

Errata

Tracy - I notice that you were living with your last husband until Aug 2010, and between then and now you separated, got divorced, met a new bloke, and married him three months ago. How well did you know your current OH before you married - how long have you known him? Is that what your mum's reaction is about?

tracytaxi

Hi fair point ,my last husband we divorced may 2010 due to his infidelity ,took a year to go through ! He didn't move out till August he had no where . right away as I was also his carer as he disnt work due to epilepsy and he is father of my son .when I met my hubby I wasn't looking and I knew him as a friend for well over a year ,and only considered him a friend but he had feelings for me ,and I stood him up twice as I was so scared to get involved ! However his love shone through and we got together ,even my mum loves him ,no her comment stems from before I met hubby (I was a large end of size 20) and she said I will never get a man to treat me right whilst I was so fat ! And I am now 18-20 and its a case of I told you so ! ( mum is 68) she also said you never truly know anyone ..ever

Torry_Quine

braun wrote: »

Some of the comments on this thread are truly shocking. Encouraging a divorce especially.

Just because a man is bi-sexual, does not mean he cannot love a woman, be committed and monogamous with a woman, have children and raise a family with a woman.

Also this may shock some people, but most men like looking at !!!!!!, they will also want to try what they see in the bedroom. Missionary position is not 'glamorous' or sexy and I'm sure will be at the bottom of most men's favourite positions. Do you think men sit in the pub bragging how they 'did this bird missionary last night' ?

If OP married this guy 3 months ago then I'm assuming she loves him completely. In terms of finance and responsibility it sounds like he needs to be named on half of the bills and get a jobs ASAP.

I think it's your comments that are shocking.

He's not who she thought he was and kept something very important from her so totally understandable that she is considering not continuing in the marriage

Looking at !!!!!! is not in this case at least part of a healthy marriage and as for discussing sexual positions with others in the pub, words fail me. :eek::eek:

Calien27

If you don't mind me asking, how long did you two date/have a relationship before you got married?

jellie

If your mum is anything like mine was when I told her I was getting divorced, she will be worrying about what her friends and neighbours think, rather than you. Hopefully when she's had time to reflect and you have talked again, she will realise you need her to support you.

By the way, there are positions other than missionary where it's very easy to maintain eye contact if that is what your husband does want to do, but just doesn't like missionary.

tracytaxi

12 months ,my husbands dad has terminal cancer so we brought things forward

tracytaxi

Well that's all folks going for a coffee and will contact a moderator on my return to close thread thanks for helpful comments ,at the end of the day only I can sort this so best face it alone ,and Jellie spot on about mum ! I am ,sadly lacking in knowledge of positions though but thanks x