Real-life MMD: Is my boyfriend taking me for a ride?

moneysavingpat

No he is not, your the one trying to take your boyfriend for a ride. when your boyfriend gets a taxi anywhere does he pay the taxi driver for the fare only or does he say " hold on a minuet pal i forgot to bung you a extra £20 towards your tax and insurance".
I think he pays for the fare only don't you?.

Or if he gets on a bus does he just pay the fare or does he bung the bus driver an extra twenty quid towards there tax and insurance?
No, why is this? Is it because the taxi and bus doesn't belong to him?.

If you resent giving him a lift (for which he pays for by the way) then simply don't do it. You have a choice and the choice is yours.

Hezzawithkids

moneysavingpat wrote: »

No he is not, your the one trying to take your boyfriend for a ride. when your boyfriend gets a taxi anywhere does he pay the taxi driver for the fare only or does he say " hold on a minuet pal i forgot to bung you a extra £20 towards your tax and insurance".
I think he pays for the fare only don't you?.

Or if he gets on a bus does he just pay the fare or does he bung the bus driver an extra twenty quid towards there tax and insurance?
No, why is this? Is it because the taxi and bus doesn't belong to him?.

If you resent giving him a lift (for which he pays for by the way) then simply don't do it. You have a choice and the choice is yours.

Rubbish analogy. I'm pretty sure that taxi & bus fares are calculated based on the total cost of providing the services - fuel, insurance, tax, etc + mark up. If they weren't the they'd soon be out of business.

wurley

Relationships? mmm.. Do you live together? Yes?. Do you go halves on all things? Yes?. Is he taking the mick on other expenses? Yes?.
A: reevaluate your relationship.

If he pays half of all your car expenses can he use it (with chauffeur) whenever he want to go out like you can? Yes? ask him to pay. No? you're being a bit stingy. :eek:

Financially struggling? Yes?. Ask him to help as it would be in his interest for you to have a car. :cool:

Not really enough info TBH. Trying to look at many angles :A

clarkekerry

You shouldn't be asking for money forpetrol, tax and insurance, but you should ask him for a total cost per mile instead. You can get the exact cost per mile for your vehicle from Autotrader etc.or you can set your own cost, the government allows 45p per mile to cover fuel costs and also depreciation and wear and tear. You should be charging him less than that, but you should not be out of pocket. If he doesn't contribute to depreciation and wear and tear you will have to pick up those extra costs when you sell the car. He sounds mean and insensitive, dump him! Find a boyfriend with his own car who treats you like a lady, not an unpaid taxi driver!

clarkekerry

moneysavingpat wrote: »

No he is not, your the one trying to take your boyfriend for a ride. when your boyfriend gets a taxi anywhere does he pay the taxi driver for the fare only or does he say " hold on a minuet pal i forgot to bung you a extra £20 towards your tax and insurance".
I think he pays for the fare only don't you?.

Or if he gets on a bus does he just pay the fare or does he bung the bus driver an extra twenty quid towards there tax and insurance?
No, why is this? Is it because the taxi and bus doesn't belong to him?.

If you resent giving him a lift (for which he pays for by the way) then simply don't do it. You have a choice and the choice is yours.

Muppet quote! Taxi fares cover all costs including tax and insurance! The boyfriend should cover all the extra costs his extra mileage incurs. This includes fuel, depreciation and wear & tear, but not atx & insurance. Otherwise she will be out of pocket when she comes to sell the car.

Bennifred

How much do chauffeurs cost? :cool:

justruth

I find myself thinking about selling the car every year, I struggle to afford tax MOT and insurance, and I am encouraged by my girlfriend who doesn't pay these things to keep it for our own reasons. They are sensible reasons, which is why I still have a car, but I think you have to thin about it separately from him and decide if you want to accept those costs.

Ultimately if he is encouraging you to keep you car for his benefit, you want to sell but he wants you to keep it then yes, he should pay half the costs. If you were keeping the car anyway, then I can see why he wouldn't feel compelled to pay out.

CupcakeSquirrel

I'm absolutely astounded at all the people here genuinely suggesting that the couple are not happy, or should split up, purely because the OP asked a question to test her views!!! Seriously???

The OP has not suggested anything which would lead me to think she wasn't happy! She's not complaining about actually driving her boyfriend around, she's asking if she is being fair to both/either of them by accepting just petrol money. i.e. being financially savvy and a Money Saver!!!

And anyone suggesting that anyone on this site is "tight" - I think you're in the wrong place. Everyone has their own approaches to money saving - who are we to judge unless it hurts anyone else (which this won't if it's still cheaper and more convenient to accept the lift).

OK - rant over.

For what it's worth, I think petrol money is acceptable, but IF circumstances mean that more things are shared then yes, the car could be treated as a joint financial responsibility for everything.

aliberry

Get a motorbike. One without a pillion seat.

addyann

Depends why you feel let down. What does he pay for which you share? If something, is it same or better value, if so its fair. If he doesn't, hmm I'd have a think!
I've been married 22 years, lived together before that. We have separate accounts, but work out who's paying what, and split it equally.
Then whats left do with as we like. Both happy