MSE Pregnancy Club 26

con1888

lushlifesaver wrote: »

Hi Samtoby :-)

Talking of moses baskets we got ours with a folding stand, matress and little blanket duvet thing (plus the usual canopy bit thingy) for £35 from Amazon. I'll see if I can find the link for anyone that may be interested

That would be great if you could!

I want baby in cot pretty early on, still want a moses basket though for when baby falls asleep in downstairs of house so that we can transfer upstairs easily.

mincepiemonster

Only got a moment to post but wanted to say welcome over Sam! I will be thinking of you on Monday. I remember you from the TTC threads and I know you've had a rough ride this past year - I hope that in 48 short little hours you'll be doing a happy dance and buying up half of Mothercare following your scan! x

squ1rrel5

I'm still looking for a perfect Moses basket! Don't want to spend a fortune as I know it's not used for that long but just can't seem to find one that I like! Bought a cheap stand off eBay recently, just nothing to go on it! Hoping something might catch my eye in January if anywhere has baby events on!

con1888

I still have this dreaded cough... one thing I will say is I defo feel the need for pelvic floor exercises !!! I wore liners Christmas day and boxing day as was afraid of a leak when at other peoples houses incase I couldn't run to the loo in time when a coughing fit came on !!

claire16c

I got my Moses basket in the mothercare 20% off event.

Same with the stand. I wanted one as a cot won't fit in our room so if they're supposed to be in with us for 6 months then don't really have any other option than one of those small cribs but they are twice the price. And I like the fact I can take the basket downstairs.

fran-o

Hi all
Spent a few hours in Kiddicare this morning and spent huge amounts of money. They do have a sale on but the discounts range in amount, not much at half price, mostly smaller discounts. We have on order: car seat, car seat base, buggy (babystyle oyster) and sling. We brought home: buggy colour pack, nappies, wipes, nappy bin bags, audio baby monitor, changing mat, ready to go formula milk (back up for first days if bf doesn't work). We then went and ordered nursery curtains so all in all today spent an absolute fortune! But feeling almost prepared!

Hubby and I made a list of things to do over the holidays ( he's off work another week, I'm now on mat leave) which includes packing hospital bag, discussing birth plan, eBay/ charity shop for a few things we need to clear out still. Plus a few nice things like a planned trip to London for an exhibition. Quiet night in tonight, can't really afford a takeaway today though!

Ps: I got a decent button up short sleeved nightie for hospital in the m&s sale, just chose a size up and it fits fine.

claire16c

con1888 wrote: »

I still have this dreaded cough... one thing I will say is I defo feel the need for pelvic floor exercises !!! I wore liners Christmas day and boxing day as was afraid of a leak when at other peoples houses incase I couldn't run to the loo in time when a coughing fit came on !!

I know the feeling.

Also this morning I coughed and had made the mistake of not eating for maybe an hour and half so then I threw up a bit. First time in 6 weeks!

con1888

claire16c wrote: »

I know the feeling.

Also this morning I coughed and had made the mistake of not eating for maybe an hour and half so then I threw up a bit. First time in 6 weeks!

I've not been able to eat much at all the last few days, just no appetite so didn't get to stuff myself as I usually would on Christmas day

OHs friend is coming here tonight... he has just had a major fallout with his fiance and the wedding is off, they have split up... think I'll hibernate upstairs and leave them to it.

claire16c

con1888 wrote: »

I've not been able to eat much at all the last few days, just no appetite so didn't get to stuff myself as I usually would on Christmas day

OHs friend is coming here tonight... he has just had a major fallout with his fiance and the wedding is off, they have split up... think I'll hibernate upstairs and leave them to it.

Oh dear!

I'm the opposite my appetite is insane!

RobotsinDisguse

um, hello... i'm another refugee from the 12-24 week thread. But I only posted once there as i'm only just 13 weeks and havn't had a good week. samtoby suggested I post here, i hope that's ok? I really would like some reassurance if that's at all possible? And at the very least it might help me to write this down and get it out of my head.

*Edit: sheesh, i've written a lot. Sorry. This is bad as it's my first post on this board. I really am very sorry. I probably come accross as a worrier - which i am! sorry about that

On Friday last week I had my 12 week scan. I'd had some spotting, including that morning, so was overjoyed to see a baby with a beating heart. My blood pressure was fine, and bloods were taken etc.

On Monday (day before xmas eve) I had a consultant appointment. As far as I was aware it was was due to higher BMI, history of pre-enclampsia in the family and myself having a stomach muscle defect since birth, plus i am on anti-depressants - but shouldn't be for much longer as it was triggered by work and I have since been made redundant.

The consultant we were due to see wasn't in. And 3 different couples had been booked for the SAME TIME! We had over an hours wait. I explained I was clinically depressed with anxiety. My anxiety woulndn't cope well with this at the best of times, but I had a friend calling in who'd traveled for 3 hrs and had another 3hrs journey to go afterwards, and we had a carload of wood to shift on getting home. This last bit was stressing my husband as he didn't want to do it in the dark.

When I was eventually seen they took urine and blood pressure then sent me away. Another 10 minutes later they took my BP and found it was higher! The Consultant said she was concerned by this. I explained the poor organisation and me having commitments elsewhere might be making me stressed out.

Anyway, she proceeded to lecture me on being on antidepressants, and their possible effects to the baby. Which I knew full well as we'd been TTC when I was put on them. She finally let me speak and I told her why I wasn't due to be on them come the birth, so it shouldn't be a problem, and she ignored me. I explained why I was on them, and why I would be off them, and she ignored me.

To change the subject, I asked her about the birth defect. She said I didn't have one as I hadn't had an operation at birth. I told her what the drs said and what my mother had said (about both the defect and why I hadn't been operated on) and she dismissed them. I asked if she'd examine me but she wouldn't.

She then prescribed Aspirin. Fine, but I questioned it as my Dr had told me only to take Paracetamol in pregnancy. She kept repeating paracetamol doesn't prevent pre-enclampsia. So I kept repeating that I'd been told to only take Aspirin! It went round in circles, her not listening to my question so me asking it again. In the end my husband interrupted to explain to her what I was asking, and to tell me what she was saying!

She then said the midwife would come to my house sometime tomorow to do a BP reading. I explained I would be away over Xmas, from Xmas eve to boxing day. She repeated herself. I repeated myself. I also explained (again) that my depression has revealed itself with household management issues and that i don't like friends coming round, let alone strangers. She repeated herself again. So I repeated myself again. She said my BP was getting higher so needed checking again. Needless to say it was now very high and after i was shown into the wrong room and abandoned for a while, the consultant said i needed admitting to hospital and the nurse got aggressive with me. So I left. and husband took me to hospital.

They did not understand that they were pushing every trigger I have, even when I explained it to them what they were doing they didn't care. Obviously I am aware of the dangers of high blood pressure and pre-enclampsia... and whilst they seemed aware on paper, they did not seem aware that they were pushing me into 'flight or fight' reflex, thus making it so very much worse.

At the hospital (in the next town), I was given a nice quiet space to rest in. Was told I'd be left alone to recover from the trauma for half an hour, then someone would come and check me over. They did. And my blood pressure was fine. I was given a horlicks and they checked again. Still fine. 3 hrs later I was allowed to go home. My friend with the long journey came to the hospital and took me home.

So i'm now on alpa&beta blockers, as well as fluoxetine, aspirin and vitamins.

I took myself to the chemist on xmas eve to be checked and my BP was fine.

The whole experience was very traumatic and I don't know what to do next. I was not listened to at all.

To make matters worse, the consultant had told me I could go to the Surestart centre to meet my midwife to have my BP checked. I was told at the hospital that my midwife would phone me to arrange this. Instead a random midwife simply called in at my house yesterday and today! I don't answer the door to people I don't know (which I have told them), and rarely hear it anyway. She did leave a card, so I called the number on it. And it turns out she hadn't been told Anything of what we had agreed at the hospital and that the consultant was lying as the surestart isn't open again until january!

Yes, I'm a depressed and anxious person, but that doesn't mean I don't know what is best to manage those conditions.

to any survivors of reading all of that, firstly I am sorry to burden you with this, and second, does anyone have any advice for me?