MSE Pregnancy Club 26

becca0417

Morning ladies!
Can I join you?! Can't believe I'm here already feels like 2 minutes ago I got my bfp.
I'm due on march 3rd and we are team yellow x

faithhope

Hello! Another newbie to this thread and I'm also due on 3rd March but will probs be end of Feb when I deliver due to section or induction, not sure which yet!

I already have 2 girls and am having a little boy this time

Birdie85

Hunter is gorgeous Trina!

Welcome to the big girl's thread Becca and Faithhope! :wave:

I don't know what to do about the Perfect Prep, if we end up using formula I definitely want it but don't know if I'm going to be BFing or not?! Every time the price drops I think I should buy I but then I think we might not need it and it's too much money to waste. Argh! Hope the price drops and stays low, then we can put money aside to buy it if/when we need it.

Had a grouch yesterday to OH that I seem to have missed the nice 2nd trimester bloom and energy burst... heading into the third trimester where it's all going to get worse!

We also had a rant about how fed up we are of people saying 'You have no idea what you're in for', 'It's harder than you can ever imagine', 'You'll never go on holiday again' blah blah blah. Why do people insist on saying rubbish like this? Are they trying to put us off? (It's a bit late for that!), warn us, scare us?! I think that instead of trying to scare first time parents it would be nice if people could be positive... to just keep freaking quiet as I'm frankly quite sick of people gushing 'Oh, you've got no idea what love is until you're a parent' etc too! So basically... I just want people to !!!!!!! :rotfl:

lao_cat

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I'm so tempted by the swing pump and the prefect prep machine... I really want to breastfeed though, but I'm realistic enough that I know it might not be that easy /work for me... I think even if it does work I'll end up expressing some feeds for DH to give bubs... But I don't know whether to preempt the situation by getting any kit...? I also keep thinking "there will be other deals..." but then I start doubting it and driving myself a little nuts!

Delurking to say that I regret buying my breast pump before DS was born. As we had loads of problems at the start to build my supply I needed to rent a hospital grade pump. Had I of waits till after I would of bought a double pump. I was not really aware of how long it takes to express a feed if you are breastfeeding. They feed so often it is hard to express at a time you have excess milk. maybe after a feed I get 30mls or so in about 15 mins from my single pump. If I had a double pump that would be closer to 50/60ml which is about half of one feed. Hope the scan went well x x

abis21

Can't believe how many of you are losing your plug! I know I shouldn't be jealous but I can't seem to help it Had zillions of contractions yesterday, some quite painful ones - but nothing progresses from them.

I'm in 2 minds as whether I want baby to come now or not as I still do have a list of jobs I'm working through whilst on maternity leave. I don't feel overly uncomfortable being this pregnant and I do love the feeling of baby moving and I love my bump and will miss it. But y'know - a baby - well that will be cool too. :cool:

I think its the idea of going over again that's bothering me more. Not for the being overdue - but for all the annoying messages that people send. And the 'pressure' of other people to have your baby if that makes sense?? Its not like I can control when it comes or not :rotfl:

As a control freak - I think I do find this stage quite tricky as its the unknown. DH works an hour away, and has work nights out on weds & thurs this week which is a pain. I would very much prefer him nearby in these last couple of weeks. And if it starts in the middle of the night then I have to sort out someone to look after DD. I know it sounds awful, but I don't really want my mum to look after her as last time she was so erm, well annoying in the late stages that I could have strangled her. I want DD to be the first to know about baby being here and the first to meet them - but I don't think my mum would respect those wishes.

Oooof, its all so tricky to imagine what it will be like DH is struggling with the idea that it might come before a due date too which is irritating! I had the midwife explain to him that its just an estimation and once at term baby can come anywhere within a 5 week period which is perfectly normal - but not even that got through to him! He was even trying to organise a day trip out to see his friends on sunday which is 2 days before the due date and got a bit huffy when I put my foot down about that!

Ok - enough moaning now. Just need to get it out somewhere - sorry!!

Trina - Hunter is absolutely gorge!! Thank you for the birth story. I had a 3rd degree last time, so hoping for a smoother ride this time! Mine healed really nicely and quickly tho - hope yours does too

Birdie - I tried breastfeeding last time and struggled. I managed ok when a midwife was there to help me latch on, but I felt a bit clueless otherwise. I think I found it harder a everything was new to me - I'd never held a newborn, dressed one, changed a nappy, burped one etc (apart from the odd 5 min try with a friends baby, but that was mainly holding them like a fragile china doll being scared they would break). My boobs are big (J cup at the mo) so I honestly don't know if that effects things or not, but I just found the whole thing more tricky than I had anticipated. I am going to try again this time and see if I can do any better - but the key difference this time is that I am not going to feel like a failure if it doesn't work. I was so pro-breast feeding before trying I did feel a bit of a shmuck admitting to myself that I was struggling and wanted to try formula.

I think with most baby things, the best thing to do is to do a bit of reading up but not get over focussed on anything as until your baby is here - you don't know what suits you or the baby best. Same with drugs etc during delivery - you can have an idea in your head before hand on what you might prefer - but until actually faced with labour who knows how you will feel? And it will make a big difference on how you feel about pain relief as to how long you have been in labour.

I decided to go for the perfect prep the other day when it was £48. I aren't going to open it until I have had a bash at breastfeeding first. I decided I will probably be able to sell it for approx. £50 if I don't use it as it will still be new. So its not a waste of money, as it can be resold. But on the other hand, you can always buy one and express deliver it when baby is here - so you could get one quickly if you do find you want one. I made bottles up the old fashioned away for a year, and I must say that's the worst thing about formula feeding (and the £10 per week costs). I used to hate making the bottles up, and would barter doing the washing up, or any other jobs to avoid doing the bottles So hopefully this perfect prep thing will help with that if I do end up formula feeding.

Welcome to Becca & faithhope :beer:

Lily - how are you feeling today?

Any news from Amy85? She was losing her plug the other day and no news since. Not that I particularly want to be number 1 on the list!!! :eek:

BZ - how did the scan go?

Oh and birdie - on the 'no idea what you are letting yourself in for' conversations - just try and ignore them as best as possible. I go on a squillion more holidays now than I ever used to. To me, being a parent is mega fun. I love joining in with DD and having fun together. I love hearing her laugh, seeing the world through her eyes, and watching her sleeping feeling immensely proud that I made her. There are parts of being a parent which are incredibly hard and frightening, but the good bits out-number the bad bits by so much. You won't love it all, but the bits that you remember and will stick out are the best bits of all. Just tell yr friends to !!!!!! next time :rotfl:

Abi 38+6

Birdie85

LOL Abi, I will tell them to !!!!!!! I actually had a go at my brother and SIL when they started harping on at me last week... asked them what they expected me to do with their warnings as it's not like I can send him back if I find it too difficult! Then there's a (male) friend at work who'll be quite casually chatting then will come out with some really soppy rubbish about how much I'm going to love my baby and stuff... it's just really awkward, I'm thinking, OK... I'm sure I will love the little dude because, you know, I made him... what else am I supposed to say?! I'm not the most sentimental person (you may have guessed!) and I certainly save my soppiness for my OH, not for random work mates!

Oooh and then there's all of my family (and the in-laws) who keep feeling my bump and looking at me expectantly, like I can make the baby kick on demand! Seriously, they're all at it every time I see them! I tell them if they're that desperate for a kick they should come round at 3am and he's having a right wriggle otherwise they're !!!! out of luck! :rotfl:

Eeeee I'm in a grump today! Blame it on hormones!

I hope you don't go overdue Abi, I can just imagine how annoying it must be having people constantly on at you about whether or not you've had the baby! Do people really think that you're going to answer 'Oh yeah, baby came 2 days ago we just forgot to mention it!'. :rotfl: I forgot to say how lovely your bump photo is too! Will look lovely framed on the baby's wall!

I also forgot to ask BZ about the scan yesterday! OH isn't fussed about having one but I'm in 2 minds!

abis21

We can be grumpy together today then but for different reasons :beer::rotfl:

Lol, I've not had many bump gropers this time round thank goodness! I did have last time and felt very self conscious of it - whereas this time when I don't think I'd mind so much people have kept their hands to themselves!

My mum was the worst person last time which is why I think I am pre-empting being anxious about it. She used to ring 3-4 times a day saying 'any twinges, any pains?? baby not here yet?' etc etc. MOST irritating!!! I know shes excited, but shes had 4 babies - surely she can remember SOMETHING about how annoying that feeling is?!

I have been very vague with people and said end of November as my due date and haven't updated people on how many weeks pregnant I am etc this time round. I still expect for it all to start again soon though Must try not to snap peoples heads off for asking and being interested

I actually quite liked being induced - as I knew when I would be in hospital and that they wouldn't send me away once I was there etc. And they had me on a monitor and could confirm that labour had definitely started etc. So that side of things doesn't worry me at all. Its the unknown bit in the middle which worries me a little more...

kerri_dfw

Sorry Abis, but I've just got out the shower and noticed what I think is part of my mucus plug. Was definitely what you all have been describing. I'm not happy about it at all as I'm only 32w. I'm hoping it was only part of it and I've read previously that it can grow back again, I know that sounds odd. I think OH must have "disturbed it" last night when we were intimate.Can it really grow back again?

abis21

Arrrggghhh - I feel so inadequate with my mucus plug :rotfl: I don't even know if I have one - it didn't come away pre-labour with DD and wasn't noticeable if it came with the waters or anything.

Sorry if I sound insensitive. It must be a lot more worrying if you are not full term and are losing it.

I don't think it makes much odds if I am really honest. I don't think its a sign of labour being imminent. It can takes weeks after losing it for labour to start.

If you and DH were intimate - could it not just be leftovers maybe mixed up with discharge? Discharge can sometimes be egg-white n stretchy just like when you are ovulating. It might look like a mucus plug, but not be if you see what I mean?

I seem to lose a lot of discharge, but I think that's just natures way of keeping everything clean. Sometimes I even start to think my waters have broken from what leaks out - but then I remember what my waters breaking was like with DD and I know it isn't that...

Rummer

Welcome to all the new ladies :wave:

I went for a short walk this morning and I looked and felt as if I had just completed an iron man contest by the time I got back :rotfl: Baby has wedged some part of his anatomy under my rib cage which certainly didn't help!

Been thinking even more about the perfect prep and I have decided that for me if I have the bottle feeding equipment in the house that I will give up any attempts at breastfeeding the first time it gets tricky so I am going to leave it atm.