MSE Pregnancy Club 26

RebekahR

Oh gosh same here!! My mum - Nan and sister told me to put Jess on forumla around 3 weeks old! As did the HV. MIL also annoyed that she couldn't give her a bottle. And always wanted to give her farleys ... apparently she used to put it in hubbys bottle from 2 weeks old :-o

fluffysox

RebekahR wrote: »

Heya! Can I just be really rude and ask you why you are not breastfeeding?
Not about to bash you with my broom. Just generally interested as to why some ladies don't breastfeed.

Never heard of that device before! Looks interesting. Is it new?

I tried breastfeeding with my first baby. I really couldn't get to grips with it and needed help from the nurses to get a latch every time. In addition I'd had a section so not only was my tummy very swollen it took longer for my milk to come in. DS1 was a big baby. On his first day they fed him 25ml top ups of formula every 4 hours so they could check for diabetes. He didn't have diabetes. But I wasn't producing enough milk to satisfy him. He was screaming for more. I was getting upset and making the decision to start giving him the bottle when he was 4 days old was a huge weight lifted. I remember three things, my husband feeding him for the first time, a lovely healthcare assistant saying "wow just heard a baby crying and it wasn't yours!" and my baby going to sleep contented that night.
This time I was thinking of trying it again. Perhaps with a smaller baby and a more natural birth it would work out? But I wasn't going to struggle with it if it didn't happen naturally for me. As it was I had another long labour. 29 hours- last one was 49 hours so getting better :rotfl: I dilated all the way to 10cm with some "help". Bit of a traumatic journey. Anaethetist was told to apologise to me. Senior midwive on duty came specially to give me hugs after the birth cos it upset her and my poor mum nearly passed out watching. Won't go into detail about all that on here. But off to theatre we went again. This time section wasn't required, just forceps. But in recovery when covered in tubes and wires and exhausted I was asked if I wanted to bf and I thought for a moment before saying I'd decided not to. Turns out to have been the best decision for us as I have been in more pain than I was after the caesarian. Forceps delivery means my hips are very sore. Also bruised internally as well as a bit tender from episiotomy. All this would be manageable if the hour of pushing hadn't given me very bad piles. The combination means I cannot sit up. I struggle to walk. At times I cannot sit onto the toilet without crying. Swelling has made it difficult to wee (doesn't hurt to wee as you read it does) and I still cannot do the other. So I am forced to lie on my side. DH looking after baby. I have a few cuddles each day but that is it. Very upsetting but of all things I feel guilty about, bottle feeding is not one of them. My baby boy is thriving. Can't wait to get more mobile so I can start to enjoy him.

Sorry if too much detail for expectant mums. I haven't had the easiest time and tbh this question upset me a little. My current set of issues seem unlucky tbh, everyone else I know who has had babies recently has had it easier. I will I'm sure recover soon and have a day without painkillers or tears. Until then I will try to be patient and sleep as much as I can.

minimuffin12

Fluffy sox, I feel for you I had the same delivery as you 4 hours of pushing then forceps and had horrendous piles too, they made me so miserable and didnt sod off until 3 months post birth- sorry dont want to scare you! But sitting on ice will help relieve swelling and itching and the suppoisitries (sp?) are great too. Also more fibre will ahem soften stools, I found all bran flakes to be my saviour. Congrats x

Bangton

fluffysox wrote: »

I tried breastfeeding with my first baby. I really couldn't get to grips with it and needed help from the nurses to get a latch every time. In addition I'd had a section so not only was my tummy very swollen it took longer for my milk to come in. DS1 was a big baby. On his first day they fed him 25ml top ups of formula every 4 hours so they could check for diabetes. He didn't have diabetes. But I wasn't producing enough milk to satisfy him. He was screaming for more. I was getting upset and making the decision to start giving him the bottle when he was 4 days old was a huge weight lifted. I remember three things, my husband feeding him for the first time, a lovely healthcare assistant saying "wow just heard a baby crying and it wasn't yours!" and my baby going to sleep contented that night.
This time I was thinking of trying it again. Perhaps with a smaller baby and a more natural birth it would work out? But I wasn't going to struggle with it if it didn't happen naturally for me. As it was I had another long labour. 29 hours- last one was 49 hours so getting better :rotfl: I dilated all the way to 10cm with some "help". Bit of a traumatic journey. Anaethetist was told to apologise to me. Senior midwive on duty came specially to give me hugs after the birth cos it upset her and my poor mum nearly passed out watching. Won't go into detail about all that on here. But off to theatre we went again. This time section wasn't required, just forceps. But in recovery when covered in tubes and wires and exhausted I was asked if I wanted to bf and I thought for a moment before saying I'd decided not to. Turns out to have been the best decision for us as I have been in more pain than I was after the caesarian. Forceps delivery means my hips are very sore. Also bruised internally as well as a bit tender from episiotomy. All this would be manageable if the hour of pushing hadn't given me very bad piles. The combination means I cannot sit up. I struggle to walk. At times I cannot sit onto the toilet without crying. Swelling has made it difficult to wee (doesn't hurt to wee as you read it does) and I still cannot do the other. So I am forced to lie on my side. DH looking after baby. I have a few cuddles each day but that is it. Very upsetting but of all things I feel guilty about, bottle feeding is not one of them. My baby boy is thriving. Can't wait to get more mobile so I can start to enjoy him.

Sorry if too much detail for expectant mums. I haven't had the easiest time and tbh this question upset me a little. My current set of issues seem unlucky tbh, everyone else I know who has had babies recently has had it easier. I will I'm sure recover soon and have a day without painkillers or tears. Until then I will try to be patient and sleep as much as I can.

Sweetie i feel your pain. I had a traumatic birth and while I'm better 3 Weeks on I feel sad that i didn't have that moment where they hand you your baby ( I was under ga) freshly born. I met him 3 hrs after he arrived. I also didn't bf because I'd been given so many drugs by iv post birth I couldn't see how breast was best. He was ff in my absence anyway when born as I was in icu so missed that first All important feed. Similarly I was too poorly to look after baby and it was a combo of oh and midwives doing all the care so bf really was just out for me. I was torn anyway on bf but think I'd have given it a go had circumstances been different. I have found it hard not bf though as baby is a bit colicky and I blame myself even though deep down I know breastfed babies get colic too. Anyway I'm not trying to upset anyone here but reading the tone of your post I just wanted you to know your not alone with the rough time and I genuinely really feel for you as I know exactly what its like to have a baby yet be able to do very little for them. Get well hun

bigzippy

fluffysox wrote: »

Aw that is really sweet. My DH leaves anything like that to me, shows no interest whatsoever. I had to make him come and look at how all the baby clothes were stored when I'd finished going through them and washing them. In case I needed him to get more out due to longer than expected hospital stsy etc. It really annoyed me that he looked totally bored when I'd done all the work, he could have at least pretended to look interested! Anyway nice outfits/ cardis are hung up and I have two baskets on the shelves. One has Newborn vests and babygros, the other 0-3. I put an unopened multipack of 0-3 across the top of that basket so it was easy to see which was which. Does he remember me showing him where to even find a babygro? No! When I described how to find them and why there are two baskets, what size did he bring to the hospital? Yes 0-3. Does not pay attention!!!! Nevertheless I can't complain he steps up when needed. Doing everything atm. Needs directions of course
:rotfl:

:rotfl: Sounds about right DH had been really excited about doing the nursery (and about the baby full stop - he would've been excited anyway, but after waiting 3 years for this miracle to occur, after going through all the tests and surgery etc - and truly thinking it would never happen for us - to get here, he's even more excited!) and will be part of the putting things away activity... But I'll still have to write notes for what is where and the difference between a vest and a babygro etc I'm seriously considering labelling the drawers and shelves :rotfl:

Hope you feel better soon and that bubs isn't too swamped in his too-big clothes

Good luck ttc!

This baby is headbutting my bladder constantly, right now... Makes sleep a little tricky!

29+4

TTC40

Lucy arrived safely at a minute past mid night.

Eventful few hours but we are both well. 7lb 15.

She's beautiful and peaceful at the moment.

Will post more later.

vic3

Congrats TTC! Hope you're doing well xx

Bangton

TTC40 wrote: »

Lucy arrived safely at a minute past mid night.

Eventful few hours but we are both well. 7lb 15.

She's beautiful and peaceful at the moment.

Will post more later.

Awww fantastic. Hope your feeling ok and huge congrats. Glad she made it safely! !! What a time to be born too! !!!

Angelmommy

Congrats TTC! Glad Lucy has arrived safe and well. Hope you are doing ok. Xx

lobey

Congrats TTC! Lovely name. Hope you're recovering well x