MSE Pregnancy Club 26

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becca0417 wrote: »

Thanks Amus. I've had the test & it was positive. My mw isn't very helpful, I've been told a blanket no on water birth/home birth & would just like to discuss it with someone

From NHS choices and babycentre, it sounds like if they considered your baby high risk for strep b infection they would usually want to give you antibiotic injections during labour which would require you to be in hospital but given you can be given plenty of other injections at a homebirth (e.g. pethidine or the one for a managed third stage), I wonder whether it is possible to have them at home so if it is something you want then I would ask. NHS choices also seems to imply that giving the baby antibiotics after birth is an alternative to you having antibiotics during labour. Babycentre also says that GBS can come and go and that therefore a positive early in pregnancy doesn't mean it will be there at birth so another thing that might be worth enquiring about is whether you can be retested closer to the time. Also, it is entirely your choice whether you have a homebirth or not (and if you are at home it is your choice whether you have a water birth or not) so if after reading up and assessing the risks you decide that you are happy with a homebirth then they can't refuse you one. The links I have just been reading are http://www.babycentre.co.uk/a1647/group-b-streptococcus-in-pregnancy and http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Streptococcal-infections/Pages/Treatment.aspx

becca0417

Thank you both I've been told I have to have IV antibiotics as soon as I go into labour then every 4 hours afterwards. I'd rather this than giving baby antibiotics tbh. The water birth reason is because Ill have a canula. I am going to ask about home birth but just don't know who to ask!!! Mw is useless and not seeing consultant again until 36 weeks x

starshinning

Me and other half we chatting about what I need to get for baby and my mind has gone so blank. We have loads of stuff from DD2. I bought newborn and 0-3 month clothes but cant think of what we need.
I have a phil and teds pushchair so that should do it has the extra seat and newborn bag thing, Got a moses basket, bouncy chair and loads of blankets and bedding,

I need a car seat at some point. What else do i need?

Toothfairy4

Bangton, i feel surprisingly fine! Obviously still having lots of painkillers but just feel a bit achey when they start to wear off. Thought i would feel much worse! Just annoying that i have to get someone to pick Olly up and hand him over etc until i am allowed to get up tomorrow.

fluffysox, that sounds like a VERY similar situation! Because Olly was back to back i just wasn't progressing past 7cm and he was starting to get a bit distressed. Turns out he had wrapped his torso on his cord a couple of times.

deva, i am totally with you on the temperature thing. The ward i am on is like a sauna! So so hot. Luckily one of the nice midwives noticed i was boiling and found me a fan pure bliss! I am the end cubicle in the ward right beside the radiators :eek:

TTC, i hope you are finally getting somewhere. It's ridiculous how long they have left you. I know they are busy but they always go on about infection risk etc but when it suits them it seems they make out like it doesn't matter?

RebekahR

fluffysox wrote: »

Ooo thanks :j:j:j I'll speak to DH and see what he thinks. He has made all the bottles so far as I'm still suffering.
Funny I had a caeserian last time and did everything. This time forceps delivery has left me sore but huge piles from an hours pushing are flipping agony lol. Sorry for tmi but at least I can say the episiotomy etc has barely even bothered me and all you read is about stinging etc- really not something to worry yourselves about.

Heya! Can I just be really rude and ask you why you are not breastfeeding?
Not about to bash you with my broom. Just generally interested as to why some ladies don't breastfeed.

Never heard of that device before! Looks interesting. Is it new?

lilymay1

RebekahR wrote: »

Heya! Can I just be really rude and ask you why you are not breastfeeding?
Not about to bash you with my broom. Just generally interested as to why some ladies don't breastfeed.

Never heard of that device before! Looks interesting. Is it new?

Can't speak for Fluffy, but I'm not breastfeeding mostly because I just don't want to. I didn't want to with DD or DS, although as things turned out I didn't get the chance with DD and DS just wasn't interested.

I may change my mind after she is here, but I doubt it. I prefer being able to share feeding with my husband/anyone else who is around and I get so aroused it makes me angry when someone touches my nipples. I can't describe it, but I just want to punch the person touching them.

TTC - Absolute best of luck. I will be watching the thread like a hawk for your news.

RebekahR

lilymay1 wrote: »

Can't speak for Fluffy, but I'm not breastfeeding mostly because I just don't want to. I didn't want to with DD or DS, although as things turned out I didn't get the chance with DD and DS just wasn't interested.

I may change my mind after she is here, but I doubt it. I prefer being able to share feeding with my husband/anyone else who is around and I get so aroused it makes me angry when someone touches my nipples. I can't describe it, but I just want to punch the person touching them.

TTC - Absolute best of luck. I will be watching the thread like a hawk for your news.

I hear you! That is a "killer" with breastfeeding although I guess you can express but then you have the hard work of expressing and keeping up supply for little one.

So for you it was just the nipples being touched and not liking an "aroused" feeling as it were?

I relate to having them touched and wanting someone off! Especially in the dead of night.

Did you feel a pressure to try to breastfeed in the hospital? Although if you had no chance with DD seems like this may have not been the case?

Did you have different feelings before baby 1 or were you adamant that you just didnt want to try due to the sharing of feeds?

Arousal deffo hasn't been an issue for me as breastfeeding sort of numbs the nipples. They become toughened up. Only the very very tips have some sort of sensitivity. And babys tongue is on the side iykwim! Not that that will be the case for all.

Interesting! Thanks for sharing

lilymay1

I just don't fancy it. I didn't the first time, nor the second and I don't now. Can't really say any more than that. I wasn't breastfed so perhaps thats where it stems from. I've also got one healthy child who was formula fed so I know it is an alternative. Clearly I would have to just get on with it if I couldn't afford formula or it wasn't available.

No, I wasn't pressured in hospital because staff were very very careful with what was said to me with DS. To cut a long story short, I couldn't b/f DD because she died. I made it clear during my pregnancy with DS that I wasn't going to b/f him and it was fine. That said, I wasn't as confused/upset/impressionable as some can be and the staff would have regretted applying any pressure. I did see other women experience it though.

RebekahR

lilymay1 wrote: »

I just don't fancy it. I didn't the first time, nor the second and I don't now. Can't really say any more than that. I wasn't breastfed so perhaps thats where it stems from. I've also got one healthy child who was formula fed so I know it is an alternative. Clearly I would have to just get on with it if I couldn't afford formula or it wasn't available.

No, I wasn't pressured in hospital because staff were very very careful with what was said to me with DS. To cut a long story short, I couldn't b/f DD because she died. I made it clear during my pregnancy with DS that I wasn't going to b/f him and it was fine. That said, I wasn't as confused/upset/impressionable as some can be and the staff would have regretted applying any pressure. I did see other women experience it though.

Awww sorry for your loss Damn good job they listened to you though! Like you say not all women are strong enough to stick to what they want. So good on you. Formula won't do any ones babies any harm as you say just an alternative

I was breastfed for 2 weeks and then formula fed. Never known anyone else in my family except my sister to breastfeed so kinda felt very lonely. But I did give the odd formula as well - especially at 3am! :eek:
It's good for women to hear what you have said as we can all learn that you do not have to breastfeed if you really badly don't want to. It's your body and your baby - it's your choice.

Having said all of the above I am extremely pro breastfeeding personally and I think support is key. NCT breastfeeding group were the best thing I ever attended to support me and keep me going. I found the pressure to give in and go to formula very hard and absolutely shocking. As I thought it was all for women to not give formula and breast is best. And yet when I was doing my utmost to breast I got told over and over to give her formula. I wasn't prepared for that! Parenting is a right old minefield isn't it!

Lola888

Just trying to read back and wanted to say my MATERNITY LEAVE STARTS TODAY!!!! It's been weird I didn't have enough leave or bank hols left so I haven't been in work for 5 days and had to go back in for today (I do shifts 5 on and 5 off)

I just want to say I bf DD1 for 14 mths and at the hospital they didn't pressurise me either way. I wanted to so the mw helped me latch and then left me to it, I stayed in for 1 night and basically I was left on my own, they only came to me when I had to press the buzzer as DD1 as thrown up and her bed needed changing!

lilymay I'm not sure not being bf makes any difference, my mum didn't bf any of us (pressure from my mum and aunt to ff) and it has made no difference to me. I did the research and figured if I could do it I would. There are a lot of benefits, but if I hadn't been able to do it I wasn't going to beat myself up, like people say as long as the baby is fed who cares if its b00b or bottle.

It does annoy me though how some people pressurise you to bf, but at the same time there are other people trying to pressurise you into ff- family mainly like my MIL and FIL (separated). MIL was annoyed she couldn't babysit much or have her overnight (almost felt like she was trying to take over!) and they FIL saying !!!! like put a rusk in her bottle, she'll sleep through the night. Stupid man rusks contain gluten which they recommend you don't give until 6 mths, she's a baby so will sleep through when she is ready and I can't put a rusk in my b00b!!

We were lucky DD1 dropped a feed at 8 wks and slept through from 3 mths and they kept telling me I was making a rod for my own back by bf as bf babies don't sleep!!