MSE Pregnancy Club 26

BadlyWrittenPoem

neneromanova wrote: »

I don't know whether to ring the midwife or not. I'm not getting as many kicks (or as powerful) since yesterday morning. I've used the Doppler and his heartbeat is nice and strong, but just not moving as much. Midwife said its a myth that the movements get less and less as you get closer you just don't get as big a movements as you used to.

But knowing my luck, I'll ring her, she'll come visit and he'll go mental. I suppose I could send her a text and see what she says.

Sorry to be a broken record but if in doubt always get checked. http://countthekicks.org.uk/

ETA: Have just finished catching up and now seen that you have already phoned.

continualdiamond

Well I am home. Came home Tuesday at 5pm. It took them until 2pm to get my discharge papers done/sort out medication for me.

Hubby got sooo excited that we were coming home that he then became bored of waiting around at the hospital, bless him.

It's so great being at home, to be honest more so looking forward to today as yesterday was all over the place waiting for my midwife to come and do her 1st visit and information over load etc and of course had my 1st lot of visitors.

Will admit that Tuesday night was difficult, hubby really struggled, he thought we'd be up every 4 hrs or so, but we had a better night last night so both feeling more alert today, hahahaha.

kerri_dfw

an9i77 wrote: »

That woman really hacked me off. I just don't understand the mentality of someone who refuses medical advice like that, ok so she was scared of having a section but would you not be more scared of your baby dying? My son had foetal distress and when they told me, I just wanted him out of me asap as I honestly thought there was a chance he might not survive. They couldn't get me into theatre quick enough. I was a bit concerned that if she can't put her child's needs ahead of her own at a time like that, what will she be like as a mother?

I don't think she trusted them though, she didn't particularly want an induction as she was convinced the baby didn't want to come just yet although they were saying the baby was small (didn't really look small to me though). I think the mistrust in the induction, then the induction not working and being told they would then try to do other things just scared the woman more. I can understand where she's coming from, however if my baby was in foetal distress I would just want her out.

an9i77

kerri_dfw wrote: »

I don't think she trusted them though, she didn't particularly want an induction as she was convinced the baby didn't want to come just yet although they were saying the baby was small (didn't really look small to me though). I think the mistrust in the induction, then the induction not working and being told they would then try to do other things just scared the woman more. I can understand where she's coming from, however if my baby was in foetal distress I would just want her out.

I still can't understand where she was coming from. I'm sure the baby didn't want to come yet, my son was induced at 38w and when he was born he was tiny, I'm sure he'd have liked a few more weeks in there but I wasn't prepared to take any risk! The fact is, the medical professionals know a lot better than she does what is best (as in terms of least risk) and she was saying she'd know if the baby was unhappy etc - well sorry but she doesn't! She has no idea!
with my first child my overwhelming priority was getting him out safe and well (due to my pre existing medical issues) and absolutely everything else, how I was feeling, what I wanted the birth to be like, paled into insignificance. I wouldn't have dreamed of going against the medical advice as I trusted the doctors to know a lot better than me, so find it hard to understand her mentality but at the end of the day I suppose it is her body (although her baby's isn't? so not sure she has the right to put him at risk too!)

Toothfairy4

Glad your home safe and sound continualdiamond!

Nene, think it's always best to get checked and as you say he will probably start doing starjumps as soon as you get monitored

Afm, been awake since 4.30 with pains, were about every 10 minutes but have eased off now. Have sent DH off to work (about 40 mins away :eek: ) as i dont think anything dramatic is going to happen anytime soon!

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Flower08

an9i77 wrote: »

I still can't understand where she was coming from. I'm sure the baby didn't want to come yet, my son was induced at 38w and when he was born he was tiny, I'm sure he'd have liked a few more weeks in there but I wasn't prepared to take any risk! The fact is, the medical professionals know a lot better than she does what is best (as in terms of least risk) and she was saying she'd know if the baby was unhappy etc - well sorry but she doesn't! She has no idea!
with my first child my overwhelming priority was getting him out safe and well (due to my pre existing medical issues) and absolutely everything else, how I was feeling, what I wanted the birth to be like, paled into insignificance. I wouldn't have dreamed of going against the medical advice as I trusted the doctors to know a lot better than me, so find it hard to understand her mentality but at the end of the day I suppose it is her body (although her baby's isn't? so not sure she has the right to put him at risk too!)

I agree its one thing putting herself at risk, but putting her baby at risk just shouldn't be allowed. They were obviously concerned and that poor midwife looked on edge until she eventually returned.
You can guarantee if anything had of happened it would of been the midwifes fault or the consultants fault, not the mother for ignoring advice.
If I was on a monitor and could see my babys heartbeat dipping, I would want her out ASAP, no matter how that happened and what it would mean for me - of course its scary.

Flower08

Glad your home safe and sound continual!!

Toothfairy4

I felt really bad for that midwife, she looked genuinely distressed when the lady discharged herself and then demanded to be taken off the monitor. I think they deserve a medal for having to deal with people like that who really don't appreciate how lucky we are to have free medical care in the UK!

Poppy27

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Angelmommy

This may be a bit controversial but.....I am surprised there aren't any policies in place for when it could be argued that the mother does not have capacity to make an informed decision. I fully appreciate mother was extremely scared but this could be argued as clouding her reasonable judgement and therefore possibly putting both herself and her baby, at risk.

This is not meant to offend anybody, it is purely my opinion based on other aspects of life in which I know capacity to make decisions is at the forefront. I have come across medical staff that I felt had an impact on me losing my last child. However, I cannot dispute that they still know far more about the health of my baby and myself more than me.

And my last point before I quit my little rant - my hubby made a good point when we were watching it.....why didn't the dad say anything? I'm a VERY independent woman however, my hubby would've given me a stern talking to if OUR child was at risk. Fair enough it's our body at the end of the day but I would listen to the man I love if he was worried about the health of me and our baby.