MSE Pregnancy Club 26

Mrshaworth2b

BadlyWrittenPoem wrote: »

True enough - it wasn't intended as a personal attack and dizzi obviously feels it as if it was and as you say has done so on other occasions. However, since you know her from the other thread and she is very open about it, you should also be aware that she has PTSD from her first birth which means that while her reaction may seem excessive, it is fairly understandable and unsurprising given her circumstances. Someone with PTSD needs people to be supportive and understanding of their symptoms and perhaps when appropriate gently point out when they have an extreme reaction to something - not lectures on how they should behave.

Like I said I appreciate her story, I'm sad that it happened, however sometimes I feel her posts go too far. Fair enough she has PTSD, I can wholly understand why when she says what happened, however do pregnant women really need to hear that story time and time again? It frightened me when I was on the thread with her the first time. And to jump on someone's post because of the misuse of a word? Seems unfair. Please do not mistake my posts, I completely empathise with her situation regarding her births.

Flower08

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

I actually mentioned The Midwives at my last midwife appointment because I was concerned about both the number of people shown labouring flat on their backs as well as the lack of skin to skin. I've been reassured that my hospital puts a lot of emphasis on skin to skin (although I kind of knew that from parentcraft classes) and they tilt the beds. Phew!

If your concerned I would just make sure it is definitely in your birth plan that you want skin to skin straight away and also make sure the midwife that delivers the baby has been told. With DS she asked me if I wanted him to be put straight on my chest as some women prefer to have them taken away and cleaned up first!
I was pretty surprised she asked to be honest, I just assumed he would be put straight onto me.

Kayalana99 wrote: »

I also had a tv without a remote control so spent about 3-4hours with baby asleep and OH asleep either side of me and watching tele shopping....Never expected to be bored just after having the baby!

I'm sorry but this made me :rotfl::rotfl:

clearing_out_my_pockets

Flower08 wrote: »

If your concerned I would just make sure it is definitely in your birth plan that you want skin to skin straight away and also make sure the midwife that delivers the baby has been told. With DS she asked me if I wanted him to be put straight on my chest as some women prefer to have them taken away and cleaned up first!
I was pretty surprised she asked to be honest, I just assumed he would be put straight onto me.




I'm sorry but this made me :rotfl::rotfl:

It has been put in my birth plan. To be honest, it was more of a curiosity thing because the classes were pushing (no pun intended) staying more upright and immediate skin to skin, but I didn't see much of it. I do appreciate that things can change and there may be reasons why I can't have that initial Contact with baby.

35+6 and feeling quite uncomfortable

Flower08

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

It has been put in my birth plan. To be honest, it was more of a curiosity thing because the classes were pushing (no pun intended) staying more upright and immediate skin to skin, but I didn't see much of it. I do appreciate that things can change and there may be reasons why I can't have that initial Contact with baby.

I think things just vary so much, but yes I just assumed that unless there was any specific reason that DS would be placed straight on me for skin to skin. I didn't even expect them to ask me, just thought it was the done thing to be honest. Might actually make sure this is put in my birth plan this time, just to make sure they know its what I want again.

fluffysox

Like you said Flower we're all different, it was in my birth plan to clean baby up a biy before putting him on me the first time and it will be again. As it turned out he did a big wee while they were cleaning him up. The memory of two nurses squealing "Ah... stop weeing on me..." still tickles me. And because I had a c-section DH held him first. I was exhausted and dazed from this plus morphine, shock of surgery so nothing seemed real except for the expression on DH's face. I didn't feel instant love for baby like people talk about but the love and pride I saw on my husband's face for his baby son gave me a contentment I can't describe.
Truth is ladies everyone's experience is different, there is no way I would let TV cameras near me if I was in labour, the women that do are either brave or stupid lol. We all have our own ways of dealing with pain and anxiety, but there are times in pregnancy, birth and parenthood where we are not at our best and need support, patience and understanding from others.
Hugs to anyone who needs them xxxx

Flower08

fluffysox wrote: »

Like you said Flower we're all different, it was in my birth plan to clean baby up a biy before putting him on me the first time and it will be again. As it turned out he did a big wee while they were cleaning him up. The memory of two nurses squealing "Ah... stop weeing on me..." still tickles me.

:rotfl: DS did a wee all over OH when the midwife was showing him how to put his nappy on and get him dressed. First time he had ever put a nappy on a baby and he got covered in wee

nessie216

Do you write your own birth plan or do you do it with your midwife?

I think I have been ignored a bit with regards to that

Had appointment with diabetes consultant etc yesterday & I'm booked in for an internal next Wednesday so they can score my cervix out of 10 to see whether I'm suitable for induction or whether to wait - reckon I should take hospital bag with me?

I'm left a bit in the dark to be honest - anyone else feel like they don't know what is going on?

Reduced movements - beans routine has changed but still moving & over last couple of days I swear they are trying to dance their way out of my belly - never seen my belly move around so much - could that be a sign of baby wanting to come out?

Getting more tired everyday now & definitely have a pregnant lady waddle!

Finished my 12/13th load of baby washing today - that's all clothes up to 3 months, bedding, blankets & nappies done!

37+6

Bangton

Flower08 wrote: »

Have to say I can see it obviously wasn't a personal attack, however a lot of the reasons I dont post that much on this thread is because there seems to be a lot of judgement made about the 'correct' way to give birth.

Really? I find this thread totally invaluable. I think the women on here offer massive amounts of support and care for each other and I can hand on heart say I have never felt judged on any thing pregnancy or birth related. I guess we are all different but I post on here daily because it helps me massively at times when I feel I'm a 'pregnancy bore' to those who are not in the same position.

I think we all have the common goal that we'd like the 'fantasy birth' - we'll stay cool, calm and in control. The reality could be very different but it surprises me to read that someone feels there is judgement in this area of the forum. Days ago I wrote about BF and the fact that I find it pretty gross. No one jumped or berated me at a time when actually I expected some might...

I'll miss this forum when it's time to go and the women on it! That's not a dig at you btw Flower, it's just not my experience of this thread at all

I watched the Midwives programme about an hour ago and found it a bit annoying. From the word go it indicated some women don't even want to feel the pain and just opt for the 'easy way out' aka an epidural. I think it's messages like that that make women look weak. Personally I don't really care what the midwives or anyone else thinks of me if I struggle and act 'awful'. I'm not in it for a medal..so long as my baby is safe and well. Pretty sure knowing me there will be quite a few 'I can't do its'!

Anyway...

House got finished today after 18 long long weeks :T Just needs a good hoover in our bedroom. Rest of house is sparkling as health visitor was due today so I went ape cleaning up and then she never turned up!!! Not a phone call or anything. So she can b0llocks off now!

An9i77 - did baby start moving after the ice water? I went in at 33 weeks with a similar thing. The ice water didn't work! Now I'm 38 weeks pregnant I have a very active little man..especially when I'm trying to go to sleep

Toothfairy4

nessie, i have heard nothing from my midwife about a birth plan. Seeing her tomorrow at 36 weeks so maybe that'll be when it's mentioned?

Angelmommy

Can anyone recommend a wrap carrier thingy? I've used one for my niece and nephew and it was awesome but sister sold it couple years back and can't remember brand. I'm hoping to bf and these were excellent for covering up when out. TIA

34+3