MSE Pregnancy Club 26

an9i77

I just rang triage they said to drink a glass of icy water and then lie down for an hour and see if the baby starts kicking. She said to ring her back and let her know either way. Good there's a test they can do before I'd have to go in, as I'm home alone with my toddler at the mo.

dizziblonde

Poppy27 wrote: »

We were the same until recently, the baby's room was a junk room! But after a few weekends of hard work (painting, cleaning, organising!) we finally have a nice pretty nursery! Just don't leave it too late, by the time I hit about 32 weeks I was to knackered to help and OH had to do a lot of painting on his own! :rotfl:

Hope you enjoy the NCT classes, I'm really enjoying mine and so is OH, it is very interactive and friendly.

Well done for reaching V day bigzippy!

I watched that episode of midwives last night, but I still can't work out if it was a good idea or not! Didn't have any nightmares but was certainly a bit more concerned after watching that awful panicking girl. I hope I can try to stay calm and have a nice water birth like the blonde lady (without the gender mix up lol, that was cute!)

Re. Stretch marks, I had none on my tummy until about 4 weeks ago and now I'm covered in them! Have been using Palmer's stretch mark lotion, not because I think it'll actually prevent them but because it feels nice and soothing (they itch!) Will continue to use it until it's all gone and then start on the Bio Oil again after baby is here as I know it really does help scars fade faster from experience.

Is there any need to describe a woman who is scared and in pain as "awful"? Sorry but that's really nasty judgemental language to use - I guess my first time around I must have been "awful" too.

I was absolutely terrified. I'd gone in to be checked out, still thinking I had a couple of months to go and expecting to be in a couple of hours max before being given the OK and sent home. Everything snowballed into realising I was going to deliver prematurely, having neo-natal doctors brought in to discuss what was going to happen with a 33 week gestation birth and prognosis, and one awful night in increasing amounts of pain where the reality of it slowly snowballed that this was what was going on. Add in three hours of being left in pain being pratted about with pain relief and appallingly treated by some very uncaring staff and yes, by the time they started shouting at me and threatening me about forceps and ignoring my desperate pleas for them to note how far I could move my legs without my SPD kicking in... and yes, I was in a world beyond panic and well into utter utter terror. I'd estimate that about 75% of why I was in such terror was down to how I'd been treated by the staff, and about a manageable 25% down to the actual birth thing though.

It hurts beyond belief every single time I see someone laying into a woman who has given birth on the TV in a none "approved" way. To see it described as awful is just... well... it's disgusting language to use. Women who are traumatised by it spend a heck of a lot of time thinking of themselves as some kind of failures anyway - and for the living room birth jury to sit there and somehow blame and label them just adds to the pain.

Kayalana99

dizziblonde wrote: »

Is there any need to describe a woman who is scared and in pain as "awful"? Sorry but that's really nasty judgemental language to use - I guess my first time around I must have been "awful" too.

I wouldn't over read into it I didn't see the program by the post I am guessing it was one extreme to the other, and we all hope to be the calm and relaxed one but its so hard to know untill your in labour itself and it can be worrying watching these shows.

Sorry to hear your labour wasn't a postive one anyway.

Personally I am the quiet person who doesn't like to get on the wrong side of people but during labour the midwife got swore at/ so much abuse it was unreal...

She got a box of choclates and lots of apoligies after....

sweaty_betty

an9i77 wrote: »

I just rang triage they said to drink a glass of icy water and then lie down for an hour and see if the baby starts kicking. She said to ring her back and let her know either way. Good there's a test they can do before I'd have to go in, as I'm home alone with my toddler at the mo.

Sorry I'm lurking again. I've sent you a PM. Hope all is OK.

Mrshaworth2b

Dizzi - you did this on the other thread, not approving of a term used in someone's post. Wasn't it something to do with "palming children off"?

You can clearly see that this is a very informal thread where people type how they feel in a chatty way. Not everyone self censers when writing on here, and nor should they.

Sometimes I feel like you write your posts to give people negative views on the birth process. I appreciate yours were traumatic, heart breaking and very difficult but I've read your posts time and time again and sometimes are quite negative.

Please don't lecture people on the use of language on here, it isn't a personal attack on you, so stop treating it a such!

Toothfairy4

I don't think Poppy meant it like that, probably more 'awful' in the sense that it was awful to watch? I'm sure she doesn't need a telling off for just voicing her opinion anyway. Not nice.

Toothfairy4

an9i77, please go get checked out if your worried at all. My mudwife has reminded me every visit about reduced movements and how important it is to keep an eye on them.

amyloofoo

sweaty_betty wrote: »

Sorry I'm lurking again. I've sent you a PM. Hope all is OK.

:grouphug: SB

Hope all is okay an9i and that the ice water has done the trick, if not, please go in to get checked out (and lobey if LO is still being a bit quiet movement-wise).

Dizzi, I think your emotion is completely understandable - no woman should be made to feel that she somehow laboured 'wrong' and it's awful when professionals are the ones who perpetuate this

Having said that, I don't think that Poppy meant the girl herself was 'awful', more the situation. It was very stressful to watch (I can only imagine how it must have been for her and her loved ones to experience) and I think sometimes that shock and fear can make us express things not quite as we'd wish

I'm another Midwives viewer who was surprised by the number of women who gave birth on their back and didn't seem to be given much information about why this may not be best. Whilst labouring in the reclined position may be right for some women, and no midwife should be making women move if that's how their body is telling them to labour, I thought there was much more emphasis on active birthing these days.

It has made me keener on the idea of a water birth though!

bride2be2012

Re movements, I went to hospital about 3 weeks ago to be checked out as I noticed a reduction in movements (I'd be 37 weeks then), and they weren't concerned too much as I'd felt between 10-15 movements during the day (I went in the evening). Some days I find bean will move that much in half an hour, sometimes she doesn't move as much at all. Obv, if you are concerned at all, get it checked out.

Well, operation eviction has started - DH has to take his two weeks annual leave next week and the following week, so need bean to arrive ASAP! Off to a good start though, bought an exercise ball this afternoon to bounce on, and this evening my show has started to come away (sorry if TMI). I know it can come away really early though so trying not to get my hopes up!

BabaMoose

an9i77 wrote: »

Those ladies who are due or very near, are you still feeling lots of movement? I don't know if I am just being paranoid but I don't seem to be feeling as much as I used to, and not sure if it's because baby is all squashed up. I still feel some, so it's still alive (!) but not sure if it's right to feel less movements than I did a few weeks ago. I'm 37+5 btw. Don't want to go to antenatal if I'm just being paranoid but not sure if this is normal. Had the doctor listen to baby's heart only yesterday at my regular antenatal apt and it was normal so I'm probably just worrying about nothing.

Hi - first advice is if you are concerned about it ask your midwife, as it is always better to be safe than sorry and it is what they are there for.

Doing a bit of reading around and it seems to be common that the strength of the movement/kicks decreases the closer the due date comes - but generally the amount of activity is thought to stay the same.
Quite a lot of articles mention lying on your left hand side with support under the bump and focussing on the movement. 10 (as someone else mentioned) is the magic number - as there should be more than 10 kicks over a 2 hour period if during a normally active period - but obviously each person is different so don't take that as an absolute.

Hopefully the ice water helps - I'm a lurker... but a slow lurker... it takes me a while to catch up

I'm currently 34wks and hoping that my ribs will stop being used as a jungle gym sometime soon...!