MSE Pregnancy Club 26

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kerri_dfw wrote: »

Re: whooping cough vaccine, I was all for going and having it done, but now I know it's only been pushed on pregnant ladies for a year and whooping cough is more prevalent in the summer I'm not sure whether to get it or not.

That's interesting - being a respiratory kind thing I assumed it would be more prevalent in winter although DD1 (who had been vaccinated) had it in the summer.

continualdiamond

Toothfairy4 and Flower8 totally not helpful from my friend. Her sister was around visiting as well and in the end told her to stop. I think I was just too shocked to speak to be able to tell her to stop.

In a way kinda glad it was the weekend as probably would of rang my midwife all emotional demanding a c-section as would of seen it as the easy option. Yet I have no idea what is an easy option, as my labour compared to someones c-section could turn out to be the better option.

At least today I am calm, got some good post as well, an offer on a ppi claim but now the hard part on working on whether the offer is worth it. Worth it in terms of timing with me being on maternity leave now and hubby only getting minimum wage following his redundancy in Feb from a much higher paid job. Always the way, think they probably offer you the money hoping your current situation = you not being able to say no.

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abis21 wrote: »

Angelmommy - I think I would say to your mum that if she wanted to come with you it was on the strict instructions that she didn't contact anyone afterwards - that you were the one to pass on >your< news. I don't like anyone else sharing my special news. If someone puts a message on FB saying that I have had the baby before I have announced it I will go mad!! I know they are excited - but sometimes it just feels like they want to be 'the first' to put it on social media. I will have done the hard work - let me have the nice moment of announcing it :rotfl:

One of my brothers posted congratulations on my cousin's FB page before she'd announced it on FB. I don't know whether she minded or not but I made sure I had my settings set so that if someone posted on my wall only I could see it which meant that when a different brother did the same thing with me it didn't announce it to all my FB friends.

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amus wrote: »

Rant alert!

Getting really annoyed with people saying 'Oooo I hope it's a girl' 'I think it's a girl, wishful thinking for you' 'oh I do hope you get a girl'. Yes, after 2 boys it would be nice to have a girl to experience both, but really all I care about is a healthy baby, I love my two boys to bits and adding another boy to the family would be as much a joy as having a girl.


It just feels like everyone is basically saying they will be disappointed on my behalf or will 'feel sorry for me' if I have another boy. People are (maybe in my hormonal state) implying that if my baby is a boy he is going to be a let down, which really upsets me, my baby will be my child and will be loved just as much as my other two, boy or girl.


Anybody think of any good retorts to those making such comments, as I'm getting a bit sick of being polite and just saying I really don't mind!

I think if someone said to me "I hope it's a girl", I'd probably want to say, "I hope it's a boy".

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Lola888 wrote: »

With DD1 I didn't actually have a water birth, but I did spend over 2 hrs in the pool. I just wore my bra and a vest. I was going to buy a tankini, but never got round to it.

I actually bought *two* tankinis (because I was too ill to go out so bought from eBay and was guessing at the size) but in my haste I ended up jumping in the pool with my bra on (having removed my pants due to my waters breaking) and didn't actually realise until after I'd given birth.

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Flower08 wrote: »

Is it the norm in every area to have a pre birth visit now?? I never had one with DS (nearly 2). I dont want someone snooping around my house :rotfl:

Ours have never done one.

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Bangton wrote: »

How long do HV's actually keep coming round?

My first I had visits at ten days, sixteen days and eleven weeks and was offered a home visit when I moved house (I moved two miles!) My second I had one at about twelve days and one at six weeks which I missed because we were on holiday and the letter they sent came after we went. It seems to vary hugely by area and also I think they would come to see you more if you needed it.

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Toothfairy4 wrote: »

Has anyone else not had any antenatal classes? My NHS ones got cancelled a a week before they were due to start which meant i was then too late to join the NCT ones are there any good online ones i can watch? I wasn't too bothered but have had people react with horror when i say i've not been to any!

I did have antenatal classes (NHS ones) with my first and in all honesty, having none would have been better. The MW was really rubbish and kept going on about how rubbish it would be having a newborn and how tired we would be etc and the first thing we did was watch a video all about stress during pregnancy and how bad it could be for your baby which didn't really seem great either. The only useful thing was the hospital tour but at ours they have tours every week that you can just go to without having the classes.

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continualdiamond wrote: »

Well I am 39 weeks today and not feeling too bad really. Was a bit scared over the weekend as my friend went into too much detail about her daughters birth and it really frightened me making me think I wanted to request a c-section. I see my midwife Thursday so will mention how I feel just so she is aware more than anything.

I don't have any links but if you google "positive birth stories", you should be able to find websites with good borth stories on them which is a very helpful thing to read to counter our cultural obsession with regaling people with bad birth stories. (I found them when looking for nice birth videos to show my eldest when I was first planning a homebirth.)

ETA: My last birth was absolutely lovely and I'd be happy to PM you my birth story if you would like.

kerri_dfw

ContinualDiamond - the way I look at things is that as a woman our bodies are designed to grow and produce a baby. However, if there is a reason for medical intervention then we're lucky enough to live in a country that provides such care. I think quite a lot of women fear labour as we always hear the horror stories, but I'd imagine for every horror story there's a dozen good ones. I've read the birth stories on here and some are scary, but I feel I'm prepared in case something goes wrong but hoping everything will be fine and that I just let my body do what it needs to do without being too apprehensive about it.