MSE Pregnancy Club 26

BadlyWrittenPoem

Bangton wrote: »

On Friday I was bought gifts from work. I'd mentioned not getting clothes as I have 4 laundry bags full due to being given a lot and then buying some on top. Anyway I got clothes for an older baby (6 months +). I think they must have thought I was only talking about having clothes for first few months but nope I meant I've got them right up to 12 months! I sound ungrateful. I'm not but these purchases were totally not to my taste at all. OH said I was being fussy whereas I want to take them back and get something I actually need/want. Is that bad?

I can just foresee people spending money on baby on things that aren't needed at all and I have no power to stop it and as awful as I sound I'd just rather they didn't or if they feel they have to do something, save their money and make me a lasagne/pie or something for when I'm knackered at the beginning!

Perhaps I'm just a meany!

We've always exchanged things for things that will actually be useful for us where we can and eBayed stuff we can't as there's no point in keeping stuff we don't want/need and won't use. I know what you mean about prefering things other than spending money on things that aren't really much use to you - I try to remind myself that even if it's not really the best thing for me that they are at least trying to show that they care.

nessie216

Argh I need to rant!

Why are family members so blooming awkward?

I have a day off work today (need to have blood test) & mum offered to take me to GP, which is lovely but when I said I was fine & that there was other stuff I want to do etc. she went into a huff

She then went off on one saying she felt like a spare part - but doesn't she understand that I want a little time on my own? In about 5-7 weeks I should have a baby that will rely on me - am I that selfish to want to have my own space before they arrive?

I am seriously dreading being on maternity leave now - I can imagine her wanting to come round all the time - I feel a bit suffocated as it is!

RE: thinking of things for others to get as gifts - I never expected it either so have brought most things we need for baby - then DH moans that we are not leaving enough things for people to get us stuff - but what about if they don't get us anything? Then we won't be ready! At least most of the stuff I have brought is second hand so that stuff could be used last?!

Only 4 more days left at work this week! Dreading the last day as I know they will do a presentation - I hate standing up in front of people!

35 + 4

justonemorepairofshoes

Morning all

Still pregnant! It's the first day of term today so I feel strange about not being at work. My maternity leave officially starts today as the summer holidays haven't counted.

No signs or anything so hubby has gone to work instead of holiday as booked as we'd both rather he had time off after she is here.

No baby shower for me either. My friends all fall into different groups so would have been tricky for one person to organise. I have one friend who has text me 10 times the past 2 days to see if there is any news!!

I have awful SPD for about 8 weeks - someone on here suggested I lie with a tennis ball under my bum cheek which was really useful. As was a pillow between my legs in bed.

Hope you are all well - sorry I can't help with the car boot issues.

TTC40

nessie216 wrote: »

RE: thinking of things for others to get as gifts - I never expected it either so have brought most things we need for baby - then DH moans that we are not leaving enough things for people to get us stuff - but what about if they don't get us anything? Then we won't be ready! At least most of the stuff I have brought is second hand so that stuff could be used last?!

Only 4 more days left at work this week! Dreading the last day as I know they will do a presentation - I hate standing up in front of people!

35 + 4

I cried on Friday at my presentation!

Totally agree about leaving things for others to buy - I needed to be sure that 'needs' were sorted so couldn't wait for others to offer. Also I am OK with second hand/ basic on some stuff & I know that if others buy they are likely to go OTT with a top end model & not look for a bargain! That really makes me seem ungrateful.

32+6

bride2be2012

Hi all, hope everyone had a good weekend. My DH was away for a stag weekend, so I went my mums for the weekend (just the other side of town) but was nice to not have to worry about cooking and housework etc! Still, nice to be back to my own bed now!

Hugs to all those who need them, especially those having a rubbish time with friends! All my friends are split over various social groups too, so it's a bit of a nightmare trying to organise anything lol! Not having or expecting anyone to organise a baby shower but I'm not fussed tbh, I'd rather just get what we need ourselves. My folks and inlaws have got our travel system and baby furniture between them, which was very generous of them. The only other person who asked if they could get us something in particular was my best friend, so I said bedding for the crib - now she says she can't find anything to fit?! It isn't a standard size I know that, but a quick look on google, amazon and ebay brings up loads! So I don't know if she is getting it or not, but I'd quite like to know either way!

I'm quite shy too, so I'm quite apprehensive about going to mother and baby groups etc! None of my friends have young babies or expecting at the moment, its just me, and most don't stay locally either. My antenatal classes were pretty rubbish and no one really spoke or tried to make friends either

continualdiamond

Morning all.

No baby shower for me either. I might be wrong but would feel awkward organising my own and highly doubt that my friends would organise one now as I'm 37 weeks today so not long to go.

Hubby and I took ourselves to the cinema yesterday, we'd done the sweet Sundays so had our two free tickets and thought it was best to use them before baby is here. So since we didn't pay for the tickets we treated ourselves to a pick/mix, expensive yes, but both enjoyed it.

We've said we need to go out for a meal next weekend or at least do something just us that doesn't involve being at home before a lot of planning is involved with going anywhere.

Re classes etc, I did the NCT ones, didn't do anything else, but it has been nice keeping in touch with the other ladies as was just 4 of us. I joined the NCT as well and got a booklet in the post on Saturday and they have a list of all local meet ups in my area, which whilst it sounds daunting I think I'm going to have to be brave and go along to them.

Some of them involve taking your children along obviously but then others are actually meals out just for parents. I'll need all the support I can get and it feels very daunting now to know I'll be responsible for someone so tiny 24/7.

I know that sounds silly, but I guess it's not something I thought of very early on. Now that it's September and its actually the month I am due it's kinda like 'omg'.

Re the vertbaudet code. I had one with my catalogue that = getting the changing bag. I would of shared it but it's gone out with recycle now. Hope the one that was shared people are able to re-use and it's not just for the person its sent too.

bella2121

BadlyWrittenPoem wrote: »

You should see your GP or pharmacist as there are plenty of things you can take for constipation.

Thanks I'm on movicol, I try to remember to take it but If I miss a day or so I get bunged up again, must remember to keep on top of it, it's just one of the many pains at the moment

I'm not overly bothered at not having a baby shower to be honest I think it would be more of a pain than its worth, it the more not getting invited anywhere because its presumed you wouldn't go, I'd rather be invited and decline the invitation than not be invited at all if that makes sense.

I only see a couple of friends at the minute one of which I met at school her son is in the Same year as my oldest, we had our last baby 2 weeks apart so the babies got us chatting, turns out she lives on the next street to me and we are really close now and even our OHs get on which is a massive thing as my OH doesn't like to be set up with friends he likes to make his own :rotfl: we go to playgroups, together and go round to each others house for tea, all go out for days out with the kids etc its lovely, I'm closer to her than friends I've had for years, her priorities a the same as mine, were a lot of my friends are single so either don't have kids or there kids go to the dads at weekend while they all go out partying

I can't comment on the car boot discussion really we have a vauxhall zafira which has a massive boot when only using it as a 5 seater not so massive when using as a 7 seater though lol

Still feeling a bit overwhelmed today, I think I'm nervous about having a section although I'd be nervous about having a normal delivery too although I'm really excited to at the same time, just keep feeling a little teary

Anyways hope everyone has a good day and aches and pains are bearable xxx

Bangton

justonemorepairofshoes wrote: »

Morning all

Still pregnant! It's the first day of term today so I feel strange about not being at work. My maternity leave officially starts today as the summer holidays haven't counted.

No signs or anything so hubby has gone to work instead of holiday as booked as we'd both rather he had time off after she is here.

No baby shower for me either. My friends all fall into different groups so would have been tricky for one person to organise. I have one friend who has text me 10 times the past 2 days to see if there is any news!!

I have awful SPD for about 8 weeks - someone on here suggested I lie with a tennis ball under my bum cheek which was really useful. As was a pillow between my legs in bed.

Hope you are all well - sorry I can't help with the car boot issues.

That's exactly what I was thinking - if you leave things out for people to buy you can bet you won't get bought it! I remember when my nephew was born my brother got plaster casts to make feet imprints as memories and things like that and I thought 'urgh no thanks!' I know some people are into that but I'm not. I've bought a baby record keeping book of my own as it had an area to record pregnancy related things too but I bet I get more than one bought!

At the same time we have been lucky as people have passed down baby vests (which are never all that fun to buy), coats, pram suits, sleep suits and things that are all sweet. I never turn down an offer of free stuff that people want out of their house!

So yeah, I'm a bit ungrateful at times but I'm just going to take back what I don't want!

Has anyone bought them Muslin swaddle things? I quite like the idea of thin layers to wrap baby in when he comes home but wondering if they are a waste. I was perusing the Aden and Anais ones until Kate Middleton had her baby and everyone has gone cuckoo for them. Thinking I'll get mine from notonthehighstreet as they have one with soldiers on..although saying that, I might look like I'm still attempting to copy Kate!

Bangton

Don't know if anyone knows/interested but Argos have a baby event at moment and lots of bargains on baby baths/thermometers even clothes.

I've just picked up 20 Avent breast milk/food storage pots for £6.99!

BadlyWrittenPoem

bella2121 wrote: »

Thanks I'm on movicol, I try to remember to take it but If I miss a day or so I get bunged up again, must remember to keep on top of it, it's just one of the many pains at the moment

I just thought I should say as it seems to be a common myth that you can't have anything for it in pregnancy. It's a side effect of the medication I'm taking so I'd have serious issues if I couldn't have anything.