MSE Pregnancy Club 26

lippy1923

neneromanova wrote: »

Sorry, bit of a rant

My so called friends are useless!! Out of my 3 pregnancies, I've had no "baby shower/get together" where as they've given each other a baby shower, and one who is due 2 weeks after me is having one. They had a girly evening the other night with drinks and nail painting and stuff, and I've just seen they've had a night out together!! I'm actually tempted to say sod the lot of them and try finding new friends (if only I could). I haven't seen one friend for nearly 2 months now. They will only contact me if they want something from me.

Rant over.

Hopefully they DD's bunkbeds are coming tomorrow be nice to finally start getting rooms sorted.

Hope everyone else is having a better time

32+6

Room for another one? Im 24 weeks today :j

Sorry to hear that TBH they don't sound like real friends and you will most likely be better off without people like that in your life.

Have you got any antenatal classes planned? I'm going to make a good effort to make new friends when I go to mine as I am the only one in my friends group who is having a child/ has kids. Would be nice to have new friends in the same situation as I know it's going to affect my existing friendships a lot.

Once your little jellybean arrives they won't matter to you anyway. Just enjoy your time with him/her and sod them so called friends.

neneromanova

No I'm not bothering with classes. I didn't find them worth it.

Annoyingly they have some of my stuff I need back for bubs. I suppose I can suck it up for one more time.

Lola888

neneromanova if you went to the classes you can make friends there. I went to a baby massage class and made a couple of mummy friends. I don't really have a lot of old friends left now, they don't have kids or I just found them irritating so I binned them.

BeNiceToMySelf

oh dear that's really sad that your friends aren't there for you nene and lobey. I hope you make more friends at mum & baby groups. I think someone said to me that once you have a baby you only have time left for things that really matter so you can spend time with your true friends only.

I'm looking forward to going to baby massage, baby yoga and pushchair exercise groups. I also have 2 friends who will be on maternity leave at the same time so I'm looking forward to playdates.

angelmommy I'm gonna be making Christmas cards and hopefully Halloween cards with my outfit photos. That reminds me, I need to make thank you cards for after baby to send!

Angelmommy

BeNiceToMyself - I've ordered a cute little monkey crochet hat and pants for the New Baby cards. My teenager is arty at taking pics and one of my sisters has her own printing company so will be very cheap.

Welcome Lippy!

Neneromanova - sounds like they definitely could've made an effort for you and to leave you out, is not very nice at all. Personally I would have to tell them that they have upset me, but that's just me.

amus

Lola888 wrote: »

Halfords?? Since when did they start selling baby stuff? Bargainous though

Is it evil to dress your kids in matching outfits? I'm thinking it would be really cute for Christmas Day. DD1 will be 21 mths and DD2 should be 1 mth. DH isn't looking very impressed

If it is I'm definitely evil, I like to dress my boys in matching outfits, I think it's cute!


Obviously when they get older not so much but when they're little I think it's fine.


Not sure what I'll do if I have another boy though, for some reason 3 in matching outfits seems a bit much. Plus DS1 is turning 6 soon so obviously won't want to be wearing babyish clothes.

Bangton

Hopelass I know totally how you feel about the classes. I am never the best in situations where I don't know people, in fact I've totally not bothered to look or book any until now when I'm worried I might be a bit bored. I moved 30 mins away from where my friends are and whilst it's not miles and miles we have drifted apart. Doesn't help that we are in different stages of life really. My best friends are actually through work but that's a 25 mile trip away as well! So now I have the opportunity and reason to get out there I'm nervous!

Sorry to those who's friends have let them down. I don't know about anyone else but I've had a couple of friends who have been a bit funny over the pregnancy. As in, they will call me a lucky b**ch for getting time of work but then say things like I'll be a broken woman with greasy hair and no makeup...or that they wouldn't dream of having a baby!! Most people are full of support, it's just the odd person and I'm not really fussed but boy will I ensure I only see them when I'm dolled up!

Benicetomyself I saw those today in the outlet! There were loads of mums and pregnant daughters cooing over them whilst I was there! I only went in for a mattress protector though! Boring!

Is anyone else being pressed to come up for things for people to buy as gifts for baby? I hate people feeling they have to buy me presents for this that or the other and really don't see the need for them to do so! I've got what I need because I'd never automatically assume people would buy things for baby!

On Friday I was bought gifts from work. I'd mentioned not getting clothes as I have 4 laundry bags full due to being given a lot and then buying some on top. Anyway I got clothes for an older baby (6 months +). I think they must have thought I was only talking about having clothes for first few months but nope I meant I've got them right up to 12 months! I sound ungrateful. I'm not but these purchases were totally not to my taste at all. OH said I was being fussy whereas I want to take them back and get something I actually need/want. Is that bad?

I can just foresee people spending money on baby on things that aren't needed at all and I have no power to stop it and as awful as I sound I'd just rather they didn't or if they feel they have to do something, save their money and make me a lasagne/pie or something for when I'm knackered at the beginning!

Perhaps I'm just a meany!

KScarlet

Angelmommy wrote: »

Anyone suffering from PPGP? I've had it really bad today - wasted today in bed! Don't know anyone that's had it to find out how they managed it.

32wks

PPGP is the same as SPD right?! If so then yes, its killing me! I have got a Serola sacroiliac belt which helps a little but I've found today I've been in so much pain and unable to do much I've been using some heat pads and painkillers but it only seems to offer temporary relief. I am hoping to start having physio soon as my MW has referred me. I feel awful as I cannot play with my son as much as I want to really hope the pain eases for you soon xx

I haven't had a baby shower but I've felt a little upset by friends/ family's reaction to baby no2. No one seems particularly interested at all. I've had to phone family to tell them how scans went etc as they haven't asked/ contacted me. From now on I am not bothering telling them anything we will manage fine without them *sob* I am still among the first of my friends to have a baby/ babies so they all find it a bit odd and get annoyed when I can't go out drinking :rotfl:*hugs* to those who are feeling let down by friends xx

I am not bothering with classes this time. There wasn't anything available in this area last time so I did do a NCT course (well the tutor did it at my house as there was nothing running around here)

Angelmommy

Bangton - I know where you're coming from and youre not being a meany. I've waited 7yrs to have this little man and he will be our last baby so I only want to dress him in what I like. My MIL bought our dd2 some really wacky clothes and even some second hand knickers she got free from the WI. I'm not a snob but the knickers were put in a charity bag and the less wacky outfits worn once, for the duration of her next visit. I've asked everyone not to buy us anything as we have everything now but if they insist, then a couple of pounds on a gift card would be great as he may need something at a later date. Personally, I've given gift cards etc when people ask for them so I'm hoping nobody else gets offended!

Kscarlet - I think it is the same. I didn't get it when pregnant with the girls but its horrible. I find going for a wee can really hurt and sometimes trigger it off. I just can't seem to walk very far anymore before it starts. Only have weekends off and spent all day in bed. :-(

I know what you mean about family too - my family contact me at least a few times a week, more so when I have scan, gtt etc to find out how I'm getting on. My in-laws however - I rang her to tell her we were pregnant after our 12wk scan - her first question was: did my husband/her son know?!? And I saw them in town a few weeks later and I asked how she was, work was etc and she didn't ask anything back. Nothing else from them at all. This is their first grandson. Dd2 is first grandchild. There is another granddaughter now too 5yrs old. I've told hubby that unless they start making an effort incredibly soon, they won't be welcome when he's born. Tbh it sounds harsh but even hubby is frustrated with them - he's so proud to carry on the name etc and have the first son yet they're just not interested.

lozza1985

Hugs to those who have rubbish friends x

Furniture is all built now feels so much more real now as what was the spare room actually looks like a nursery. Just got to get curtains, put pictures up and maybe buy a small bookcase, and get bottles and other bits then were all sorted 20 days left in work for me, starting to train a new lady today. Got a half day effectively on Wednesday due to a midwife appointment which I'm looking forward to