MSE Pregnancy Club 26

an9i77

KScarlet -I am also noticing a difference in people's reactions now I am on baby number 2 - last time people seemed a lot more bothered, now it's like because I'm already a mum they are really not that interested.

Last time my friends threw me a surprise baby shower, which was lovely and totally unexpected, this time I am not expecting one and to be honest we have pretty much everything we need. I'll be more bothered if no one makes the effort to come and visit me after the birth to be honest.
I also struggle with 'friends', since having my son I don't go out as much obviously, and none of my friends locally have kids (although one of my best friends is now pregnant).

Last time round I made one friend from baby classes who I see occasionally and it's nice when we do but it's always me who has to suggest meeting up and put in the effort.

There does seem to be a bit of a divide between those who have kids and those who don't, shouldn't be that way but I suppose birds of a feather flock together and all that.

Strange as I always thought it would be the other way round, I was the odd one out singleton for many years and imagined all my coupled up friends having babies before me (if I ever managed it at all) but then as fate would have it I ended up being one of the first to have kids.
I'm definitely going to try harder to make friends with babies this time round though.

neneromanova

Oh, and the real kicker, I LOVE Sci fi. Even more than they do, and I've just seen their pics on Facebook of them attending a comic con in Cardiff!! Argh!

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Lola888 wrote: »

I'm not formula bashing, but I have found my breastfed LO has only had a couple of sniffles- basically just a snotty nose caused by her escaping her grobag.

I think first babies also get less. My eldest hardly had any and I was completely dubious about the statistic that the average baby has ten colds by their first birthday but my 13 month old had 13 in her first year! (Both exclusively breastfed for >6 months and breastfed for >12 months so the difference between them isn't the milk.)

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Bangton wrote: »

Is anyone else being pressed to come up for things for people to buy as gifts for baby? I hate people feeling they have to buy me presents for this that or the other and really don't see the need for them to do so! I've got what I need because I'd never automatically assume people would buy things for baby!

On Friday I was bought gifts from work. I'd mentioned not getting clothes as I have 4 laundry bags full due to being given a lot and then buying some on top. Anyway I got clothes for an older baby (6 months +). I think they must have thought I was only talking about having clothes for first few months but nope I meant I've got them right up to 12 months! I sound ungrateful. I'm not but these purchases were totally not to my taste at all. OH said I was being fussy whereas I want to take them back and get something I actually need/want. Is that bad?

I can just foresee people spending money on baby on things that aren't needed at all and I have no power to stop it and as awful as I sound I'd just rather they didn't or if they feel they have to do something, save their money and make me a lasagne/pie or something for when I'm knackered at the beginning!

Perhaps I'm just a meany!

I think I will probably take a few things back that have been bought. It's not that I don't appreciate them, just I can't stand the thought of them being a waste of money :money: if they don't get worn/ used. My Mum had bought a fleece outdoor suit (which I had asked for & I love) from M&S. Work bought a similar one from H&M but I'm not sure that I need both. My Mum doesn't mind - I've told her I will take hers back as it's easy to return to M&S.

I have booked NCT classes but they are about 8-10 miles away from me (the one nearby got cancelled due to lack of interest) so it will depend on where others live etc. in respect of whether I make 'baby friends' through them. Also I may only make 2 out of 4 due to potential hospital admission at 36 weeks. TBH I am considering cancelling as the first 2 weeks are about labour, relaxation - which some won't be relevant due to planned c section.

My midwife hasn't mentioned NHS classes. I did go to midwife drop in session for one check up & another midwife said it would be discussed later in pg - which it hasn't been.

Today is midwife day at GP surgery (she's only there one day per fortnight) so I've just booked an appt & will go & have a chat about what's available. As I've now finished work I could go along if there are any.

No shower/ get together for me although my friends are spread all over & from different groups so I'm fine with that. Also don't want people to think they have to buy anything.

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Lola888 wrote: »

Is it evil to dress your kids in matching outfits? I'm thinking it would be really cute for Christmas Day. DD1 will be 21 mths and DD2 should be 1 mth. DH isn't looking very impressed

My daughters (age 1 & 6) have one pair of matching dresses and the six year old absolutely loves it (I knew she would which is the main reason I bought the matching dresses). I think it would be a bit weird dressing them the same *all* the time but unless they mind I think it's fine to do sometimes.

amus

I know what you mean re. gifts, on the one hand you're grateful for the generosity but on the other if its something you don't want/need its a waste of money, and I HATE wasting money! It might sound awful but if I don't like/need something I just return it and exchange it for something more useful. Thankfully most stores these days have good exchange policies and will let you as long as the tags are still on. Personally, if I'd bought a gift somebody didn't want I'd much rather them do this and buy something they will use than throw it in the back of a cupboard and my money be wasted.

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BeNiceToMySelf wrote: »

almost tempted to get these today! half price at £6. I wasn't sure whether to get 0-3 mths or 3-6 mths as I'm having an early October baby. Then I realised I'm gonna go crazy with Christmas outfits and accessories! I think I'll get 3-6 months as baby will be almost 3 months by Christmas day. 35+2

I think Winter hats have a good amount of give/leeway so sizing isn't going to be *that* important but you can't really predict what size they'll be in as they vary so much. My eldest was in 6-9 months by three months and 9-12 by five and my 13 month old has generally outgrown a size just when she was "supposed" to be going into it (i.e. outgrew 3-6 at 3 months, 6-9 at six months etc.).

Kayalana99

BadlyWrittenPoem wrote: »

I think first babies also get less. My eldest hardly had any and I was completely dubious about the statistic that the average baby has ten colds by their first birthday but my 13 month old had 13 in her first year! (Both exclusively breastfed for >6 months and breastfed for >12 months so the difference between them isn't the milk.)

I suppose it makes sense having two kids cause the 2nd one will bring home more germs etc when you first have your baby their not exactly around other kids unless you sit them next to each other.

My DS was BF for 6 weeks then formula fed and he was ill around 3months old from what he caught from me and my OH and then the next time was when he went to a play group about 10months old...never really had colds/coughs that I can remember its just those two times.

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Bangton wrote: »

Car wise - I have been really looking at Kias myself lately. Really attracted by the 7 year warranty as standard although personally I think if I were only having one car I'd go with the Venga. For a while I'm making do with a car that only fits pram but I think it will grate after a while, especially as I wouldn't squeeze things on back seat with baby on there as well. There's a lot to be said for a big boot!!

I can't comment on fitting of prams/pushchairs as we just use a sling so it's not an issue but we have a Kia Venga and are very happy with it. I love that there is loads of space under the base of the boot to keep all your junk that lives in the car so when you go shopping there's plenty space.

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bella2121 wrote: »

I'm feeling the hormonal meltdowns coming on too this is 3rd baby and I'm also thinking I don't know how I'm going to cope with baby and a toddler and everything else I have to juggle, also want baby to come now because I'm ridiculously uncomfortable feeling loads of pressure down below, aching all in bump, legs and groin and I've got heartburn and I nearly forgot I'm constipated and my piles hurt sorry for the TMI need to get it off my chest.

You should see your GP or pharmacist as there are plenty of things you can take for constipation.