MSE Pregnancy Club 26

vic3

I think I'm nesting just a bit...clearing out everything in sight and new carpet in baby's room.

In exactly 3 months today it will be my due date!

Sorry you're not feeling your best Scarlet x hugs x

cleofish

lobey wrote: »

Has anyone had constant back spasms recently? Have been having them all night and has meant I can only take tiny intake of breath without shouting out in agony! I thought it was the way bubs was lying but there's been movement to either side during the night so it's not stick in one position. Was really looking forward to a good nights sleep as well!

I had this a couple of months ago and woried it might be a kidney infection as it was in the same place as my kidney and was so painful but there was no infection and the docs think it was a back spasm and it has been back with avengance in the last couple of days que little sleep and its just draining how painful it is and how I cant get into a comfortable position sitting or lying. The docs said I could use a heat belt but nothing that has iburofen or anything else in it, im currently using a thermal heat pad belt I think they are called, they are expensive as they are only 1 time use,(but they do last 8 hours and fix on like a belt so can be worn under clothes) but I got them half price when they were on offer in superdrug, i have one on tonight hoping for a good night sleep. Also been using a hot water bottle, they said it was fine as its on my back but havent thought of using an ice pack, did it work quickly or did it come back afterwards? I feel for you as its so painful!

Been a really crappy day today even though its my birthday. we had another growth scan today im 33+2 today so we were excited to see little one again, but again the fluid has gone down, nearly by half as well down from 120 to 59 (they measure in mms in my local hospital) for the number of weeks 33 they said it is a range starting from 83 so we are quite a way off, ive been leaking a bit but mainly after trips to the loo so I put it down to pressure on the bladder.

We saw the consultant after and he sent me for a speculum test to see if my waters had broken, he said well we arent going to need to bring you in today and im sure you will make it to 35 weeks:eek: but if it continues to go down they will bring her out. 35 weeks!!!! Im over 33 now! I know its the right thing to bring her out but I really dont feel emotionally or pratically prepared yet! We are still in the middle of moving house as well!

It really upset me though when he tried to reassure me by telling me she had a good chance at 35 weeks 90% chance of bringing her home, I really couldnt face anything going wrong now. It just feels like with everything my body just isnt made for having and growing a baby.

So I had the speculum all seemed ok but because of how low the fluid has gone, they worry it could be a small tear causing this or possible a placenta problem, (i had a cvs at 11 weeks) so they are treating me with antibiotics, blood tests, back onto twice weekly baby heart monitoring and ive also had the first injection of steroids to try to build her lungs up, and i have got the second one tomorrow, which really hurt as they go right into the leg muscle!

So it looks like im going to be really really lucky to make it to 37 weeks at all, really going to need to get my head around baby coming early.

The thing that broke the camels back today was I let slip to my mum the babys name, we were planning on not telling anyone her name and waiting until she was born so no one could give their judgement but I was speaking to my mum on the phone and said oh got me a card, breakfast in bed and a card from....... (little ones name) and my mum said who? But it was too late by then to try to think of something to cover it up, I just didnt think. And that was it, it started me crying in the car like a fool especially after everything that had happened today as well!

God that was a long post, sorry everyone for that, but it helps sometimes to put it all down.

bigzippy

Best of luck cleo, no wonder you're overwhelmed! I would be too after what you've been through (I remember seeing some of your previous posts) to get to this point. Look after yourself, rest as much as possible and remember none of this is your fault. I'm sure all will be well for both of you


We booked a week in Spain for next week, tonight and now I'm a little anxious something will go wrong while out there Someone tell me I'm being daft...?

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vic3

Keeping my fingers crossed for you cleo. Happy birthday for yesterday x

cloudy11

Bigzippy I am sure it will be fine- just make sure you have the relevant medical card/ medical insurance for extra peace of mind! It will be a lovely break before the baby.

Best of luck Cleo.

Starting antenatal classes tonight. I am so not a class person but these are NHS and free so I thought I may as well give it a go! What sort of things do they cover?

I feel like a bit of a rant too. My mom has apparently told my sister that she feels 'left out' of my pregnancy and that of her first grandchild. I find this really annoying because I see her at least once a week and we always talk about the pregnancy/ baby etc and keep her up to date after every appt but I don't have much to say! I have had a pretty easy pregnancy so far (thankfully), so there's only so much I can talk about!

I think she might feel as though we haven't gone on long shopping trips for baby stuff etc, but I haven't done that with anyone apart from pick up a few things with my husband (we have generously been given loads of stuff). Plus my mind is on moving house in two weeks at the moment (when I will be 34 weeks) and still working full time! Grrrr.

Lola888

cloudy11 wrote: »

Bigzippy I am sure it will be fine- just make sure you have the relevant medical card/ medical insurance for extra peace of mind! It will be a lovely break before the baby.

Best of luck Cleo.

Starting antenatal classes tonight. I am so not a class person but these are NHS and free so I thought I may as well give it a go! What sort of things do they cover?

I feel like a bit of a rant too. My mom has apparently told my sister that she feels 'left out' of my pregnancy and that of her first grandchild. I find this really annoying because I see her at least once a week and we always talk about the pregnancy/ baby etc and keep her up to date after every appt but I don't have much to say! I have had a pretty easy pregnancy so far (thankfully), so there's only so much I can talk about!

I think she might feel as though we haven't gone on long shopping trips for baby stuff etc, but I haven't done that with anyone apart from pick up a few things with my husband (we have generously been given loads of stuff). Plus my mind is on moving house in two weeks at the moment (when I will be 34 weeks) and still working full time! Grrrr.

My antenatal NHS classes were rubbish. We talked about the stages of labour and when to and when not to go to hospital. They talked about the different types of pain relief that they can offer, my DH seemed to know more about it all, but then he has had a lot of operations.

They showed some pictures of what happens to your body and where the baby should be as it comes out. They did a few breathing exercises, but nothing that I thought was super useful. It was more to sell post natal exercise and to tell you who to use for childcare.

I find some mothers are really weird, my mum is really laid back, she'd rather hand over cash than go shopping herself. She doesn't mind popping into Mothercare for half hour and picking up a few things, but she hasn't got the patience for long trips, whereas my MIL is bonkers. She started buying with DD! and this bump from 5 weeks. It did get to the point where I had to get DH to tell her to stop as it was getting on my nerves. She gave us so many clothes it was stupid for me to buy any, but I wanted to decide what my daughter wore. I know it sounds petty, but she bought loads of pink and I've never been a very pink person. I wanted her to look pretty, but still funky. Anyway needless to say a lot of the stuff she bought like the "I love Grandma" sleepsuit was never worn!!

Is your mum one of the ones who want to go to appointments/scans/be in the delivery room types? MIL tried to weasel her way into those as well, she didn't manage to, but did turn up at the hospital within a hour of DD1 being born. I wasn't impressed!!

TTC40

Hi Cleo - sorry that it was such a tough day for you. Not much I can say as I feel your concerns for my pg too.

We need to remember that these people deal with these situations regularly even though it's new to us.

It will take you some time to come to terms with it as it's a shock.

Don't apologise for bringing the news on here - that's what we are about. Rants allowed (because most of the time someone/ everyone understands)

Angelmommy

Cleofish - happy birthday for yesterday. Does sound like a very emotional day for you. Hugs.

Cloudy11 - my mom is quite chilled about the baby but this is her 8th grandchild. However, I did have to tell her I thought she was a bit out of order yesterday as she said she didn't want to come to my baby shower in 2wks as she won't know everyone. Think it's rude not to come for a bit! She's coming now. My MIL on the other hand; not heard a word from the whole pregnancy. SIL tried to tell me to go round there more but I work full time and have 2 other children to spend time with. Annual leave doesn't start until 37wks and I'm exhausted! However, I expect MIL will be all over baby like a rash when he's here. Family can be a pain!!!

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cloudy11

Lola888- no she is absolutely not! She is private and pretty chilled too, but I still have no idea what more I could be doing. Maybe she was just having a bad day moaning to my sister, but it's annoyed me!

Plus, I don't want to be one of those people that always just goes on about having a baby. It gets really dull if you have to listen to it from others over and over again (like wedding planning!), so I have been really conscious of that.

We had to tell my MIL to stop too- she was buying stuff from 11 weeks which was just ridiculous and getting overwhelming, making me feel as though we had no choice either. I hate pink too. Well, I hate the stupid pink/ blue divide which seems to be that girls can only wear pink!

lobey

Cleo so sorry to hear you have been through such an ordeal. I know it's no real comfort to know you may be meeting your little girl a fair bit sooner than you'd imagined but at least to do it at the hospital with a team on hand to give you their full attention means you'll have the best care. Hope you can hang in there a few more weeks before she arrives.

Thanks also for the tips re the spasms. It did go shortly after the ice pack but I'm not sure that it wasn't coincidental. I'll pop into Superdrig at lunch and see if there are any heat packs on offer.