MSE Pregnancy Club 26

bride2be2012

Lol, I'm so glad it's not just my MIL that is being a pain! This is my mums first grandchild and she is super chilled out. Not fussed about going shopping (though more than happy to if I ask, and always offers to buy whatever it is we are looking it), is quite happy to get a text after my midwife appointments saying everything is fine, doesn't want to come to the hospital when I'm in labour (though again, she would if I asked but I want it just to be me and DH). And they are off on holiday 2 weeks after my due date (lucky them!).

MIL on the other hand, this is grandchild number 9. She is miffed because she's not been to any of my appointments, and we haven't asked her to come to the hospital for the birth (apparently she's been there for all the rest). She lives over 2 hours away, so its not even practical! And shes horrified my folks are away on holiday so soon after my due date, as i might need them! its our baby, not theirs, i cant be relying on my parents all my life lol!

When she'll appear after the birth, and for how long I really have no idea, mainly because we don't have room to put them up. Also, my SIL gets married the day after my due date and my inlaws are looking after her kids while she goes on honeymoon, and won't be able just to pull them out of school to come visit us. We'll be expected to go and see them, but the only way we are going is if bump comes early and I feel up to going to the wedding. If that's passed, then we'll be staying at home and enjoying some family time.

AFM, I'm fed up with being pregnant as well. Sore back, sore hips and legs, can't sleep etc etc, you all know how it is! I think baby has moved further down as well, lots more pressure down below and there are less little movements and more big kicks, normally in my ribs! Just counting down the days now, really hope I don't go overdue as I don't think I could stand it!

36 + 5

nessie216

Sympathise with all those with problem families

My mum is being a right royal PITA - she just wants to spend alot of time with me - but i just want to be on my own & do what i want - and she is being awfully needy/clingy - i know this is her first grandchild - but she has brought me up to be independent (moved to Spain when i was 18) and now doesn't like it that i don't want to rely on her at all!

Also agree with the whole pink for a girl blue for a boy rubbish - i have purposely not found out what we are having because i don't want all pink or blue - all of the 'older' generation is totally disgusted - why can't they just respect our wishes?

Me & DH also had a little arguement with my side of the family at the weekend about xmas - me & DH don't think we should buy bean anything for xmas as they will be about 3 months old & won't know what all the fuss is about - bearing in mind we have just done up their room & brought all clothes etc for first 6 months - spending a small fortune in the process - to shut them up i might make a stocking which can be re-used every year - anyway what would you buy a 3 month old for it's first xmas?

Can anyone else see where we are coming from?

(bit of background info - last year me & dh refused to pay £50 on a meal each on xmas day so spent it on our own so my side of family came up with the idea of secret santa so we would only pay £40 for xmas presents so we can 'afford' to go out for a meal with them - we can afford it (nothing to do with money) but still find it an obscene amount of money for a meal that i can pretty much duplicate for between £10-20 at home for both of us - instead of £100)

Growth scan in a couple of hours - be good to see how much bean has grown & see what they think bean will weigh when born!

34+6 (5 more days left at work!)

Crikey i sound like a miserable cow! Sorry :rotfl:

Flower08

nessie - DS was just about 12 weeks for his first Christmas and we spent £20 on presents for him. Like you say at that age they are not going to have a clue and we knew both our families would go mad buying presents so decided to save our money.
This baby will be even younger for her first Christmas so we plan to do the same again. I think this year will be the first one that DS fully understands what is going on and will be able to get excited about it so I am sure we will be well and truely spoiling him, but his baby sister wont have a clue!

bella2121

Afternoon all

Well growth scan went well, baby is measuring about 6 and half lb which is perfect for my dates everything else is fine too so at least I know if I do go into labour before my section that she isn't huge!!

I don't have to worry re: MIL as she's no longer with us, my mum is interested to know what's going on but doesn't come to appointments/scans etc and she certainly isn't coming to the hospital when baby is being born I couldn't cope with the fussing, none of my family have bought anything for us, my mum gave me £20 towards my steriliser and some pjs and slippers for me. My friend on the other hand has bought me a bath seat, baby gym, clothes, socks for me, toiletries she's a diamond

I'm ready for baby to come now I'm achy and even getting up off the settee is a huge effort, never mind chasing a toddler around.

Ewan the dream sheep has arrived he's very cute DS2 has been cuddling him, also played football with him too lol not sure it's gonna get him to sleep but might work for new baby

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bella2121

DS was an October baby and for Christmas he got a cot and clothes we got him a couple of stocking fillers but nothing else. It's upto you what you do with your baby, just ignore everyone else that's what me and OH do lol xx

Lola888

nessie- I wouldn't pay that much for Christmas dinner!! YOu could buy loads of food for that kind of money. I don't do proper presents for my family, might get them some choc or cake or something else edible.

Same here re presents bump will be about 1 month old so will have no clue what is going on. I've spent about £100 on DD1, but she's going to be 21 months so will have more of a clue. I'm thinking of getting something small like a keepsake and maybe a little Christmas outfit for some photos, but not spending loads. I've got all of DD1's baby toys so pointless buying anymore.

I hated Christmas day last year it was an endless stream of DH's family. I think the bit that really gets to me is there is double of everything as DH's parents split and have new partners plus the step sister, half brother and his brother plus their partners! Plus they always buy a ton of useless presnts that just clog up the house. I still have my Christmas presents from MIL and FIL shoved in the cupboard somewhere?!?!

My family came over in one go and there aren't many of them just my parents and my brother.

cloudy11

Nessie- I think that's it. My mom wants to spend a lot of time with me, but I am really independent and have my own life, so it's feeling a bit smothering! Dreading maternity leave as she is retired and only lives a few minutes away- sometimes I just want to be alone for a few days, for absolutely no reason. I sound awful! I really get along with my mom well and love spending time with her, but she is driving me a bit crazy at the moment.

We won't be spending a lot on Christmas, if anything. We will have just moved house so money will be tight and I don't think an 8 week old baby will be particularly aware!

neneromanova

I've got little man some curtains and a matching duvet cover for his room Just so there's something for him so the girls don't get confused. Same as a Stocking from Santa. He'll be getting a little one with like baby gros/vests for the future or something.

nessie216

cloudy11 wrote: »

Nessie- I think that's it. My mom wants to spend a lot of time with me, but I am really independent and have my own life, so it's feeling a bit smothering! Dreading maternity leave as she is retired and only lives a few minutes away- sometimes I just want to be alone for a few days, for absolutely no reason. I sound awful! I really get along with my mom well and love spending time with her, but she is driving me a bit crazy at the moment.

We won't be spending a lot on Christmas, if anything. We will have just moved house so money will be tight and I don't think an 8 week old baby will be particularly aware!

I'm completely dreading maternity leave for exactly the same reason - mum lives 7 minute walk away & doesn't work - they are in process of buying a house but a slight hiccup (house owner they are buying from died a week ago!) will cause delays - i selfishly wanted her to have the keys by the time i go on maternity leave so she wouldn't be round much!

I know she means well & is excited but i don't want to talk about baby all the time - i want to have a couple of weeks to myself to sort out the house & my head before bean gets here

I now sound like a selfish cow

Lola888

nessie216 wrote: »

I now sound like a selfish cow

Nope not selfish considering you'll have a little person completely dependant on you and you probably won't have any you time for ages once they come along.

I totally understand sometimes it's just nice to be on your own without having to make any effort and when you're fully cooked waiting for bubs to come you'll want to put your feet up or like me I was actively trying to get bubs out by walking miles and miles.

A few little white lies might be in order, like you've made plans to go out with someone from work/old school friend/another pregnant lady etc. just to hav a little you time