MSE Pregnancy Club 26

cloudy11

I feel exactly the same Nessie. I think I will just have to have some white lies to hand as I can't be doing with seeing people every day! I LOVE alone time and I am aware it will be in very short supply in just a few weeks

Plus I will have moved house (hopefully!) and I want to potter around in my new house without having to get dressed should I wish!

bride2be2012

We won't be getting bean a lot for Xmas, she'll only be 12 weeks or so and won't have a clue what's going on! There's plenty of time to spoil her when she's older and more aware! And if any family members ask what they can get her, then next vouchers would be fab so I can go mad buying her stuff in the sales!

I'm more dreading the family rows over where we spend Xmas! Normally both DH and I only have Xmas day and sometimes Boxing Day off, which gives us the perfect excuse to stay at home, on our own, with a stash of DVDs, good food and plenty drink - however, I'm expecting major guilt trips from both sides about seeing us and bump on Xmas day this year. And obv I'm on mat leave, so can't use work as an excuse! And it's not made easier by fact were 15 mins from my mum and dad, yet two hours from DHs family. Oh, and its MILs birthday on Xmas eve too! It's got me all wound up and it's only August!!

cloudy11

I know how you feel Bride2be! These are the thought of things that stress me out too and keep me awake, but I am hoping that is normal anxiety?! I know it seems silly to some people but I am more anxious about these sort of things than anything else.

Both sets of parents live close to each other so that isn't an issue in terms of travel, but I really want us to have time as a new three person family too!

bella2121

We always spend Christmas at home a few times we've been invited to various places but always politely decline we don't even do visiting on Christmas Day, we do a Christmas morning text to say merry Christmas then later on once all presents are opened etc we ring my mum then my dad, that's it I'm the only one with kids and I'm not dragging them out on Christmas Day if people want to come to us for an hour to see the kids they're more than welcome. We did have some friends last Christmas for dinner, NEVER AGAIN!! lol

Sorry meant to mention before sorry Cleo your having a tough time and things not going to plan I'm sure baby whenever he/she arrives from this point will be fine and all the stress will soon be a distant memory, take care xx

Lola888

We had FIL's gang come over in the morning, then MIL's brood came over later morning. It was then the 3 of us for dinner. My family then came over later as they tend to get up late and eat a later dinner around 2 or 3pm.

We then had the evening to ourselves. bride2be that is not a bad idea I love the Next sale, not sure if I'll be dragging my bum out of bed at 4am to get there for the 5am start though, hmmm decisions decisions

lozza1985

Thankfully from the first year we moved in together we've had Christmas Eve seeing my parents & sister, BIL and nephews all together, then Boxing Day we see Dh gran, MUm and step dad. Christmas Day we spend by ourselves and that isn't going to change, especially as this year well have our own little family - even if she won't have a clue what's going on. Thankfully our families understand that and aren't of the opinion that Christmas is just one day but the days round it.

I'm making Winegum a stocking like I did for my nephews, and well get some bits for going in, and probably a baby gym thing for when she's older, considering it'll be nearly next Christmas next year before she has a birthday and while we've got more money we'll get bits for Christmas for when she's a bit older. Everyone does it differently, just do what's right for you grandparents etc are bound to buy things anyway so no need for you to buy loads or feel pressured to

BeNiceToMySelf

fluffysox thank goodness you recalculated and you're not worried anymore

cleofish have my fingers crossed for you at what sounds like a worrying time x

dizziblonde gorgeous pictures! I like the dummy heist

amyloofoo congratulations! I remember you from the TTC thread. Christmas will be a lovely time to have a baby.

sounds like everyone has family worries! I think I get on quite well with MIL and FIL but don't get on well with my own parents. My parents treat me like a kid and wind me up very quickly! It's very strange trying to explain that to people. 34 + 5

an9i77

littleskintdragon wrote: »

That sounds like my mil!!
I have a dd, but shes not my husbands,so this is mil's first grandchild. I found out the other day shes book the week off after due date, bil told me,luckily they only live down the road so its not as thiugh she'll want to stay here but i'm sure we'll see planty of her. Shes also the kind of person who'll just happen to pass the hospital 20 seconds after delivery, if not during.....
She asked if she could come to my scan appointment last week, but i managed to put her off, so yesterday when i had next weeks scan appointment through i started to text her and then decided not to. I dont want anyone at my appointments, unless dh wants to take time off work to come, which i think is pointless. A friend keeps offering 2, and shes got a 10 month old, i can just imagine him sitting in clinic for 2 hours waiting to see the consultant!!
Also mil is the kind who would follow me into the room with the mw and consultant to be nosey and not just go and wait in the waiting room for me :-/
Sorry moan over!! Lol

Sounds a bit like my mum! She wanted to come with me to antenatal appointments but after the last time I was pregnant I said no (with my son she wouldn't let the midwifes get a word in edgeways, kept saying 'in my day it was like this....' )

She didn't demand to be there for the birth but immediately afterwards when I was still woozy from all the drugs after emergency section and OH was trying to bond with baby (I was too out of it) we were told she was waiting in reception (she was supposed to be at home until official visiting hours) and as she could not come in to the recovery area, OH had to go and take pics of the baby on her phone to her and she kept him there for ages.

This time round she will have my son with her so hopefully won't be quite as overbearing, although I'm fully expecting the 'I've looked after grandson for the last few days so I deserve extra special treatment' argument.

The minute you tell her she's being overbearing she gets very hurt and goes off on one....

My in-laws are great, they don't live nearby so will prob just come and visit the following weekend for a day or two, they are no trouble at all. They've very kindly just offered to pay to put DS in nursery for a few months to give me a break after the baby is born so I'm not juggling a toddler and a newborn all day on my own, which is beyond generous of them!

amus

I don't tend to buy any of my kids much for Xmas/birthdays, luckily they get enough off family. Instead I put a set amount aside each year (so I know they get exactly the same amount spent on them), buy a couple of stocking fillers and put the rest in the bank, then when they're old enough to spend it responsibly they should have a nice little amount saved up!

bride2be2012

Hi all, just back from the hospital. After the change in movements yesterday, I hardly felt any all day today, so called the hospital who said to go in for monitoring. Got hooked up to the monitor straight away, and bump started kicking away! Little rascal! Everything fine, stayed on monitor for about 40 minutes before they sent me home. Midwife said baby is just being a madam before she even arrives!