MSE Pregnancy Club 26

lozza1985

I was seen at 28 weeks, then it'll be 31 weeks, 34 weeks, then every 2 weeks. First pregnancy and not high risk or anything.

So fed up of work at the minute - I put a request in 6 weeks ago to do part time normal hours when I return from maternity leave, which I know is ages away but as I currently work shifts I wanted to know ASAP, and figured as there's very few of us doing shifts (3 including me!!!) I figured it helped them to know they didn't need to keep my job open on the shifts so they could plan accordingly. Admitted defeated and emailed hr today to check what was going on, and basically they can't give me an answer yet as its too far in the future - fair enough I half expected that - but they won't even confirm at what point before I return they'll let me know, it reads like they reckon they can tell me the week before whether I'm doing part time normal hours or full time shifts, as he said several times, not everyone returns to work, or might only do a weeks and leave. Yes, and there's also the women who want to return to work but you're making it impossible and easier to just change jobs after baby is born, which is now my new plan, early next year start looking to change jobs. I'd love to stay working in a laboratory, but if needs be I'll work wherever if it means I know I have a job with suitable hours, rather than hope and pray my current employers let me change my hours and actually give me a decent amount of notice to arrange childcare!

BeNiceToMySelf

I've just bought Ewan the sheep plus the fisher price rainforest gym cos that was only £42.66. I'm such a sucker for well rated bargains!

labour vibes to the ladies that need them

33+6

kerri_dfw

Hmm first baby, have watched Midwives and One born every minute today...am now convinced all women screaming during childbirth I don't want the first thing my baby hears to be its mother screaming because they're arriving

BeNiceToMySelf

apparently making a very loud sound is something all women do just as baby arrives and everything is fully opening! I don't hold out much hope for me being quiet.

Courgette

I made a right racket with DS1 (because I was so frightened) but was very quiet with DS2 so who knows what I'll be like this time around. Next door spend half their life having really noisy sex so it'll do them good to hear me have a noisy labour :rotfl:

Midwife tomorrow where I'll be offered a sweep. I really don't want to agree to this and have explained this to DH but I think he thinks I don't really mean it. I guess I'll also be booked in for induction even though I don't intend to agree to that either, or at least not at T+14. Have been advised by people who know about these things that it's easier to nod your head and agree to everything then refuse consent at the last minute rather than going into battle before you need to. I hate this. I'm quite happy to remain pregnant, this time is far more important to the baby than it is to me, but I hate this feeling of having a deadline

T+7

Metranil_Vavin

BeNiceToMySelf wrote: »

apparently making a very loud sound is something all women do just as baby arrives and everything is fully opening! I don't hold out much hope for me being quiet.

I think I yelled as Lola's head crowned and then again when her shoulders were born..it was intense, but no where near as painful as I thought it would be. perhaps not having the time to worry about it all is a blessing and you just deal with it as it happens!

Courgette - I really hope your little fella makes an appearance when he is ready and you aren't pressured into doing anything you don't want to do x

BadlyWrittenPoem

kerri_dfw wrote: »

Hmm first baby, have watched Midwives and One born every minute today...am now convinced all women screaming during childbirth I don't want the first thing my baby hears to be its mother screaming because they're arriving

I didn't scream. My first was born to the sound of loads of Drs/MWs yelling "Push" at me so I stipulated for my next that the room was to be quiet and specifically no shouting (and had a homebirth which helped avoid the millions of people) and everything was lovely and calm and quiet when she was born. I used hypnobirthing and gas and air and nobody knew she was about to be born until I reached down with my hand and happened to feel the head. I'm guessing it was my calmness/quietness that meant the MWs didn't really believe it as they offered me an internal examination at that point which clearly was impossible with a baby in the way! I also had a doula which helped with the calm atmosphere and I'd totally recommend having a doula and using hypnobirthing as ways of making birth an enjoyable experience - I'm so looking forward to giving birth this time.

BadlyWrittenPoem

Courgette wrote: »

Midwife tomorrow where I'll be offered a sweep. I really don't want to agree to this and have explained this to DH but I think he thinks I don't really mean it. I guess I'll also be booked in for induction even though I don't intend to agree to that either, or at least not at T+14. Have been advised by people who know about these things that it's easier to nod your head and agree to everything then refuse consent at the last minute rather than going into battle before you need to. I hate this. I'm quite happy to remain pregnant, this time is far more important to the baby than it is to me, but I hate this feeling of having a deadline

I've only had my booking appointment so far and I've already had my MW telling me that the placenta "starts to pack up at forty weeks" (which as I'm sure you know it doesn't). I've never genuinely gone beyond forty weeks anyway (I did by the scan dates but I knew they were wrong and the large amount of vernix confirmed it) so not sure why she is trying to scaremonger me anyway.

MiffyMoo_2

I screamed like a witch when in labour with DD. Completely uncontrollable. I guess if you have an epi you don't feel the pain and therefore don't scream. I think I'm going to trya nd go natural again with this baby, and hopefully I know what to expect and not scream so much. And have a super fast delivery like MV

Actually, I'm reading a fab book on my Kindle at the mo. Ina May's Guide to Natural Childbirth I think it's called. It's American but written by a midwife. It's 50% natural birth stories and 50% discussion on the actual process of labour. Very informative.

MV - How is Lola getting on? And DS? Hope you are good x

If anyone is looking for a car seat base for their Maxi-Cosi, the Easybase 2 has just been reduced to £53 on Amazon. I've had it sat in my basket for ages waiting for it to reduce, so grabbed it quick today.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Maxi-Cosi-EasyBase-Car-Seat-Base/dp/B002S52XK0/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1377200017&sr=8-1&keywords=maxi+cosi+easybase2

This is the non isofix base. the base is secured with the seat belt.

dizziblonde

BeNiceToMySelf wrote: »

apparently making a very loud sound is something all women do just as baby arrives and everything is fully opening! I don't hold out much hope for me being quiet.

I didn't yell at all with Robyn - she came so quickly - from "you're not in labour" - through waters breaking and me thinking I'd better take my jeans off to her arriving was under 15 minutes - just zoned out on the gas and air and focused on what I was being told to do. Just had an "oh heck I've had her - flipping heck that was easy" moment at the end of it all (followed by the whole skin to skin and wondering how long was a decent amount of time before I could get a nappy on her before she pooed on me dilemma).